Mama Kim, life coach

Are they weaknesses or opportunities? Sometimes - just weakness. Know whar they and embrace friends who have those as strengths. Problem solved!

If you have nothing to give then maybe you’re impacted more than you thoughtful as

Have you been feeling ready for a break but holding back because of you think you “shouldn’t” need one? Quit judging what you need and listen.

When do you feel most loved? Now Think about someone you care about. What do you think their love language is? How do you figure it out? Hah this is a trick question. The best way to figure it out is to ask. Even if they have never considered it before, asking gives them the gift of discovery and knowledge.

There’s no one love language that is better than another. Better to understand what yours is and accept it. Know your partners and learn to speak each other’s.

Failures fail but learners learn. By embracing your identity as a learner grants you with both the competency and willingness to learn.

You know who is a good example of learning? Toddlers.

“I know mom! Gaaaaa”. That’s a verbal tell that the enemy of learning called teenager, is showing. What are yours?

Sometimes we rush to get to AN answer but are unintentionally risking getting to the right answer. Sometimes we get j to analysis paralysis and NEVER know enough. Rushing and stalling are both enemies of learning.

Addiction to being eight and fear of being wrong are just some examples of enemies of learning. This week we will explore a few more.

Ok maybe it’s not ALWAYS bullshit. Sometimes compartmentalizing is good.

Is Freedom your core value too? Hmm. I wonder if we interpret freedom the same. See I believe freedom is about choices, but is not absent consequence. What do you think?

Suffering has a lot to do with how we experience a situation and that includes our assessments, beliefs and judgments. Here’s a for example. Let’s say you take on a new challenge... new job, motherhood, moving out, self isolation... when we start something new we are beginners. However we sometimes have expectations of excellence that is disproportionate to our experience as a learner. Suffering i...

Spoiler alert. It’s bullshit.

You can either be virtuously ambitious OR you can be satisfied and proud but you cannot be both. This is a nefarious flavor of not enough ness. I asked if she knew any examples of someone who is both ambitious and present. If you can think of just ONE example of someone who defies your belief then you know it’s not a universal truth. So if it’s possible for them, perhaps it is possible for you. Ch...

Promises promises. We all make them. And yes, we all sometimes break them. When we fail to deliver on a promise, trust erodes. Intent does matter. And so does learning from mistakes which means not continuing to make promises you can’t deliver on - they become empty. But even when intent is good and we try our best, mistakes happen. Repairing relationships here depends on apology, forgiveness, All...

Why do people make promises they don’t keep? Because it feels so good to say yes. But failing to deliver can be so much worse. Is it worth it?

Don’t passive aggressively hide requests in feedback. Make your requests clear with 1-preconditions of vulnerability and trust, 2- honest checkin on receptivity 3- authenticity and boldness and 4- clear conditions of satisfaction.

So you can dish it out but can you take it? Remember i said feedback is a gift... but just because someone buys you a sweater doesn’t mean you have to wear it all day every day. Sometimes you say thank you, take a look and decide ... this isn’t really me. And that’s true with feedback too. It’s one person’s opinion so don’t take it in too deep right away. But don’t dismiss it right away either. If...

Feedback is so important to communication. It is a beautiful gift that can grow relationship powerfully. Package with care and compassion and deliver with love

What is a hero? A hero faces fear and adversity with courage and nobility. A hero sees the opportunity to serve people in need with care and compassion. Heroes choose to serve.

Trying to change others is a fool’s errand. Understand and accept them. Change within.

What does this this teach you about what you would’ve wanted?

So - are you putting in enough time to to celebrate imterim milestones?

Some clouds don’t have a silver lining. So what. Find a different cloud.