Make Your Damn Bed

Change your language to improve your mindset.  YOU are not fat. You have fat. YOU are not depressed. You have depression. YOU are not insecure. You feel insecure.  You are far more than the identities you have created for yourself. And you need to change your language to reflect that.  Shift your mindset through shifting your language.  Support this show http://supporter.acast....

We don’t outgrow our desire for feeling seen and validated. We simply get less of that external validation because we have seemingly learned our lessons already - but that doesn’t mean we don’t all have growth to be made and behaviors to be improved upon. So why do we suddenly think when we’re a certain age - we no longer respond to positive cues? Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-...

Encouragement, like motivation, is something that needs refreshing daily. It’s not to be dismissed as something that only kids and sports teams benefit from. We all do better with positive reinforcement, I promise. Start offering it to yourself and see how quickly things shift.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more i...

Human connection is so important - this is why we like to meet up with friends for drinks or family for dinners - so don’t skimp out on connecting with yourself, too.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

 A lot of us live in an all or nothing mentality all of the time. We see things in black and white despite our conscious awareness of the fact that most of the world is gray. Each fresh breath is an opportunity to begin again. Every time you start to feel hopeless, remind yourself it’s only hopeless when you stop holding onto hope - then grab onto that hope and make it happen. Don’t guil...

If you’re the giving type, it probably means you struggle with receiving. I encourage you to take a step back form your identity as the generous friend for a while and allow yourself to accept things as they present themselves. Be it compliments, help, or physical gifts - you are deserving and worthy of these things.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on...

Be realistic with your expectations, be realistic when you set plans, be realistic when you do literally everything in order to save yourself a lifetime of drama in the future.  Getting real with yourself takes time and practice and trial and error. Don’t be afraid to try things a few times before admitting it’s not for you at this particular time in your life. And watch how much energy, time...

Sometimes, in the moment, we aren’t able see the bigger picture. We don’t understand why we’re met with resistance or bad luck or rejection - and years later, if we’re lucky, when we find out that it was actually a good thing all along, we will thank the people who rejected us because if not for that no, we may never have made it to where we are today.  Sometimes we have to trust that the uni...

Take the leash off for a while. Play. Make messes. Get loud and don’t be afraid to look silly or stupid while doing so.   Follow the fun without fear. You are wiser and more in control now, so you can safely do so in a way that feels good. Don’t forget to throw caution to the wind every once in a while in search of your inner desire to feel joy in it’s rawest form.  Channel the inner chi...

When you embody your own best parent, you become someone who knows what is best for you, wants what is best for you, does what is best for you, and helps you prepare for what is best for you. We all need that in our lives, and even the luckiest of us can’t rely on our parents for everything forever. We all have to get comfortable making the decisions for ourselves that best serves us in our best i...

When I say float downstream, this is not a mindless or passive task. This is simply being mindful with the way your life is moving, making small choices to make it easier, and not resisting the path but rerouting it when you need to.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you don’t choose to uproot your own toxicity once in a while you will get sick. You will keep that toxicity inside which means it will eat you alive. Even if you don’t know it’s growing. Because if you ignore how bad your behavior can make you feel. And make others feel. You will never want to fix that behavior and it will continue to make you and others feel bad. Be willing to uproot your toxi...

We’ve all made snap judgments and it takes a long time to unlearn a lifetime of habit - especially one as natural as this - but trust me when I say, your preconceived notions about people are typically incorrect, and it may be a good idea to avoid making those judgments altogether. We all cast judgements without knowing any better, but it’s our responsibility to learn so we can know better, a...

Genuine connection only comes from our ability to fully connect with our own desires and needs. We do this by getting clear before trying to communicate with others and then getting clear on how we choose to communicate with others. I have said this many times before: The temporary discomfort of openly communicating will save years of discomfort in the future. So be brave, be vulnerable,...

You are a person, not a test subject. Life is a journey not some race to enlightenment. You are welcome to just be. Stop using intellectualism to avoid feeling your feelings. Stop overanalyzing to avoid your emotions. And have the grace to do the same for your loved ones.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more in...

My parents made a lot of rules that didn’t feel like support at the time, that I absolutely consider supportive now. Support from my bra is uncomfortable but essential in some situations. Support looks and feels differently at different times - and that can be the angle you take with the people you love too.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. S...

The amount of attention you’re receiving or not receiving is not a reflection of your character. Life is a dance. We are moving all over the place and going around and around but not actually going anywhere notable in distance, because the where we start and where we end is not the point of dancing. The point of dancing is in the art itself. Sometimes we will lead and sometimes we will follow, but...

If you have an idea for what you would you like to achieve in the future, take steps towards that. But if you aren’t sure - try everything until you figure out what you don’t want, then go from there.  Don’t let anyone rush you. You’ve got the rest of your life to figure it out. Until then, find something that best works for you right now, where you are today. Not where you’d like to be in fi...

Focus in on what your life means to you, allow that meaning to change with you over time, and never allow anyone else’s interpretation of that meaning affect you. It’s really not your business how they interpret it. Plus, your interpretation is probably going to change at some point anyway. So what difference does it make? You don’t need to understand the ins and outs to enjoy the ride.  Supp...

I realize now, if you’re doing it right, life is just a series of outgrowing yourself. Those choices, behaviors, routines, friends, experiences, and priorities that you used to make time for, out of necessity or desire or fear or boredom, at some point, just don’t appeal to you anymore. And you should be so fucking happy for that.  When you begin to outgrow yourself, whether consciously or&nb...

The world hardened me through experiences, and time and time again I would work to soften myself back up. Eventually, I established a ratio of softness and armor, of love and fear, of precaution and fearlessness. It’s not always foolproof.  I am a mosaic of my past selves, and you are too. What does your mosaic look like? Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed ....

I am starting to believe they want us all to turn into robots. Last time I checked robots we’re free of cellulite, body hair, farts, and emotions. But robots also don’t get to experience. They don’t get to create. They don’t get to love, or to feel, or to feel peace in a body that they’ve been taught to hate.  Being a human being is fucking beautiful. What we have been taught as imperfections...

 A repeated thought becomes a belief. A belief becomes a feeling. Those feelings and beliefs create your reality.  The insecurities that we have about ourselves become a self fulfilling prophecy as they do end up working against us to validate your truth.  When you notice people treating you in a way and you feel hesitant or want to justify their behavior or whatever it may be stopp...

It’s good to be aware of when we’re talking just to talk or if we’re talking out of a place of insecurity or if we’re talking because we really believe it will foster a sense of connection. None of those reasons are inherently bad but we also need to recognize that we really don’t have to work so hard. Sometimes a simple no thank you is plenty of explanation. Sometimes a deep dive into your why is...

Unfortunately, we can’t have everyone we love be with us all the time forever, but we can ensure their legacies live on through our preservation of their memories.  Ask questions, study the people you love, and let yourself enjoy the time you do have, with them. I doubt you will regret knowing too much about someone you love, so don’t be afraid to ask. You never know what magic you may uncove...