Make Your Damn Bed

You are valuable and worthy of respect regardless of how much you bend over backwards to accomplish other people’s goals. Sticking to your guns serves to keep you healthy through sustaining your personal boundaries and it proves you know your worth! A real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Each season is 66 days long to incorporate a healthy habit of you...

If you are a hyper critical or hyper sensitive person - people may not feel super comfortable sharing the truth with you. They may try tone down or refrain from sharing their truth in order to protect your feelings or avoid potential conflict. You must practice and model being welcoming of things. If you consider yourself to be a critical or sensitive person, practice observing more often. Make Yo...

Sex isn’t meant to be a performance. It is meant to be an enjoyable, pleasurable experience for consenting adults. Slow down and enjoy the experience and don’t let anyone shame you for how you go about doing that. Or not doing that if that so happens to be your choice. Because that is the point. It’s your choice. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make yo...

Day 91 || Stifling your personality to become more palatable only serves to divide you further from meeting your soul mates. You are only making yourself more attractive to people who may not necessarily even like you if you ever get tired of wearing the mask. Doing this says you’re willing to commit your entire future to being a fake ass phony with a wall up because you’re too scared people may n...

Day 90 || Silence is complicity. Staying silent only serves to perpetuate toxic behaviors. If you aim to diffuse and redirect rather than to add to confrontation, you can usually avoid escalating the conflict and becoming a target. Just remember there is a time and a place to intervene and only you can predict if getting involved will cause more harm than good. Sometimes it’s kinder to mind your b...

Day 89 || Soul mates are the humans that will meet you at each new energetic level as well. The idea that you may miss out your one true soul mate stems from a place of scarcity when you could be experiencing life from a place of abundance. I prefer the world where I will get to spend time and experience several soulmates to the world where I limit myself to just one that I may or may not ever get...

Day 88 || If you’re looking for a committed monogamous relationship, remind yourself often that it only takes one. One person can potentially change the whole game for you, so don’t rush it. Learn to appreciate the relationships you’ve already had and lean into the ones have now as you grown and learn who you are and what you bring to the table as well as what you want and need from a partner. Onc...

Day 87 - living in a home means there are recurring responsibilities that are unavoidable. If you are not willing to invest time and energy, you should be comfortable investing money, or vise versa. Once that harsh reality is established, you can better contribute and also expect equitable contributions in return. Ideally, through open communication and dialogue you can establish a system that fee...

Pick your battles wisely. While I have often reiterated the importance of calling people out with kindness,  there will be Some confrontations that aren’t worth your energy or time. Some people are unchangeable and only live to argue and create drama. Some people will continuously push you until you can no longer control your emotional reactions.  Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivatio...

Own your mistakes. Nobody is perfect and that includes you. It takes integrity to tell others when you mess up. It takes a brave person to admit they don’t know, they didn’t understand, they’re still learning, or they just plain dropped the ball. It may be daunting or overwhelming to admit we are at fault in a negative situation, but courage is one of the most important tools in growth. Make Your...

Niceness has one interest: keeping the peace but peace can not be found if we are not challenging ourselves to think critically about the impact of our behaviors. Niceness may be the easier option in the short term but isn’t sustainable. It enables people to stay in comfortable toxic patterns. Kindness challenges people to do and be better, which has a ripple effect on the rest of the world. Ideal...

One human being can not and should not be responsible for fulfilling all of your needs. We can’t put all of our emotional responsibility on the back of another individual. We should be cognizant of how much of our own burdens we are putting onto our loved ones. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Each season is 66 days long to...

If we are physically and emotionally capable of doing so, we should be working towards becoming self sufficient in our daily lives. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, but remember we shouldn’t be using anyone as a crutch for longer than a crutch would be useful because a crutch can never replace a solid foundation. Focus on building a foundation with substance and work from there. The sooner we real...

Day 81 - Become a realist in your relationships. See people for who they are today, not who you think they could become in the future. Of course, they will probably grow and change with time but the core values of the person in front of you, right now, will more than likely, remain the same. So if you find yourself saying “they’d be perfect if only they… were more driven or more attentive or more...

Day 80 - how diverse is your friend group? We should be hanging out with vast groups of people who think, act, and live differently than ourselves. When we do so, it expands our worldview and our potential. Healthy discourse is incredibly important to understanding other cultures and perspectives. Hiding in an echo chamber of like minded humans repeating the same like minded thoughts means we will...

Day 79 - Nobody likes a killjoy. If someone gets a kick out of anything at all - don’t let shame enter the conversation. We should be supporting joy and excitement in any form and when we put down people’s enjoyment of things - we tell them we’re not supportive or safe people to share things with. As long as they’re not hurting anyone else, it shouldn’t matter what your opinion is on the subject....

By severing a relationship that was not serving your best light - you are allowing space for new relationships to grow and thrive together in search of that light. Some people will use you as their soil in order to grow instead of growing with you, and sometimes those people don’t want to grow, because it would affect them negatively. Other times, we use people as our soil to nourish ourselves wit...

Day 77 - Situations and people are powerless without our reactions to them. I have often reiterated how valid all of our feelings are - no matter how dark or terrible the feeling - but I want to reemphasize the fact that despite our feelings being valid, our responses to those feeling are not always acceptable or appropriate. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play whil...

Day 76 - Does this nourish my soul or does this nourish my ego? It doesn’t mean everything needs to be changed to feed your soul right now - not everything can or will be aimed towards your highest good - but it does mean you can become more in control and aware of the people who are helping you grow vs those who may want you to stay stagnant. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation po...

Take the on again, off again attention as a no instead of a mixed signal. There is nothing more clear than a person only accommodating your expectations when it is convenient for them. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Each season is 66 days long to incorporate a healthy habit of your choosing into your daily life. Build mome...

Day 74 - Boundaries seem like they only serve to set limitations on those around us, but in reality, they are setting guidelines to work within. Which can be incredibly liberating. It’s not about holding others accountable as much as it should be about self advocacy. If you don’t show people how to treat you, how on earth could they possibly know how to treat you. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk...

Day 73 - Small talk is low risk, low commitment, and can push you into stronger relationships in the long run. Taking initiative to start small talk can demonstrate confidence and can decrease anxiety around socializing - which can give you more power to create and nurture the relationships you would like to have in your life. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play whi...

Day 72 - Most people are not comfortable in silence . We often feel awkward or even an unmentioned pressure to fill the silences in almost a performative way. That said, silence can be incredibly powerful. In both casual conversations and intense negotiations - it can signify a sense of confidence and comfortability and contentment. How comfortable are you with the silences? Do the lulls in conver...

Day 71 - You must come to terms with the fact that you can’t be responsible for anyone else’s emotions or feelings. You have to learn to stop interfering with the people in your life’s bad feelings as they arise. If someone is sad, upset, or angry - let them be. Blocking them from feeling their feelings fully, holds them back from learning how to deal with those hard feelings on their own. Not all...

Day 70 - Getting comfortable correcting each other is how we build trust and mature, growing relationships. It also grants everyone permission to make mistakes freely without judgement - and for the greater good, with everyone’s best interest in mind. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Each season is 66 days long to incorporat...