Marriage and Martinis

First off, Danielle and Adam have come a long way since they recorded the first episode about the Mental Load almost two years ago. However, the progress has definitely been incremental, and they still have work to do. What starts out as a calm conversation quickly turns defensive and competitive as they list off responsibilities, stresses, emotional tolls, and physical hardships they each endure...

After the overwhelming response to their first episode with Jodie Utter from last February, Danielle and Adam finally had the chance to continue their conversation with her. Where is she now in her journey of healing and forgiveness after her husband's infidelity? Is she able to trust again? How does she deal with the inevitable feelings of pain that come flooding back at any given moment? Is self...

One of the most common messages Danielle and Adam receive from listeners is that they and their partner mismatched libidos. Truthfully, 80% of couples experience one partner having a higher libido than the other. We all think that we're the only ones struggling with this, and we tend to take it personally when our partner isn't in the mood as often (or ever). But there are so many misconceptions a...

We are taught from a young age that doing for others is what makes us good, generous people. We are conditioned to say "yes" even when we're faced with something we really don't want to do. Obhave overtaken so many of our lives, that we have run out of time to do the things that truly matter to us. Our dreams and goals have been put on hold. But HOW do we say no? What's holding us back and how can...

Adam and Danielle have had some week, between Adam working 24/7 and the kids being off from school and trapped in the house due to snow. Let's just say there wasn't a ton of prep time for this episode, but sometimes being unprepared can lead to some serious laughs and unplanned hilarity. That is exactly what happens in this episode. Adam and Danielle start off with some innocent conversation about...

Danielle and Adam could have kept talking to Bryde and twelve hours. They had so much to ask them, and the conversation just kept evolving and branching off into so many different directions. They discuss being a poly couple who is very curious, adventurous, and open-minded. What was their journey from monogamy to polyamory? How have they kept their jealousy in check? How has Jeremie's chronic ill...

Note: This is episode is just two people sitting down to try to get acquainted with kinks and fetishes. This episode will be followed up by several others with experts as well as couples who are already immersed in the kink culture. Adam and Danielle are open about the fact that they sometimes participate in kink-adjacent activities. However, there is a whole world out there about which they know...

So many of us are feeling like we have hit the "pandemic wall." We're exhausted, emotionally drained, and we're surrounded by our kids 24/7. Living in sweatpants and never getting a proper date night can definitely take its toll on romance, and at the end of the day, we just want to fall into bed and not be bothered. Sex and intimacy coach Leah Carey helps Danielle and Adam understand what baby st...

(SKIP AHEAD TO 17:45 TO HEAR JUST THE ADVICE PORTION OF THE EPISODE) If there's one thing Adam and Danielle make very clear all the time, it's that they are not experts in pretty much anything. However, on this episode, Adam and Danielle first discuss their own history with therapy, and then they take a chance and answer listeners questions about certain issues with marriage and life. Using their...

This year has been such insanity that there really is no way to even explain it. However, Danielle and Adam sit down to dissect and discuss it all in the style of which only the two of them are really capable. After 12 months of sheer chaos, we're all feeling emotionally and physically depleted. But that doesn't mean there aren't plenty of laughs to be had when we really think about how inexplicab...

Original Airdate: October 21, 2019 It's incredible how the roles and careers we choose to partake in as adults turn out to be nothing like we expected, and how little we were warned what is truly involved in life at work and at home. In this episode, Danielle discusses how shocking it is that being a stay-at-home-mom is not at all how she pictured it, and she's constantly feeling like a failure be...

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses alcohol and other substances. If this is a topic that is sensitive or triggering to you, please skip this one. Adam and Danielle both have a history with indulgence, and sometimes can tip the scale to the excess when it comes to having a good time and living life to the fullest. This episode explores the unhealthy behaviors in which so many of us partake, be...

Not only are we almost ten months into a pandemic (and 82% of our community said they're definitely facing pandemic fatigue), but we are about the go into the holiday season, causing even more stress and pressure. How can we keep our dwindling energy up to get through what feels like is about to be a very tough winter? How can we practice self-compassion? How can we keep our family on board with s...

In this fun episode, Adam and Danielle discuss all the ridiculous decisions they've made over the years, as individuals, as parents, and as husband and wife. Recently, Danielle has been using the excuse, "but it's a pandemic," to rationalize some crazy behavior and over-indulgence. They also discuss the insanely young age Danielle first started smoking, how Adam risked his life multiple times hitc...

Following up on Mia's episode on unconditional acceptance, Danielle and Adam got a lot of requests for an episode with just the two of them discussing what unconditional acceptance means to them. Danielle gets vulnerable discussing what she felt she was maybe not so accepted about while growing up and even today. The two discuss if there is anything their children could do to make them not accept...

Danielle and Adam are taking you back to when it all first started: meeting, re-meeting, wedding planning, those first few years of marriage, and everything in between. Anyone engaged or newly married will definitely want to hear this episode. Anyone who was married at a younger age will understand how there are so many aspects of their wedding that they would do so differently now. Why was Daniel...

Dana Suchow is an eating disorder survivor, and an award-winning speaker and body empowerment coach. Her goal is to teach parents how to raise kids to have a healthy, balanced relationship with food and exercise. In this episode, Dana tells her personal story of overcoming her trauma concerning food and her body image, and reflects on how diet culture has completely manipulated parents and kids in...

Gary John Bishop, bestselling author of "Unf*ck Yourself," talks all about his unique philosophy and why we are the only ones standing in the way of us and what we want. What does it mean to be "wise as f*ck?" How did he learn to REALLY love the people in his life unconditionally? What can we do to really start living as our authentic selves? Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback...

This episode is by far one of the most personal and vulnerable of the Marriage and Martinis podcast yet. In this special episode, Adam and Danielle's oldest child, 15-year-old Mia Silverstein comes on to discuss her experience grappling with sexual identity, and what she wants kids and parents everywhere to know about self, family, and social acceptance as someone in the LGBTQ community. What was...

Callie and Jeff are fellow married podcasters, and they are about to have their first baby. Adam has a blast "initiating" Jeff into the world of parenthood with stories of "choose your own adventure"c-sections and instilling a good, healthy fear of living without sleep. Callie and Danielle share their stories about being on anxiety medication during pregnancy, decisions to bottle or breast feed, a...

Danielle and Adam cover a lot of different conversations in this episode that just happened to flow really freely. What happened when Danielle planned an overnight date night for the two of them but then got angry with Adam? What did Adam reveal about why he was being so short-tempered and irritable all week? What did they do on their date night that they have never done before? How does Danielle...

Eve Rodsky has committed her life to help couples achieve a happier and more fulfilling life as partners tackling the domestic and household responsibilities. Not only did she interview hundreds of couples and research for years about the stress of "the mental load," but she has come up with real solutions. Especially now, during the pandemic, moms are feeling the overwhelming stress of home, work...

Denmark consistently ranks in the top three countries in regards to happiness and fulfillment among its residents. Danielle speaks to distinguished writer and psychoanalyst Iben Sandahl about what they're doing differently from other countries, and what we can learn and implement into our own daily parenting in an attempt to achieve some of this same positivity. In this informative episode, they t...

New home, new school year, new attitudes?? Adam and Danielle discuss how they would like to do things differently this time around financially, as parents, and as individuals. How does Danielle think she needs to change her attitude concerning difficult circumstances? What are they hoping to achieve concerning their relationship now that they are attempting to "start fresh?" What does Danielle hop...

Danielle and Adam have been very honest about their issues with mental health, ADHD, and addiction. But what else in life do they feel has held them back? What experience did Danielle have in college that still affects her to this day? What does Adam think has been his biggest hurdle in terms of buckling down and really taking care of responsibilities? How has the pandemic only made everything eve...