Make Your Damn Bed

We're all on the struggle bus, so have some empathy, some mercy, and some grace with others, especially if they're a little "behind" ya. As Robert Anton Wilson says : “under the present brutal and primitive conditions on this planet, every person you meet should be regarded as one of the walking wounded. we have never seen a man or woman not slightly deranged by either anxiety or grief. we have ne...

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we're bringing back the salon. here's a lil guide to how to act at one, without feelin' weird about it. RESOURCE : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salon_(gathering) https://www.artofsalons.org/howtohost WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTA...

we're bringing back the salon. here's a lil guide to get started. RESOURCE : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salon_(gathering) https://www.artofsalons.org/howtohost WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.c...

According to wiki, A  salon  is a gathering of people held by an inspiring host. During the gathering they amuse one another and increase their knowledge through conversation. These gatherings often consciously followed  Horace 's definition of the aims of  poetry , "either to please or to educate" (Latin:  aut delectare aut prodesse ). RESOURCE : https://en.wikipedia.org/...

(PART 2) What I’ve noticed, is my ability to get stuck in the effort stage of a process - to the point where I can no longer see the process clearly, which leads to inaction. I am so hung up on the idea of struggle, that I struggle to get beyond the idea part.  The best way to avoid this is to eliminate extraneous decision making. Limit your daily choices INTENTIONALLY. Where can you del...

What I’ve noticed, is my ability to get stuck in the effort stage of a process - to the point where I can no longer see the process clearly, which leads to inaction. I am so hung up on the idea of struggle, that I struggle to get beyond the idea part.  The best way to avoid this is to eliminate extraneous decision making. Limit your daily choices INTENTIONALLY. Where can you delegate, au...

Figure we can all use a lil good news every once in a while, why not some from 2019? ORIGINAL ARTICLES: https://iheartdogs.com/heres-how-the-netherlands-has-become-the-first-country-with-no-stray-dogs/ and https://mymodernmet.com/utrecht-bus-stop-bee-ecosystem/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/st...

My relationship with sleep has been... complicated. But lately, I have to come to terms with some major changes. 1. No more snooze button. 2. Establish some routines?! 3. Avoid shame spirals by remembering bears exist. RESOURCES : https://www.cnet.com/health/sleep/serial-snoozer-heres-why-oversleeping-is-hurting-your-health/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyo...

27. Get comfortable in silence. Learn when it’s time to mind your business and when it’s time to speak your mind. You’re allowed to take up space but you’re also allowed to sit back and cease to be perceived.   28. Every single human just wants to feel seen, valued, and loved. Be kind. Be open. Focus on the little moments with people + really listen. That said. Not all people deserves all acc...

More lessons that took me forever to learn but really made a difference for my mental health: 22. Action is the remedy. The key to getting over cycles of worry and rumination and overthinking and fear is to focus on the next best step. Align with what you value most and start small. Consistency > perfection. Failure is part of the process and the best way to get over a fuck up is to focus our a...

my take on valentines day varies from not giving a flying fuck to being charmed by the idea but most often disappointed in the presentation - that said, knowing YOU are my valentine this year!? Makes all the difference in the universe. You mean more to me than words could ever express but tune into this episode to listen to me try. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www...

Some more lessons for ya: You’re not doing worse than anyone. We never know where people had leg-ups, and we never know what invisible struggles people are experiencing. Focus on keeping you driveway clean and don’t worry about what’s happening on the other side of the street.  People’s responses to your boundaries, wants, needs, values, etc. say more about them than you. But the same goes fo...

My list continued: 16.Giving yourself the love/attention/value you seek from others is the key to being open to actually receiving the love you seek. 17. People show love in many different ways . At some point, we have to understand that just because someone isn’t capable of communicating love in a healthy way doesn’t mean they don’t love you. But it also doesn’t mean you have to put up with...

My list continued: 11. You don’t need to work so hard to be “liked”. Protect your peace, set appropriate boundaries, say no, but be kind + vulnerable + honest. The best people can see authenticity. The best way to be a crowd pleaser is not to be a people pleaser. It’s not your job to “fix” everything. 12. Leave shit better than you found it. Taking our time to respect the spaces we are intera...

THINGS I WISH I LEARNED SOONER You get one body. You get one mind. You get one round at this life . . You are not your thoughts. Your reality isn’t the only reality. Change your perspective, change your experience. Slow the fuck down . They aren’t mad at you. Nobody is paying attention to you as closely as you think they are. You are not unlovable. You are a badass human. You have had positive imp...

Question: What happens when I ask a robot to do my job? Answer: [Intro music plays] Host: Welcome to the "Make Your Damn Bed" podcast, where we talk about the importance of starting your day with a simple yet powerful habit of making your bed. [In-depth sound effect] Host: Today, we are going to discuss why making your bed is not just a simple task but a key to success. Our guest today is a renown...

Stutz says you need to understand the three Aspects of Reality that no one — really,  no one — can avoid. Those three aspects are  Pain ,  Uncertainty and  Constant Work .  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAG...

Stutz says his Tools “turn problems [in]to possibilities,” and give people the propulsive feeling that they can make big changes. In practice, the Tools are visualization exercises. In  Stutz , each Tool is accompanied by cards with hand-drawn illustrations that, according to Stutz, render even the biggest, most complicated concepts into something manageable.  WATCH : www.youtube.co...

gamifying things rocks. set timers, reward systems, get accountability partners, buy yourself treats - but don’t get too competitive at the expense of the goal of the gamification.   WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR CO...

There are so many times a day that I find myself wanting to do a thing but unable to make myself actually get up to do the thing. And it’s frustrating as hell.  When this happens, sometimes I benefit from making the thing as simple and accessible and cut and dry as possible.  Other times, though, I prefer the opposite. I find that when I make things a whole ass event - it makes doing the...

You are a beautiful collage of all of the things you've witnessed and experienced over your lifetime. You're unique. One of a kind. But if you're not feeling "aligned" there are ways to unlearn and relearn that can change the game for ya. RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-another-name-for-pain/202212/stop-looking-for-your-authentic-self  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemeric...

To hack "group flow" there are a variety of factors that come into play. We must be have clear goals, communicate effectively, feel a sense of challenge but not overwhelm, share the stage with our egos, promote a "yes, and" energy, and solid participation. Today, I break that down for ya. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mind https://www.artofmanliness.com/char...

merging action + awareness is the best way to improve our access to flow. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mind https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-you...

Researchers define flow as an “optimal state of consciousness,” a peak state where we feel our best and perform our best. Here are some ways to hack that sh*t. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mind https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: ww...