Make Your Damn Bed

Without knowledge of our personal values, we can’t become the self-aware badasses we want to be. Knowing yourself means becoming self aware of the things that make us want to get out of bed each day. By identifying what we value personally, and getting to know it, we can check in with our behaviors to ensure we’re aligning with our values in a way that directs our lives towards what we truly belie...

Let’s stop policing how others live their lives. Let’s remember that we often do more harm than good when we interject in people’s personal lives without context, even if we truly believe it’s coming from a great place. Stigmas end when we stop blaming people for their current situations or condition. BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 WATCH: w...

CW: ED + BIAS; Our society isn't built for people who exist within so many various human bodies, and then has the audacity to imply that the same human bodies who were overlooked + or disregarded is the problem. This completely overlooks the systems that created + implemented the problem. This makes it nearly impossible to not pick up on some of that disregard. So in an effort to rectify the harm...

CW: (anti-fat bias, ED) - lately, I've been in a bit of a funk and it took me a while to realize that my aversion to considering anything about my 'weight' or 'body' was part of the problem. It's taken me years to unlearn the insecurities gifted to me by a capitalistic society built on shame + guilt, and it's taken me even longer to realize the size of the shadow that has been cast because of it....

The real art of empathy requires us to pay attention to the needs of others, without sacrificing our own.  BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREO...

Remember, being empathetic is a kind way to respond to people’s emotional experiences, but isn’t helpful if we’re not conscious of how that is affecting our own. When we direct all of our attention outward, we become unbalanced + disconnected from our own needs - which makes us less effective at addressing anyone’s needs (our own or someone else’s). It’s easy to become codependent (mirror moods, c...

Sympathy is recognizing + understanding someone else’s situation. Empathy is sharing in it. Sympathy typically focuses more on my personal experience or my own instinctual reaction to your situation, whereas empathy is more based on me feeling into the situation and being there with you, in that experience. To practice healthy empathy, we must be willing to get vulnerable with our feelings without...

fast fashion? more like fast trashon... amirite? BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://support...

Social prescriptions are popular in other countries but since it's not an option in the states, it becomes our responsibility to figure out what we need to support our mental health. BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONT...

When I feel resistance to leaving the house, it can be hard to understand if it's a legitimate reason or if I am just avoiding the transition of having to put on pants. Today, I share my strategies in checking in to decide if I should stay or go with the least amount of regret possible. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGR...

self isolation is the objective lack of connectedness where loneliness is the perceived lack of connectedness. isolation from social things can be healthy - as long as it's restorative + restful. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: ww...

ever look at all the stuff you need to do and feel your ability to do anything about it fully SHUT DOWN? Just me? Finding my fight with executive dysfunction to be a very complicated one, what worked last week has little effect for this one. So instead of life hacking, I am showing up in whatever way I can. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.c...

I've recently binged every piece of content from Aubrey Gordon + fallen deeper in love with her (and myself) as a result. The article I referenced: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/22276896/fat-aubrey-gordon-dating-apps-body-positivity-your-fat-friend The Podcast I love: https://www.maintenancephase.com/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com...

here are some common characteristics of a cult. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informat...

Most people aren't self-aware about how much they lack self-awareness. Here's how to build that: listen to honest feedback without judgement. practice pausing between reactions to emotions. learn how to identify emotions, in real time. build empathy through diversifying your literature/content intake. model your EQ after others with admirable qualities. https://professional.dce.harvard.edu/blog/ho...

Josefin Hedlund rocked me with this mind-blowing article: https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/transformation/revolutionary-love/ and I had to share it with you. "Instead of seeing love as some mystical t hing  that just happens to us, we should follow Bell Hooks idea in  All About Love   and see love as a  verb.  It is a practice that we  do , and that we have been socia...

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This episode has a video element available now at https://youtu.be/wDRzlMI2H0U - in case you wanna see my face while we cover Emotional Intelligence and why I believe it's more a valuable/reputable tool than IQ. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE I...

I tend to get quickly attached to people who are emotionally unavailable because it resembles the patterns I am trying to heal from my childhood. The more aware I get of this pattern, the less likely I am to attempt to hold the "wrong" people (for me) to standards they can't/won't/shouldn't meet. You're good enough - regardless of who has made you feel otherwise in your lifetime. Trust me. You're...

oh hi - please remember you are allowed (and encouraged) to set + uphold boundaries with people. you can let people know you won't be engaging in debates over the morality of food, weight gain or loss, politics, family drama, etc. also - honor + remember the authentic origins of this "celebration" by understanding the cultural origins of Thanksgiving from Native American perspectives. https://nati...

we often feel the pull to focus on where we lack + the reasons why we lack; but lately I've noticed how focusing on bridging the gap between what is and what I most want, has made the gap feel so much smaller + more reasonable to address. Notice the lagging not the lacking, and do what you can to unite the what is to what you most desire. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM...

recognizing the lack I feel when people are telling me they care about me has been a major wake up call - but realizing I put myself in partnerships that reaffirm my fears of being unlovable was even more important in the process. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE...

hate to be the one to break it to you - but you're likable and I am here to show you the steps in how to allow yourself to be liked in the way you deserve for once, okay!? RESOURCE USED TODAY: https://www.wikihow.life/Let-People-Like-You WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast...

After sharing yesterday's tips, I second guessed how many "rules" we're put out as a methodology - when in reality? People who we're connected to - don't need rules. They don't need regulations. They just need YOU to be you. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL...

Since the pandemic, the idea of making eye contact with someone is more terrifying to me than a bathtub full of spiders. I have practiced many techniques to improve my connectivity with others while chatting - but here are the most effective things I've utilized. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www...