Marriage is a Joke

Have you ever gone to bed exhausted…not because of everything you did, but because of everything you had to think about? The appointments. The groceries. The school forms. The family calendar. The birthday gifts. The emotional health of the kids. Planning ahead. Remembering the little things. Worrying about the big things. Research suggests that many wives carry a larger share of the invisible men...

What is it about vacations that can turn loving couples into exhausted enemies in matching T-shirts? In this episode of Marriage is a Joke, we unpack why travel can bring out the BEST… and WORST… in marriage. From airport stress and different vacation expectations to overstimulation, spending tension, and “vacation versions” of ourselves showing up, we’re talking about the real reasons couples fig...

❤️💙Life hit us hard. We almost lost a parent and everything else just paused. The podcast. Our routines. Even parts of how we normally show up for each other. And it made us ask something real: What actually happens to a marriage when life falls apart? Do you pull away… Keep score… Feel disconnected… Or do you lean in…even when you’re exhausted? In this episode, we talk about: ❤️ 💙What this seas...

Join Abe and Elaine this Christmas as we give mistletoe a deeper meaning than just holiday décor. Historically, mistletoe stayed green when everything around it died back in winter, which made it a symbol of hope, renewal, and connection. Over time it became a reminder to pause, soften, share a kiss, and come close. This year we’re practicing mistletoe moments! ❤️ Tiny Pauses throughout the season...

Join Abe and Elaine as they dive into Gottman’s final principle for making marriage work: Shared Meaning. This episode explores what your marriage stands for ….beyond chores, communication, or conflict. They’ll talk about how every couple needs to define the philosophy of their marriage:  • What do we value?  • What traditions matter to us?  • How do we see parenting, politics, faith, or family ro...

💙❤️Tired of having the SAME fight over and over again?? Tune in as Abe and Elaine discuss gridlock issues. This episode covers:  🎯 Why 69% of conflicts in marriage are perpetual 🎯 How to uncover the dreams hiding under the drama 🎯 The 4 Gottman steps to get unstuck (without selling your soul to the thermostat war) 🎯 A real-life example from one couple  Whether it’s in-laws, money, chores, or...

Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss emotional responsiveness in marriage. Sue Johnson, founder of EFT, found in her research that behind the tears in all marital conflict is the question we all yearn to know. ARE YOU THERE FOR ME? (A.R.E) Essentially we are all asking are you A- accessible, R- responsive, and E- engaged in this marriage or relationship? Of course Elaine and Abe put some fun spins...

Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss Gottman’s Principle #5 called “Solving Your Solvable Problems.” Conflict in marriage is inevitable! Thriving couples still have conflict. The Gottman research team has found that couples tend to have both Solvable and Gridlock problems. In this episode, Abe and Elaine go over the Gottman’s top tips of how to solve these solvable problems. Elaine and Abe are hone...

Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss an interesting (but a little weird ) study about tears. 😢😢How crying becomes a natural way to slow down the intensity and anger in marital conflict. Link to check out the study:  https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sniffing-womens-tears-makes-men-less-aggressive/  ( https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sniffing-womens-tears-makes-men-less-aggressi...

Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss this awesome principle from the Gottman research! We never want to control each other in marriage. This creates a parent- child like relationship. However, our feelings and thoughts should INFLUENCE our partner’s decisions. Warning for Wives: Sadly, to Elaine’s chagrin …this episode led to Abe’s visions of buying a motorcycle! Become a supporter of this podcast:...

Are you guilty of making the holidays all about your kids?? Don’t forget to celebrate your marriage and get a little Naughty or Nice! This short but sweet episode will get you into the mood of making sure your marriage gets the attention it deserves this Christmas. Watch out for that naughty Santa! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/marriage-is-a-joke--5661497/sup...

Did you know that men are socialized in our culture to repress certain emotions? As a result, this can lead to isolation, depression, and frustration in marriage. It's important that all men and boys know it's healthy for them to widen their range of emotions. It's also okay to express strength and toughness too! Join Abe and Elaine for a great discussion on the male psyche and how it manifests in...

Looking to keep your marriage thriving? 👫💖 Want to maintain that deep connection you felt when you first met? You might be surprised to learn that the secret isn't grand gestures or luxury gifts 🎁🎀, but rather in the day-to-day moments we often overlook 📆💡. Join us in our latest episode 🎧 as we delve into Gottman's insightful Third Principle, "Turn Toward Your Spouse" 💑💕. Discover how foc...

🎙️ Introducing our latest episode with special guests Pastor Scott and Jenny Treadway! 🌟 Get ready for a marriage advice session like no other! 💕 This isn't your typical pastor interview – be prepared for an exciting, laughter-filled conversation as Scott and Jenny spill the secrets behind their successful 30-year marriage! 💑 Discover how to safeguard your marriage during tough times, the art o...

Do you ever feel like enemies in your marriage? Do you get to a place where you feel lost or it becomes “you” against you against “them”?Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss the importance of securing a home base. What’s a home base? It’s that space in your marriage where you feel safe. There is a sense of peace. You speak in softer tones. You are vulnerable. You feel seen and accepted as yourself....

Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss nurturing your fondness and admiration and what the heck that is! According to the research at the Gottman Institute every couple needs to nurture what they are fond of and what they appreciate in their spouse. This is the second principal in their book The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by, Gottman. Special guest appearance of Billy Bob Thornton fr...

#4 The Twelve Bids of Christmas! Guess what always gets put on the back burner at the holidays? Your marriage! Take time this holiday to make “bids” for connection with your spouse. Listen to Abe and Elaine discuss what bids are and fun ones during the holidays. Excuse Abe’s mind…sex always on the brain! The Attitude Dance for your Gratitude Walk: Tower of Power - Attitude Dance - 1991 Become a su...

Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss your Love Map! According to the research at the Gottman Institute every couple needs a rich, detailed Love Map of their partner’s heart. This is the first principal in their book The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by, Gottman. It’s so important to have this map especially if you are dating Bruce Wayne(aka: Batman). Listen to hear why! The Seven Prin...

In a rut with your date night? Join Abe and Elaine as they talk about several rut-buster dates! Staying creative with date night is so important to marriages. This episode is sure to keep you laughing and give you some creative date ideas. Online Cooking Class: 100pleats.com (Yes! Elaine was right) Chocolate Tasting Date Kits: Green & Black's Organic Tasting Collection 395G https://a.co/d/coUJbVT...

We all know why marriage is hard! So let’s take a minute to focus on what is awesome about marriage. Grab your love, a drink and laugh with Elaine and Abe about what they love about being married. Message them on instagram www.instagram/marriage.isajoke to tell them what’s awesome about your marriage! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/marriage-is-a-joke--5661497/...

Welcome! Checkout our intro on what our podcast is about and meet your Hosts Elaine and Abe Romero. Oh yeah... and have a few laughs. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/marriage-is-a-joke--5661497/support . 🎧 Marriage is a Joke Podcast Real talk. Real marriage. No filters. Where humor meets hard truths—and love shows up even when life gets messy. If this episode...