Make Your Damn Bed

Gender, sexuality, and identity is fluid for so many of us. It may change over time and we should be open to that reality for everyone’s best interest. The more we live with acceptance, openness, and compassion, the more the world can begin to heal and focus on the shit that really matters instead of bullshit gender roles. Remember what we said yesterday, too - if your feminism isn’t intersectiona...

Social activist Suad Abdul Khabeer said on Twitter, “You don’t have to be the voice for the voiceless, just pass the mic.” So today, I want to pass the mic to some queer, BIPOC voices that have made an incredible impact on my understanding of this concept. I wanted to start with Intersectionality matters - is a podcast hosted by Kimberlé Crenshaw, an American civil rights advocate and a leading sc...

Decentering yourself from conversations will take practice, especially if it’s an unconscious habit. There is nothing wrong with you if you do this, but it is something to be aware of in your conversations. Start to recognize your patterns and practice grounding exercises to better manage your impulses in your responses. If you have an uncomfortable feeling or emotion come up, allow it to flow thr...

Every aspect of you is being tracked, sold, and analyzed but there are things you can do to help reduce that impact. This doesn’t mean you have to quit social media and internet scrolling cold turkey and this doesn’t mean all internet usage is inherently bad - it just means it’s built to be addicting and if we’re not cognizant of how that is affecting our brains, we can easily get sucked into the...

Sorry this one is so long - I got into it. Maybe this is the day you make your bed AND floss your teeth!? Remember that google isn’t always a reliable resource and people skew false data all the time to fit their agenda so learn to really discern between authentic scientific research and false claims. You’re smart and capable but you’re fallible too - and the sooner you recognize that - the sooner...

Working hard is bullshit. The hardest jobs I have ever had were the worst paying jobs. The highest paying jobs expect the least from me. I have experienced a difference in respect and expectations as I have moved up the proverbial ladder of American labor hierarchy. It’s bullshit. You can’t ever work your way to a billion dollars. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play...

There is this constant expectation that everyone should hustle. Some people genuinely believe that if you don’t work hard, you don’t deserve to survive. Not only is this problematic as all hell, it’s also demonstrably false. Remember that money is energy and you can create that energy without letting that energy convert yours. The more you can stay on top of it, the less burdensome the whole thing...

CONTENT WARNING: mention of white supremacy and racism // The revolution is upon us. We are all awaiting some grand announcement - but it isn’t coming. The revolution is here. A lot of us are waiting patiently for the boogieman to show up but the boogie man is already here. The boogieman haunts every part of American society. He’s in our spending habits, our phone addictions, our dead end jobs, ou...

It’s not about taking things away and making life worse for those with privilege - it’s about finding improvements and making life better for those without. There is and always has been enough pie for everyone. If you have an extra fork, share it! Plus, the idea of getting fat off a pie that others aren’t even welcome to - sounds disgusting to me anyway. Instead of fighting your neighbors for the...

As you get comfortable asking for everything you want you will get comfortable hearing the word no. Eventually you can get more confident and creative and start noticing what you can ask for that can help the world around you - that open land in the neighborhood may be a community garden project waiting to happen or the local restaurants may need somewhere to donate their leftover baked goods at t...

Season three may hit some heavier topics - take what works for you and leave what doesn't. You have to have a full cup to effectively help others anyway, so make sure you take care of your needs first then we can tackle this saving the world business, together.  Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed* every morning. Each season is 66 days long t...

The end of season two comes with a special bonus episode featuring the one and only Sarah Pendrick. We discuss what it's like making authentic friends, following your intuition, and the power of a vision over a goal. [Content warning: SA, Trauma]  More information about Sarah's new book here: https://girltalknetwork.lpages.co/beautifullybrave / Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation p...

To nurture this authenticity in our relationships, we must first get comfortable living authentically. Instead of adapting our personality to fit every situation, recognize that we can read the room, practice kindness, and still hold onto your own sense of honest identity by aligning our choices with our personal virtues. All you have to do is know who you are - after that - you can just allow you...

Do you embrace boredom or do you run from it? Repetitive boredom comes from doing the same shit over and over until it becomes a subconscious habit. This means you don’t have to be thoughtful about a task, you can throw on autopilot and it will get done. This type of boredom is avoidable by bringing more mindfulness into your tasks. See where you can add creativity or spice it up to feel more grat...

Remember there is a time and a place for everything. Your words and actions will have an impact on others. We need to remain cognizant of the affect we’re having without stifling our authenticity. This, like most things, takes balance and self awareness. As we get more and more comfortable approaching difficult subjects more head on, we will find more peace. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, dail...

Find pride in your struggles and celebrate your wins. We’re all fairly talented at self-justifications and jumping through hoops to deny our fault, but the more we do it, the more it skews our perspective towards worse and worse mistakes. Own it. Don’t delude yourself. If it makes you feel bad, you can work to change the behavior in the future instead of avoiding the bad feelings that come as a re...

You’re either working towards making your own dreams come true or you’re working to make someone else’s. We have limited time and energy here to pursue what we want so if you’re not finding fulfillment from your work, relationships, or your environment, start to figure out why. A good way to do this is to ask yourself what you want out of life. If you can align the things that you’re good at with...

Just because you’re detached from the outcomes now, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t set yourself up for the best possible one for yourself in the future. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed* every morning. Each season is 66 days long to incorporate new healthy habits of your choosing into your daily life. Build momentum - better your life. Find co...

Everything can be effortless, even if it ain't easy. The bare minimum is respect and fair compensation. Once you’ve establish the bare minimum, you can decide where you feel deserving of more in your life, and then you can start asking for it. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed* every morning. Each season is 66 days long to incorporate new h...

The more you let go of your expectations of your reality, the more satisfied you’ll be with the outcomes. Aim in a direction you’re comfortable, work towards that direction often, then release expectations and allow life to unfold. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed* every morning. Each season is 66 days long to incorporate new healthy habit...

Do less, better. Pare down your to do lists to the essentials and then put your heart into accomplishing those essentials well. As you practice this essentialism, you will begin to see where you can make sacrifices, where you’re working harder instead of smarter, and where you can afford to put more in to get more out. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you m...

Leave it better than you found it. This goes for people, places, and things. Whenever we go into any new activity or interaction, we should try to bring our best selves to the experience. This means making things a little better, wherever you are, whenever you can do so. This can come in many forms, like picking up litter, making someone laugh, or adding a little joy. It doesn’t cost money to brin...

Try not to take things so personally. The more you detach yourself from the outcomes of things the easier this becomes. Most things aren’t about you anyway. If someone ghosts you, 9 times out of ten, it’s a them problem. If people are unkind, it’s on them. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed* every morning. Each season is 66 days long to inco...

Nobody should miss an opportunity because they were too afraid to speak up. The way I look at it, is you may as well ask, cuz the worst that can happen is they tell you no. I encourage you to your shot. As Wayne Gretzky once said, you’ll miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. I take that as a signal that you may as well go out swinging. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast t...

We shouldn’t let our past experiences of being let down impact the people in our lives who aren’t going to let us down. It may take time to earn our trust but we must be willing to provide others with the opportunity to earn that trust. If we’re closed off by assuming the worst, we are closing ourselves off to the best, too. Make Your Damn Bed is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while...