Make Your Damn Bed

In my opinion, the only true, long term solution to not wanting to stay in bed all day, and that is to create genuine motivation to get your ass out of bed and begin your day.  Obviously knowing you have to do taxes wont get you out of bed but knowing you have a zoom friend date with some grocery store sushi and a bestie from middle school this evening is far more likely to get your ass amped...

When it’s time to start moving there are a variety of tactics I find myself cycling through to effectively get myself off my ass and in a better energetic mindset for the day.  Some ways to help you get out of bed:  MYDB PODCAST: Listen to the Make Your Damn Bed Podcast + practice associating it with starting your day. PLAYLIST : Put on a hype up/game day playlist and blast it.  BLA...

If you want to participate in discourse get educated if you’d like to have opinions. Ideally you are only listening to multiple Reputable sources from different organizations and areas and are as unbiased and unsponsored as possible.  then - if you have the capacity to do something to help in any way - which I have to be honest, I don’t know that writing our alderman is really gonna work on t...

I believe, in general, if bad news or even just the idea of news genuinely incapacitates you from life and you cant deal with learning or knowing or watching or doing anything that makes you feel heavy, fuck it. You are under no obligation to learn or know or watch or cater to anything heavy for a while.  Nobody is checking you to ask what you know or what you don’t know about current events....

Be raw when you can because it shows others they can be raw too and it also shows the world it’s okay to need shit, to not be perfect, to have blemishes, and make mistakes. Life is nuanced - what you compare yourself to should be too! Don’t get stuck in echo chambers of single minded, neutral looking, straight sized bodies. Diversify, branch out of your comfort zone, and be more objective with the...

Had a great revelation during the recording session of the relative comparative baseline series and wanted to share it with y'all! I am spending a lot of time findin' the right balance that works best for my style and preferences and most optimized results. With trial and error, I find more and more things that I find surprising to admit they genuinely bring me joy. Who would've thought bringing a...

And every new human I meet and every new story I learn only encourages me more to show up fully in my own life. I like knowing the wide world has lots of options and there is not any expectation for me to be the best or worst of anything. I will fall somewhere in between and where I land is ultimately up to me and fate.  If I follow the kardashians I am far more likely to end up on amazo...

if people who are raw and “UGLY” or messy or open or authentic online, and that is off-putting to you - check in on why - is the reason valid or is the hesitation because you’re so used to seeing perfectionism and unrealistic expectations in your feed? I know people very personally who share very misleading versions of their lives online which genuinely makes me jealous even though I see them and...

A good place to start when it comes to expanding your baseline of comparison and relativity - is social media. And I recommend starting to realign that by looking around you - does everyone at the grocery store in your area look like the people that come up in your timeline feed? Or is your feed filled with one type of body or person? One type of content? If it’s all puppies or recipes - great. Bu...

Day III of series. Please go back to day one if you're new here! If you chronically feel not good enough - your baseline of comparison is probably too fucking high and unrealistic. Reevaluate and recalibrate that shit.  The grass is always greener and our brains are designed to get bored of repetition so novelty is more important than getting ‘the best of the best’.  Basically, we need t...

This extra special extended episode features the incredibly brilliant Dr. Darcy (you can find her and take the quick lil trust quiz at www.thetrustquiz.com) and we chat about common relationship drama, inheriting generational trauma, and why we act out around our mama*. *I did this for the rhyme, we cover why we get meaner to the people we are closest to, but you get it. I hope you enjoy this epis...

Success as a whole is relative - which means it’s kinda bullshit.  They did a study on people wanting to own nice cars based on the proximity to lotto winners who won or immediately purchased nice cars and the chances of you investing in a new car multiplied by 50% ish if you were in the neighborhood and 80% if you were the next door neighbor.  If your social media feed is filled with me...

A big part of our personal baseline of happiness is based on our relative comparison to the world around us. Basically - we are only as happy as is appropriate to the level of happiness we believe the people around us are. In the most laymen terms - we are constantly comparing to what we know but we typically don’t know the whole story. Even when we’re aware of this shortcoming, we still seem...

Take time to make time.  I recently spent 30 seconds to fix a drawer that has been inconveniencing me only slightly for the last 8 years. My life has changed dramatically since taking that 30 seconds out of my day and probably saved me 5 minutes of frustration already, and I only just fixed it. Look for ways in your life and surroundings where you can take a little time to make a little time....

You’re not taking time for yourself you’re making more of it.   When you're trying to catch up or get out of a funk, don’t focus on the tasks - focus on YOU and your systems and your foundations and the rest will fall into place. It sounds counterintuitive but when you take the extra time to eat your veggies and drink your water and shower and tidy and show up for yourself first - it ac...

https://www.nedratawwab.com/set-boundaries-find-peace I have always struggled with boundary setting and even though I recognize my people pleasing tendencies now and avoid falling into the same patterns most of the time - I still struggle with saying no to things I like doing. It’s a weird thing - I can say no without explanation to any fucking thing that doesn’t interest me -but I will rework my...

Keep an open mind and see if you can squeeze anything valuable out of the experience - you may be surprised at what you gain by doing so. How to set yourself up for a resounding TAROT session: 1. Get in an energetic alignment with the part of you that wants to gain insight from the reading. Even if its just a general reading - really take your time to breathe, get comfortable in the space and allo...

even barring the magic altogether - tarot is such a powerful tool for reflection, connection, inspiration, insight, and perspective.  Throughout my life there have been certain people that just inspire the heck out of me and fill the hell out of my cup so that when were done hanging my creativity is piqued and my inspiration is sparked and I want to clean my space and write and live. But thos...

as always the case for me when it comes to Make your Damn Bed and basically ANY other content or human being that speaks to you ever - you should be generating your own informed opinions by looking at diverse and credible sources before communicating, or honestly even formulating, any opinions of your own, and I Julie Merica have not ever claimed to know what the hell I am talking about - so it’s...

On a recent episode of Queer Eye (Craw Zaddy) the client (Todd) said something that hit me hard: "ya know sometimes, it's too easy too exist and too hard to live." and as someone who as fully agreed with that statement at certain times in my life, I now believe it's a trap. The effort you put into LIVING will make life easier - which will in turn make it easier to exist altogether which you'll no...

I've been vegetarian or vegan for the past 16 years so here are some of my go-to tips and tricks for increasing your plant intake and decreasing your consumption of meat. I would love to challenge you to do a meatless day every week or a meatless meal Monday or at least a mindful minute in which you search for more locally sourced products and research where your meat that you’re consuming actuall...

CW: Been really reevaluating my relationship with alcohol lately. Follow Samantha: https://www.empoweredspirituality.online/ If you have strategies that you use to set boundaries with yourself like “ill only spend $30, I’ll set intentions for every sip, I’ll switch to water after 2” whatever - let me know. Tag me @MYDBPodcast on IG or mydbpodcast@gmail.com   Support this show http://supporter...

good morning sunshine. This episode is Julie sharing a few thoughts about style, refreshing a space, and the energetic ties we hold to dust. Talk to you tomorrow! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We often let ourselves get swept up in other peoples problems as a way to avoid dealing with our own bullshit or sometimes just because it’s hard not to - like I said - energy is contagious as fuck and toxic energy is the most contagious of all. So we have to definitely be aware of that reality and get comfortable catching ourselves when we start sinking into the cycles that we don’t want to get i...

Thank y'all for understanding I needed a minute. Sometimes all ya have to do is communicate you're having a problem and people may surprise you with a solution. There really is a lesson in everything, huh? Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.