Marriage Unfiltered

When you are called to obedience, you will be challenged to be obedient in the most difficult times. God is using that time to cultivate fruit in you, if you notice this, be still and obey. We all need good friends to call us out when they see us struggling to obey. We are grateful to the Fields for walking with us and reminding us what it means to obey. You will be encouraged, challenged, and ins...

Type 1 goes to 7 in health and 4 in stress Type 2 goes to 4 in health and 8 in stress Type 3 goes to  6 in health and 9 in stress Type 4 goes to 1 in health and 2 in stress Type 5 goes to 8 in health and 7 in stress Type 6 goes to 9 in health and 3 in stress Type 7 goes to 5 in health and 1 in stress Type 8 goes to 2 in health and 5 in stress Type 9 goes to 3 in health and 6 in stress We can all l...

This week, Lisa and Jeff go rogue again and hit the road! We traveled all the way to Fort Collins Colorado to interview Lisa's Sister and her husband. Eric and Cassy Reeves are a type 1 and 9 respectively. We would like to say sparks fly in this episode, but it is hard for a type 9 to allow sparks to fly...especially if it involves conflict. We had such a beautiful and insightful conversation with...

Tom and Susan Knittle will just bless you with their insight on marriage after 36 years. Empty nesters, parents of 4 sons, and a couple restored, the Knittles are a 3 and 8. This is a powerful combination and we know you will be challenged and encouraged by this conversation. Enneagram 3: Successful achiever/ Performer Enneagram 8: Challenger We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Or on...

Type 4 is the Romantic Individualist Type 5 is the Investigative Thinker This week we bring back a guest couple from our talk about adoption November of 2023, Eric and Holli Kounce. We know you will be challenged and encouraged by this insightful conversation. We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Or on Instagram at Marriage_ Infiltered _Podcast We hope to hear from you!   Marriag...

We will dig deeper into numbers 6, 7, and 8 since those numbers are represented by Bryan, Lisa and Jeff. Can you relate to anything we say about a number? We advise all who use the enneagram to use it as a tool to view through the lens of the Gospel. You can find arguments from all angles, so just pray about what God would ask of you when it comes to using any tool, symbol, teaching, book, etc. Lo...

Should Christians use the Enneagram? Do your own research please! We advise all who use the enneagram to use it as a tool to view through the lens of the Gospel. You can find arguments from all angles, so just pray about what God would ask of you when it comes to using any tool, symbol, teaching, book, etc. Moral Perfectionist/Reformer Supportive Adviser/Helper Successful Achiever Romantic Individ...

Enneagram The Greek word Ennea means 9 and Gram means points. The picture we often see drawn out is a 9 pointed star as a visual way for us to see each type and their tendencies. References and resources: Relate Better Enneacast Podcast, Enneagram and Marriage Podcast with Christa Hardin, MA, Becoming Us by Your Enneagram Coach Beth McCord. Gut Triad: 8 - 9 - 1 Heart: 2 - 3 - 4 Head: 5 - 6 - 7 @mi...

John 15 The Vine and the Branches “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. Every branch in me that does not produce fruit he removes, and he prunes every branch that produces fruit so that it will produce more fruit. What does it mean to you do "Abide"?  What obedience is God calling you to right now? We would love to hear from you. We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Or o...

The Israelites wandered in the desert because they never could FULLY obey.  God tells us that He will be with us no matter what, but he also tells us to obey His Commands. What happens when we are not fully obedient to the things God commands of us? How does obedience to God apply to marriage? We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Or on Instagram at Marriage_ Infiltered _Podcast We hop...

We get in trouble when our expectations are: Unknown-We may not be aware of the expectations we have, but we all have them. Even if we feel we do not, we have expectations about others having expectations. Unreasonable-Sometimes we feel we would like things a certain way, but just because that is what we expect doesn't mean, it is reasonable. Unexpressed-How can our spouse possibly know our expect...

"Faith over Fear" can be one of those sayings that tends to get watered down by people with good intentions. What the Bible says about fear and how to defeat it is more than faith. We spend some time detangling Valentines and judging those of you who claim to hate it. But then we get down to a conversation about fear.  We hope to challenge you to be vulnerable first with God about what your fears...

Thank you Amber for giving us the idea for this episode. The four of us sit down to discuss ways that we have had to purge in our lives because we did not recognize the need to keep pruning.  John 15:1 - “ I am the true vine , and My Father i s the vine dresser. Every branch i n Me that does not bear fruit, He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit, He prunes i t so that i t may bear more f...

This week we talked about a lot of things, as usual. But here are the sources for some of the specific things we mentioned. "The Bible Recap" with Tara-Leigh Cobble. Go to this link to learn more. The Bible Recap "The Power to Change" by Craig Groeschel. Go to this link to learn more. The Power to Change Learn more about the movie "The Forge" The Forge Movie The Quote from CS Lewis. From a letter...

Where are you discontent? What is the remedy to discontentment? Join us as we talk about finding contentment in your marriage and in your life this Holiday season. We will also talk about where Christmas Romance movies are accurate and inaccurate when it comes to real life love stories. We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Or on Instagram at Marriage_Infiltered_Podcast We hope to hear...

Book: Swipe Right by Levi Lusko Giving 50/50 adapted from Brene Brown   We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Or on Instagram at Marriage_ Infiltered _Podcast We hope to hear from you!   Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters and the Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship in Midland, TX

More about the miracle at Dunkirk: https://canonjjohn.com/2017/07/17/national-day-of-prayer-during-dunkirk-1940/ More about Mental Load/Invisible Labor: https://susanhyatt.co/the-invisible-workload-of-women/ https://therapybrands.com/blog/the-shift-that-never-ends-the-mental-load-of-invisible-work/ https://www.spacestherapyla.com/blog/the-invisible-mental-load-the-unseen-weight-held-by-women More...

When our priorities are out of order, we can see the results in all areas of our life. When we do not communicate priorities with our spouse, we can find ourselves at whits end in our marriage.  This week, we talk about the ways our priorities get out of alignment and how that affects us.  Scripture used this week: Matthew 6:33 Ephesians 5:25 Proverbs 22:6 Make sure and like, subscribe and share!...

Pride: Puts self first  Humility: Puts Spouse first Phil. 2:3-4 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.  Ecclesiastes 2:4-11 The Emptiness of Possessions 4 I increased my achievements. I built houses and planted vineyards for myself. 5 I...

Are we tearing our spouse down? What does it look like to champion them? It is really hard to take a turn and choose to speak life into our spouse, but once you gain the courage, you will see God's blessing on your marriage. We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Or on Instagram at Marriage_Infiltered_Podcast We hope to hear from you!   Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast host...

We hit it hard with this one. At the cost of offending others, we are to love. What does that look like. How does it affect our marriage when we love those who others deem unlovable? We dive in deep from the very beginning of season 4. SEASON 4?!?!?! How can that be? We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Or on Instagram at Marriage_ Infiltered _Podcast We hope to hear from you!  ...

We have taken a little hayatis this summer, but we drop in to share something on our hearts and catch up a little. Can you even ever really change your spouse? What if we said you are focusing on the wrong person? We hope this episode will challenge you to focus on Jesus and trust him with your spouse. We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Or on Instagram at Marriage_ Infiltered _Podca...

This episode reveals a lot about the things we are all learning about and how God is growing us. There are lots of things that come along as a distraction or even wrench in the works. Kids, In-laws or midlife crisis. As we enter our mid to late 40's what are we turning to to make us feel like our lives mean something? I know we are all over the map on this one, but we have all grown so much over o...

Shame is a nasty manipulator. Shame can destroy us, ruin our marriage and break apart our home. What a powerful episode this week! Share it with your friends! Share it on social media! Reach out to us if you would like to further the discussion about preventing and healing from shame.  Jump out of that shame cycle through Christ's forgiveness and live a truly free life! EMDR= Eye Movement Desensit...

The Fields and the Carters are never short on real life examples of what resolving conflict looks like. This week, we will share some powerful tools  for communicating effectively and resolving conflict in a healthy way. Take lots of notes and share with your friends. Reach out and share your thoughts or requests for new topics. marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com Instagram @marriage_ unfiltered _podcast...