Marriage and Martinis

*TRIGGER WARNING: Talk of addiction and being the spouse of an addict. Adam and Danielle have experienced both sides of gambling: the fun, exciting side, when winning is an adrenaline rush and getting caught up in the moment feels incredibly fun and exhilarating. But they've also experienced the much more negative aspects of gambling and what can happen when that feeling becomes an escape that sta...

Over the past few decades, there has been a lot more openness about the fact that monogamy is not the only type of lifestyle for couples. Polyamory, open marriage, swinging and other options are making some partners wonder if any of these experiences are right for them. In this episode, Danielle and Adam discuss how their upbringing formed their understanding and opinions about monogamy. They disc...

 Adam and Danielle continue their Los Angeles adventure by traveling to "The Valley" to meet Erica and Jamilah from the podcast, "Good Moms, Bad Choices." After realizing very quickly that it was fate for the four of them to meet, the conversation got extremely comfortable and there were pretty much no inhibitions about anything. Thus begins the discussion about everything from Danielle's las...

Adam and Danielle sit down with Jodie Sweetin and Celia Behar, BFF's from the Never Thought I'd Say This podcast. The four talk all things friendship, including how these two women met and formed a lifetime bond via social media, how our value of friendship in our lives has changed over the years, how friendship differs for men than for women, and whether or not it's ok for a significant other to...

While maybe not every single person feels like they've lost some of who they were before they got married and had kids, a good amount of people seem to agree that in order to gain part of ourselves through parenthood, we sacrifice a large part of our former identity. Passions, dreams, and talents get put on the back burner in order to take care of those around us, and it becomes apparent that we a...

Back to school can be such a stressful time for parents and kids when motivation is a struggle and there's enormous pressure in school and extracurriculars. Homework, catching the bus on time, study skills and organization are all things we discuss in this helpful and insightful episode. Fortunately, humans continue developing executive function skills far into their twenties, so there's hope and...

Rachel Sobel of the blog Whine and Cheez Its is talking all things co-parenting, blended families, and finding happiness after divorce. What was it like dating again while having a young daughter? What have been the challenges of remarrying and how has she dealt with those hurdles? What advice does she have for others going through a similar situation? How did she know when it was time to end her...

When was the last time you came up with some new ideas to spice up the romance and intimacy in your relationship? Adam and Danielle decided it was time to take things to the next level after 17 years of marriage, and let's just say the conversation and topics become more than either of them can really handle. Listeners can only imagine where this conversation goes, and let's just say it's not for...

Jamie Lynn Sigler and Jenna Parris of the "Mama Said" podcast talk with Adam and Danielle about things we're no longer giving a f*ck about and how we're saying no to things for the first time since becoming parents. It's empowering to finally prioritize everything in our lives rather than feel like we need to say yes to everything. Adam gives the guy's perspective on canceling because we just can'...

In one of their most vulnerable episodes yet, Danielle and Adam discuss a time when Danielle’s OCD was so debilitating that she could not leave the house, make phone calls or hold a job. Unable to understand that was happening, Adam couldn’t give her the help she so desperately needed. The two of them also discuss medication, the complications of being a spouse or being married to a spouse with me...

Nick He was born and raised in China in an extremely traditional home and community that never discussed sexuality. So when he thought he might be attracted to men, he assumed he must be diseased and broken. We talk to him about his journey from China to America, where he put himself in numerous dangerous situations looking for love on Craig's List, coming out to his parents, and ultimately findin...

Boundaries are something that most therapists say are healthy within a relationship. What small boundaries do you and your spouse  have with one another? What bigger boundaries? Danielle and Adam both admit that they struggle with boundaries on different levels, and it has definitely affected their relationship and their lives. What line did Adam cross on 4th of July that inspired the id...

Marriage expert Liz from the #1 relationship app, Lasting, is back answering all our questions about trust, including is ok to track your partner? Should you be able to check their social media? How do you truly regain a partner's trust? And giving insight about how to have those awkward conversations about sex. She gives so much great information, and it was so awesome to get a professional persp...

Throughout society, there seems to be this unanimous ideal of achieving an overall "happy" life. But, what does this mean and how do we get there? How much control do we really have over our emotional state and is it possible to change all of that even as adults? Life coach Amy is back again to give us ideas, exercises and the knowledge we need to become more fulfilled. As always, the conversation...

Marriage and Martinis launched one year ago, and the past year has been an absolute rollercoaster ride and adventure. What started as a small idea that seemed somewhat unrealistic to Danielle and Adam has turned into more than they could have hoped or imagined. In this episode, they discuss what they've learned about themselves, life, and each other. Coincidentally, this past year has also been on...

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A lot has happened in the lives of Danielle and Adam this past year that has made them totally re-evaluate the idea of what it truly means to feel and be successful. How much do success and wealth overlap? Whom do each of them deem to be truly successful and inspiring? What makes a successful marriage and do they consider their own marriage to be an example of one? What do they not want their kids...

Doyin Richards is an in demand keynote speaker who goes all around the country discussing modern day fatherhood, how to deal with toxic masculinity, and highlighting what being an involved dad really looks like in today's society. He talks to Danielle and Adam about his experience as a black dad raising two multiracial daughters, why wives need take a step back and let husbands help in their own w...

 Leah Carey is back by popular demand answering listener questions about dry spells, incompatible sexual preferences between partners, and how to achieve a bit more body confidence in the bedroom. Also, we follow up the “when I’m done I’m done” statement Adam so infamously made in the first sexual communications episode (April 5th). Join us in this fun, important conversation concerning how w...

How do we balance our need for safety in our relationship with our need to indulge our wild side? What happens when one person starts to overindulge and the other one has to pick up the pieces? The struggle between these two necessities can be exhausting, and finding a balance is an ongoing process. Danielle and Adam break down the dichotomy and the steps they’re currently taking to get back on tr...

We're delving deeper into this idea of "the mental load." Darcy Lockman is a psychologist who researched the myth of 50/50 partnerships between moms and dads, and why it's taking so long for us to finally find an equal ground concerning parenting and household responsibilities. What were Darcy's findings? What did the hundreds of couples she interviewed reveal about their situations? How can we br...

Danielle and Adam have been co-habitating for almost 20 years. It's no surprise then that there are a bunch of habits they each have that really annoy each other to no end. For the second time on the podcast (the first time was way back on their second episode!) they duke it out about messiness, forgetfulness, dishes, mail, and so many other habits. Do they both come out of the episode alive? List...

After reading the book, The Polyamorists Next Door, Danielle was so interested in the topic that she asked the author and polyamory expert, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, to come on the podcast to teach them about a lifestyle which they knew very little. Not to be confused with Polygamy, Polyamory is the act of being open to having more than one consenting relationship, and any gender can partake in having...

Are our expectations for ourselves, our partners, and those around us too high? Are we setting ourselves up for failure? Is social media causing us all to feel we pale by comparison? Adam and Danielle discuss all of this, how their own upbringings has influenced their set of expectations, and what our expectations for our own kids are. Maybe if we can start figuring out a way to appreciate for wha...