Marriage and Martinis

New York Times' Bestselling author, Jancee Dunn, joins Danielle and Adam to discuss her ideas about "The Mental Load" and how her marriage almost ended after the birth of her first child. Using "escapism" to deal with an overwhelming and stressful situation, Jancee's husband left her with the bulk of the parenting responsibilities from day one, causing an enormous amount of friction to occur withi...

It's been over twenty years since Danielle and Adam were in the dating game. They asked millennial reality star (Bravo's "Summer House") and stand-up comic, Hannah Berner, to fill them in on everything they're missing. Danielle and Adam quickly find out they are way too old, exhausted, and lame to partake in the single lifestyle of today. Hannah very patiently explains apps like Tinder and Hinge,...

These days it can be overwhelming to figure out exactly what terms like "self-care" and "wellness" actually mean. Do self-care and health have to align? Has the wellness industry gotten completely out of hand? What are Adam and Danielle's thoughts about incorporating self-care into their everyday lives? What "wellness" products has Danielle bought over the years that Adam has thought were complete...

Danielle and Adam delve more deeply into their discussion with their special guests (Danielle's parents) during this episode, including a lightening round of listener questions. How was Linda so confident with her laid back parenting style? What was her parenting philosophy when she took Danielle to see an R rated movie at three years old? What does Danielle still remember her mom telling her abou...

Danielle and Adam are so excited to bring you this special episode (the first of two parts), with Danielle's parents, who have been married almost 55 years. Starting at the very beginning, they discuss dating in the late 1950s and how much different it was (do they wish Tinder had been around then?). Going steady, "pinning" ceremonies, and getting married while still in college are all things so m...

"A Marriage Story" is up for tons of awards this year, including best picture. Adam and Danielle wanted to release a bonus episode discussing the movie because it delves into a process so seldom seen and dissected. Whether or not a person loves the movie, it definitely offers a ton of interesting details concerning why so many couples enter into a separation with good intentions and the desire to...

Everything surrounding divorce and blending families can be messy, chaotic, and traumatic for everyone involved if people don't know the healthiest ways to go about this process. Naja Hall is a leading coach, mentor, and podcaster whose goal is to help families through these transitions in the smoothest way possible. She talks to Danielle all about the negative stigmas associated with being steppa...

Janet Allison is a teacher, mentor, coach and advocate who has made it her life's mission to help boys reach their full potential with the support of parents and teachers. We talk all about communication, shame, gender roles, ensuring boys are active participants in their own households one day and so much more. Whether you're raising boys inside your own home or are an influence in the life of yo...

This week, Danielle and Adam are breaking down all things vasectomy related. From stats about vasectomies to the reason why Danielle still wanted Adam to get a vasectomy even though she was going in for a c-section and could have gotten her tubes tied simultaneously. Why are men oftentimes so hesitant about getting the procedure done? Is it really reversible? What were Adam's pre-conceived notions...

Birth control isn't something often discussed in conversation in adulthood. But it is a topic which so many of us have had so many different, as well as similar experiences: from the first time we saw or bought condoms, to how the pill affects our or our partner's physical and mental well being, to the decision of what birth control to use once in a longterm relationship. In this episode, Danielle...

2019 will go down as one of the hardest and most volatile for Adam and Danielle. It was 12 long months of hashing and re-hashing out a whole lot of issues concerning finance, dishonestly, resentment, and misunderstanding. While it definitely all got tedious at times, it also was all very necessary to put them in the direction in which they now seem to be heading. The two of them discuss what mista...

In the midst of all the holiday madness, we all need to take a minute and just laugh and de-compress. That's why Danielle and Adam thought it was a perfect week to put out a mindless, fun, and funny episode with no deep thinking necessary. Of course things get a little out of hand, and they reveal too much. This episode is definitely not for the easily offended, and if you want to wait to listen w...

After the overwhelming response to their first episode with Jodie Utter from last February, Danielle and Adam finally had the chance to continue their conversation with her. Where is she now in her journey of healing and forgiveness after her husband's infidelity? Is she able to trust again? How does she deal with the inevitable feelings of pain that come flooding back at any given moment? Is self...

As the new year approaches, let's make some resolutions that will really change our lives for the better: getting just a little bit braver talking to our partners about our sexual needs and desires. Danielle and Adam continue their conversation with sexual communications coach, Leah, all about how couples can handle differing libidos, exhaustion, lack of orgasms, the need for sexual touch througho...

In theory, the holidays are an amazing time of year and should feel completely magical. In reality, there are a thousand tasks to get done, anxiety levels are heightened, family time can be overwhelming, and it's all expensive AF. Life coach Amy sits down with Adam and Danielle to discuss ways that we can ensure that this year will be more enjoyable for everyone. Being more intentional with our ti...

The founders of Grown and Flown took time out of their book tour to talk to Danielle all about raising kids and young adults between the ages of 14 and 25. Danielle asks them how we can gauge when we are giving them too much independence or not enough, how to deal with teens who no longer want to spend time with the family during events and activities, if we should really be driving their forgotte...

Last weekend Danielle went to see Glennon Doyle live in NYC, and during the show, writer and activist, Glennon, said something that was a gut punch to Danielle. She was talking about how one day when she was in her former marriage, she looked around and said,  "Isn't it all supposed to be more beautiful than this."  It was this phrase that initiated Danielle's idea for her and Adam to ch...

Danielle and Adam have always been very honest that finance has been a big source of stress in their relationship. They've had periods of feeling like they were in a really good place concerning money, and times when it has been a complete disaster. This episode, unlike the other finance episodes they had a few months ago, are not with experts giving advice, but rather, just their personal experie...

Mom shamers unite - and leave....no one wants you here. Danielle and our guest host Tara Clark (aka @modernmomprobs) are talking all things mom shaming. They discuss personal experiences in real life and in the virtual world, and why we need to stop asking people when they’re having kids. These ladies touch on everything from breastfeeding to screaming kids on airplanes, and the time when Danielle...

Danielle and Adam are joined by actual Millennial, Sarah Merrill (also know on Instagram as @bigkidproblems), who is currently in the midst of planning her own wedding. The three of them discuss the differences that naturally arise when getting married at age 24 verses age 32, how weddings have changed since Danielle and Adam were planning theirs 18 years ago, how technology has completely reconst...

It's incredible how the roles and careers we choose to partake in as adults turn out to be nothing like we expected, and how little we were warned what is truly involved in life at work and at home. In this episode, Danielle discusses how shocking it is that being a stay-at-home-mom is not at all how she pictured it, and she's constantly feeling like a failure because she's terrible at the aspects...

Miriam Kirmayer is a therapist, writer, speaker, and relationship expert who has spent the last decade researching young adult friendships. Her work focuses on helping others navigate life transitions, achieve their goals, and build stronger relationships with the people who matter most. A leading voice in the media, her words and advice have appeared in outlets such as The Atlantic, Forbes, The N...

Relationship experts will tell you it's the little things partners do for each other that actually wind up going the longest way in a marriage. Big, elaborate gifts are meaningful in their own way, but we need to concentrate on the small moments and favors that help show each other that we are actively thinking about the other person. Danielle and Adam discuss everything from choreplay to complime...

Kim Cavill is a sex educator and host of the podcast “Six Minute Sex Ed,” meant to help start the conversation between parents and kids about all things sex and sexuality related. As a sex-positive parent, she is attempting to get rid of the shame that surrounds the teachings of sex that currently exist in schools today. We discuss age-appropriate conversations no matter how old your kids are...

Most people know about Alexis Haines from her role in the notorious group of teenagers who robbed over 3 million dollars in cash and possessions from the houses of Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, Orlando Bloom and more. She also starred in the E! network reality show, "Pretty Wild." We sat down with Alexis to talk all about this out-of-control time in her life when she was addicted to heroin, was dea...