Marriage and Martinis

Danielle is admittedly horrible when it comes to stuff like thank you notes and RSVPing. Adam has impeccable bathroom etiquette and is much better at giving Danielle gifts than she is for him. In this fun episode, the two of them discuss everything from whether or not asking a girl's father for her hand in marriage is outdated, whether or not it's appropriate to make out in the backseat of an Uber...

TRIGGER WARNINGS: In-depth discussion of miscarriage, stillbirth, postpartum, and pregnancy complications. Liz Lehmann is a postpartum doula whose own journey through pregnancies and expanding her family has been one filled with a great deal of struggle, strength, and volatility. She has since used her own experiences to advocate for mothers and make sure women get the support and nurturing they n...

Adam and Danielle sat down and spoke with Tammy, AKA "The Cannabis Cutie" all about the science, myths, taboos, and the future of weed and the growing industry around it. Tammy talks about how she first became so passionate about cannabis, how moms should stop feeling guilty of using cannabis, all the benefits of the plant itself and so much more. Visit Tammy in instagram @thecannabiscutie Purchas...

Their wedding day is not really something about which Adam and Danielle talk very much. In fact, they don't even have a picture from their wedding day anywhere in their house. During this really in depth discussion, the two of them talk about everything from how Danielle rushed Adam into getting engaged, why getting married so young presented some problems for them, how discrepancies about how mon...

Andy Hill was just a regular husband and dad when he started to get really interested in finances and made a commitment to live debt and mortgage free. Fast forward to a few years, when he quit his corporate job and has done what most people think is impossible; made a living as a full time blogger and podcaster helping other people achieve financial freedom just like he and his wife did. Danielle...

** This episode contains some discussion of childhood discipline and parental relationships. Please take care if this is a topic for which is sensitive or triggering for anyone and deciding whether or not this is a good episode for you. Adam and Danielle have just returned from a very long overdue trip, just the two of them. After vacationing in the tropical paradise of Brooklyn, the two are feeli...

During the month of June, Adam worked more hours than he has maybe ever worked. He's been exhausted all month from his job, and Danielle has been exhausted from all of the stuff going on with the kids and household. The feeling of "languishing," that feeling like you just can't seem to enjoy things or make progress in life has been overwhelming for both of them. This is the first conversation the...

TRIGGER WARNINGS: discussions of porn, rough sex, and other sexual acts that might be uncomfortable and/or upsetting for some people. Sara Rosen, AKA "The Kink Therapist," has made it her mission to create shame-free spaces in which people can openly discuss their kinks, fetishes and fantasies no matter how "taboo" society tells us they are. Danielle and Adam ask Sara all about her journey to beco...

Danielle and Dr. Traci Baxley have a candid conversation about everything from interracial marriage, to privilege, to how to handle it when people say, "agree to disagree," about social issues and race. Danielle asks how parents can implement teachings and actions to help their kids become better allies and more conscientious human beings. Have we come as far as we think concerning progress, and w...

Danielle has an absolute blast having girl talk with Tammin and Roxy of the Women on top podcast. She asks Tammin (Pretty Little Liars) and Red Carpet Roxy (Hollywood entertainment host) all about how the standards of Hollywood impact their views on sex, all about their sexual fantasies, and how the pandemic has impacted their sex lives. It's an hour of pure honesty, laughter, and feeling like you...

Danielle and Adam take a fun walk down memory lane talking about everything from their first memories, to what they collected as kids, to stuff their parents did that would get them arrested today. They also discuss what they would like to replicate from the households in which they grew up, and what they're hoping to do differently. What part of the 80s and 90s are they sad that their kids won't...

Last week's Guilt Episode, Revisited, uncovered a lot of questions that had gone unanswered after not talking much about this topic for the past two and a half years. Now, Adam and Danielle are breaking down Adam's feelings, giving advice to couples going through similar situations, and exploring how to trust a partner again after a period of contention. Should a spouse be allowed to go through he...

Laura Tremaine is an avid podcaster, writer, and reader, who has spent several years sharing all aspects of herself with her audience. Danielle wanted to sit down with Laura to discuss her new book, "Share Your Stuff, I'll Go First," because they both have similar feelings about putting it all out there in the name of others feeling less alone. This episode is truly "girl talk" at its best. The wh...

Two-and-a-half years ago, Adam and Danielle put out their most downloaded episode ever, revealing some very personal details of their marriage. To this day, it remains one of the most revealing and vulnerable episodes of any relationship podcast. Now, they're talking about all the ways they've grown and evolved since the release of that episode, and the ways in which they are still affected by tho...

In several podcast episodes, Danielle has been very open about her struggles with OCD since she was diagnosed at 19-years-old. But on today's episode, she and Alegra talk about Obsessive Compulsive disorder in a raw, deep way that can only be done by two people who have suffered from the illness firsthand. Alegra is a therapist and expert in OCD with her own specialized practice in NYC, and runs t...

This might be Danielle and Adam's most vulnerable episode yet. What do they both feel guilt about on a daily basis, and what are the more serious issues that they struggle with concerning feelings of shame? Plus, Adam relives a night when he made one of the most horrible and humiliating mistakes in the history of their relationship. If you're a Marriage and Martinis fan, this is an episode you won...

In the third episode of their series on women's health, Adam and Danielle got a chance to ask Ovia Health specialist Christine Peter all about the different aspects of infertility: the stigmas, misconceptions, and statistics that surround this oftentimes unspoken about struggle. Check out more about Ovia's supportive platforms and FREE apps at https://info.oviahealth.com/marriage Visit this link t...

Danielle often feels so much guilt about the waste that occurs in her household. Over the past year, she's tried taking certain steps to become a bit "greener," but she has way more work to do trying to raise kids who care more about the planet. In this episode, Jessie helps her realize that any steps towards more sustainability is a win, and we don't have to take huge leaps in our changes, but ra...

Danielle had the incredible pleasure of sitting down with her 15-year-old daughter, Mia, and Mia's hero, Autism advocate and wildly popular influencer, Chloe Hayden. Chloe and Mia talk about their own journeys with getting evaluated for Autism, what a diagnosis means to them, how the neurodivergent community wants to and deserves to be treated, why Autism is actually beautiful and powerful, and so...

During this vulnerable (but also at times light and funny) episode, Danielle and Adam discuss their very personal experiences trying for a baby, dealing with Danielle's complicated pregnancies, miscarriage, all the lack of information they had growing up about fertility and pregnancy. Danielle discuss the very frustrating idea that pregnant women are supposed to be "glowing" and love being pregnan...

Many episodes have touched on what made Danielle originally come to Adam with the idea of starting a podcast. But never have they really gone into detail about what that night was like, what made her come up with the idea, and the events that led to them to FINALLY releasing the first episode. With zero experience and no qualifications, what made the two of them think this would ever work is compl...

CEO Jeffrey Abraham joins Danielle and Adam in one of their most open and honest conversations about intimacy yet. Jeff, who has spent years heading Promescent, a company whose mission it is to make the bedroom a place where couples are totally free from anxiety and shame, talks about why communication is so important in relationships, why men need to open up more, and how they are committed to cl...

Anthropologist and NYT bestselling author Dr. Wednesday Martin joins Adam and Danielle for an awesome conversation about everything from how agriculture influenced the expectations for monogamous relationships, why less emphasis needs to be put on "virginity,' how "bad science" is leading to unfair assumptions about boys and girls roles and personalities, why sex ed needs to change, and so much mo...

One part of the mental load that Danielle spoke about in episode #159 is all the emotional and physical burdens that are inherent in being born female; the expectations of just carrying on with life even though we may be suffering from exacerbated periods, issues getting pregnancy, being pregnant, losing a pregnancy, postpartum....the list goes on and on. Marriage and Martinis is starting a series...

Danielle and Adam had a blast talking to Kim and Penn about everything from starting their business, to creating viral videos, to their most recent project, writing a book together. The two couples break down their most ridiculous fights, discuss why it's important not to hide our fights from our kids, and why it's impossible not to bring up every other past annoyance when we argue. Head to their...