Make Your Damn Bed

Today I share the very basic structure of my improv classes. Boundary check - How does everyone feel about physicality? any limits we should know about? Warm ups - connect + get comfortable with those around you. Play - in the world you BUILD together on the foundations you've already built together. Reflect + follow up. Subscribe to the monthly newsletter: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com Subscribe...

Today begins the first of the Improvised Improvisation series. Starring me improvising an introduction to my experience with improv in Chicago + how it's (quite literally) changed my life for the better. IMPROVISE:   to compose, recite, play, or sing extemporaneously OR   to make, invent, or arrange offhand to make or fabricate out of what is conveniently on hand. IMPROVISATIONAL THEATRE...

This is the final part of a three part series. Please listen to yesterday's episode before this one! Feel free to use genuine, earnest real life first hand stories to show and demonstrate your perspective. Just like you should have been attempting to really understand their perspective on that position - it’s your turn to share yours, so don’t be afraid to get real, vulnerable, and honest. This do...

This is the second part of a three part series. Please listen to yesterday's episode before this one! People are nuanced. They can be wrong and right at the same time. Find what’s right before delving into what’s wrong. Connect before you correct.  A good way to diffuse and connect- especially if you’re starting to get a lil defensive is by finding a common ground. If you really are strugglin...

Build the connection before you reach for the correction. a lot of communication does happen non verbally - so offer kindness and listening and empathy through your expressions. If you’re standing, face the person directly but don’t tower or “muscle up”, show you’re receptive by sitting up straight and actively listening to the speaker.  People who roll their eyes and shake their head and kee...

The detour today is brought to you by ADHD. Today I share the true meaning of "staying present" and how to do so without becoming hyper self critical. I also share tips on how to stay confident by bringing your real self to the table. And there's a few other nugs of wisdom you'll have to tune in to find out, please and thanks. if you haven't already, please rate Make Your Damn Bed Podcast FIVE glo...

Sometimes people will get heated and things may escalate quickly and get tense out of nowhere and we may not even know what or why things are happening this way, but if we create a tool belt of things we can return to, we can remember that we do have some power in whether we choose to defuse or further escalate a potentially tense situation. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-d...

 The conversational awareness series summary: Stay present, don’t prep responses. Read the room. Take your time. Not every convo needs to be gossipy and ruthless and petty. Steer conversations more positively if they become too negative. Keep shit neutral for the most part. If sharing is the vibe great but don’t pry and probe if people wanna share they will - and people are more comforta...

How to tell a better story: Be present, stay confident, get curious and honest. Then ask yourself: Why this story? Why now? Is the audience and timing appropriate? Don't derail the energy. Read the room. Is this story worth telling? Keep your central message in mind throughout the story. Am I building a through-line? Drop breadcrumbs so your listeners can relate and pick up on clues that help keep...

If you wanna have a good conversation with someone, you'll be present, stay confident, get curious, treat everyone like a friend, and focus more on being interested than interesting. Find common interests and passions and get real! Bein' vulnerable helps people open up in return. Hope today is as magic as you are. Love you, cutie! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . H...

once you practice aligning your external actions with your internal self-awareness, you will get better and better at creating natural connections, but it can be helpful to know when and how to gracefully excuse yourself from a conversation that is no longer serving you. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BEING INTERESTED IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING INTERESTING. If you're more concerned with "proving" yourself than "staying present" - you're wasting valuable time and energy. Competence is proven through actions, behaviors, choices, and taking responsibility for mistakes in real time. We're not typically impressed with braggarts and show-offs. We see right through the inauthenticity that comes from...

Cultivating external self awareness comes from aligning with your internal self awareness and goals. When you know how you are - you can streamline your actions, choices, words, and behaviors to align with who you are AND what the room needs in any given moment. Tone, volume, topics, etc. should be accounted for when building connection - but we should be able to both "read the room" and "stay ali...

when your internal self awareness isn't aligning with your external - you can self correct in real time to feel more safe and confident in your personal guidance system. don't be afraid to check in regularly (as objectively as possible) to ensure your external is matching up with the internal. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy...

Do your beliefs, thoughts, actions, decisions align with your internal favorite version of yourself? The more you practice internally evaluating the things that make you feel the best and most aligned - the less you'll have to over-analyze and critique your external presentation to ensure it's aligning with your best self, internally. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed...

The key to building self awareness (that doesn't ebb into self-consciousness) is being aware internally of the things that align with you and your favorite version of yourself. Trust that your external will naturally begin to match the internal as you begin to get clear about the things that make you feel the most whole and well-rounded. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-...

Taking an extra second to look back now can save you hours of stress and worry in the future. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Day one of a self awareness series in which I share strategies and techniques to become LESS self-aware about the stuff that removes you from your ability to stay present and mindful and MORE self-aware about the things that truly matter. Internal self-awareness is far more powerful than external self-awareness. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See...

People generally just want to feel heard and being a good listener is a huge part of that. Practice waiting to respond, silence allows space for people to continue. Practice making eye contact + repeating what they've just said back to them in their own words. And practice really being there while they create their own conclusions. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed ....

Sometimes it can be the right move to just change the subject. Whether to diffuse, or just escape an awkward situation - learning how to change the subject can help others get out of toxic cycles too. Whether discreet or obvious - don't be afraid to change the subject if things are starting to spiral out of control. Thank you for listening to the daily motivation podcast to help you get out of bed...

The more we remind ourselves that we don’t need to be positive all the time, we will realize there is also no need to be negative either - but by relaxing and redirecting to my breath I can remind myself that there’s nothing I can do NOW and the best possible thing I can do - for my own well being - is to drop it. To let it go. To move on. And allow myself some space between me and the perpet...

If you’re finding yourself dwelling and turning the same concern over and over and over and over, you’re ruminating. And even though it’s incredibly common, it’s also terrible for your mental health. Although the reflection portion of rumination can often be fairly beneficial in finding a solution or process the strong emotions that are associated with the situation, rumination in general is often...

Take your time with the journey and lean into what YOU really want at a pace that works for you, not against ya. There's a freedom in traveling alone, don't be afraid to do it and take control of your own schedule. Pit stops are enjoyable, when you let yourself enjoy 'em. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The  Pareto principle  states that for many outcomes, roughly 80% of consequences come from 20% of causes (the "vital few"). Increase productivity by focusing on the 20% of the input that impacts 80% of the output. https://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2016/03/07/80-20-rule/?sh=37bfd0a3814b “How to 80/20 your work: (1) Make a list of the 10 things you spend the most time on. (2) Circle...

Sometimes we think we're helping and we're actually making it worse. Protect yourself first, it'll show others they can do the same. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.