Make Your Damn Bed

Excitement and anxiety fire up the exact same space in your brain, so if we can work on reframing our perspective, we may not even have to shake the anxious feelings at all! You’re not nervous because you’re going to talk in front of a large group of people, you’re excited because you get to feel like Taylor Swift???  The thing we’re nervous about is starting, and a reappraisal can help.&nbsp...

DAY 9: COMFORT ZONES:  Have you ever heard a term so much that it loses all meaning? I feel that way about comfort zones a little bit. Maybe because mine fluctuates from year to year or maybe cuz I’ve read “life begins right outside of your comfort zone” in too many public restrooms, but when I came back to revamp this episode about getting out of your comfort zone - I knew I needed to reeval...

A life without any indulgence is just plain sad AF. It’s not just me who says it - there are studies that demonstrate that some indulgence is as fundamental to a happy life as self-control is.  Decades of research have shown that self-control is associated with many positive outcomes, including our overall well-being. But as self-control helps us to align our behaviors with our long-term goal...

 A life without any indulgence is just plain sad AF. It’s not just me who says it - there are studies that demonstrate that some indulgence is as fundamental to a happy life as self-control is.  Decades of research have shown that self-control is associated with many positive outcomes, including our overall well-being. But as self-control helps us to align our behaviors with our long-ter...

You’ve showed up EVERY single day. Every shower you’ve taken, every tear you’ve shed, every laugh you’ve had, every connection you’ve made, you’ve been there for. And sure you didn't have a choice, I get that, it seems cheesy but eat up, rat friends. - because we spend so much time showing gratitude for our besties if we’ve got them. And I DO love appreciating a good community moment, it’s also cr...

seems cliché, but time is by far our most valuable commodity. Money comes and goes but time you can never get back. This is why we often feel so strongly about the things we’ve invested our time or money into - because we’ve invested we feel we’re losing our deserved payout if we bail. But just because we make an investment, doesn’t mean it’s always the right one for you. In fact, we’re often focu...

People rarely sustain the exact same routine forever, really. Habits are meant to be used as tools, and sure, some of them stick for many years, but more often than not, I drop habits like it’s bath night at the nunnery! Most things I begin, I give up on. Literal obsessions I have had over the years have given way to make space for new/updated experiences.  Imagine if we clung SO tightly to e...

Momentum is far more valuable than motivation. Motivation is inconsistent. Some days I feel like a superhero but most days I just wanna take a nap + eat hot chips. It seems silly to say to “just start” as if it’s easy - sure, starting may be simple, but it ain’t easy. That said, it is easier to stand up + start, than to tack on the additional labor of convincing yourself to stand up + start first,...

Your life is subjective to you. Your friends are THE BEST. Your hometown is THE BEST. Your TV preferences, favorite restaurant, sports team, all the best right? So why not alter your language to speak the same way about yourself? If youre the main character you’re also the writer/producer/supporting character. Energy does beget energy so when we start acting like a main character? We may start rec...

Life is a very nuanced and specific experience, so, I'm aware that some days, some messages might not feel relevant to you. Even if things don’t seem immediately relatable, keep an open mind but remember that even improvement seeking can be a trap. Moderation + balance is the key to creating harmony in ANY aspect of our lives, and everything can be abused if overused, including self care, health,...

DAY 1: Why should you make your bed?  You have one! Gratitude is a scientifically backed way to improve well-being. Starting your day with genuine mindfulness can change the game.  It makes your room look clean! Typically, the bed is the largest, most eye-catching item in your room and it’s a high pay off for very little tucking and straightening.   It’s gratifying! A quick fir...

I can't believe it's been 900 days of this wild ride. We're just getting started, if all goes right. Thank YOU so much for being here. You're truly the most incredible piece to this puzzle and I don't think you understand how much I love and adore and appreciate you!!!! Also, please send me questions/prompts/ideas if you want to hear SPECIFIC episodes coming up. I'd love to do some personal stuff...

Life can truly be so very hard, but sometimes we can make it a little easier by facing the hard things with intention and purpose. Some things seem hard at first but pay off and make life so much easier later. Like discipline. Forgiveness. Honesty. Generosity. Radical Acceptance. (credit to Arthur C. Brooks) 1. Name your fears and face them, 2. Know your appetites and control them., 3. Be neither...

Life can truly be so very hard, but sometimes we can make it a little easier by facing the hard things with intention and purpose. Some things seem hard at first but pay off and make life so much easier later. Like discipline. Forgiveness. Honesty. Generosity. Radical Acceptance. (credit to Arthur C. Brooks) 1. Name your fears and face them, 2. Know your appetites and control them., 3. Be neither...

We’re either too busy to nap, or feel so guilty about trying that we can’t. Then, when we can nap, we feel bad because we don’t like that we don’t wake up perfectly ready to make more productivity!  Think about your own relationship with naps, how is it? If it’s bad, let me know because I bet I can source it back to capitalism somehow and if it’s good? Let me know because I want that for myse...

anger can be a very powerful catalyst for action + change. but it's also dangerous for the person with the anger - if they're not careful, it can blow up in our face. so, spend time in nature, embrace the joy and hope when it comes, but don't lose sight of how valuable getting pissed (and sometimes petty) can be. RESOURCES : https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2022/01/why-im-staying-angry-...

anger can be a very powerful catalyst for action + change. but it's also dangerous for the person with the anger - if they're not careful, it can blow up in our face. so, spend time in nature, embrace the joy and hope when it comes, but don't lose sight of how valuable getting pissed (and sometimes petty) can be. RESOURCES : https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2022/01/why-im-staying-angry-...

"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has." - Margaret Mead RESOURCES : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Margaret_Mead and https://www.britannica.com/biography/Margaret-Mead and https://www.loc.gov/exhibits/mead/mead-shaping.html GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM...

The neuroscience behind ADHD is complex and still not fully understood. However, research has shown that people with ADHD have lower levels of dopamine in the brain. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that plays a role in attention, motivation, and learning. When people with ADHD have lower levels of dopamine, they may have difficulty paying attention, staying focused, and completing tasks. If you thi...

ADHD is not an easy thing to cope with, but there are people out there sharing what's worked for them, and that works for me. And as the famous @the-majestic-cheese-turtle once advised: "waterproof clock in the shower, trash can with automatic lids, wall hooks for your regular hoodie, and clear bins so that things can be stored but aren't invisible." may be a great place to start. Also @earthtokk...

Women have been chronically left out of important conversations for generations, but the science community is finally putting some effort into studying ADHD and the effects of a late-stage diagnosis. Today, I highlight a few of those.  RESOURCES : https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7422602/ https://neurodivergentinsights.com/misdiagnosis-monday/adhd-vs-autism https://www.therapyden....

key to challenging negative core beliefs is to start by identifying them, so we can understand them and critique them for their inconsistencies or harmful perpetuation of behaviors. Uncovering the hidden influences can help us remember our power against their impact! RESOURCES + LINKS: https://positivepsychology.com/socratic-questioning/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com T...

when we make assumptions, we are living within the walls of those assumptions. when we choose black and white, all or nothing thinking, we don’t account for the magic that lies in the color, and the gray. these deeply rooted interpretation of ourselves cause us to assume things are true when often they are not, but they also limit us to the (often bleak) filter we’ve been interpreting the wor...

For our entire lives, every single one of us has been developing a filter through which we see and interpret the world. This filter dictates the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, about other people, and the world around us, but because we’ve carried this narrator with us our entire lives, it can be hard to tell which stories are actually fiction, and it can be even more difficult to remem...

Weaponized incompetence refers to the deliberate use of ignorance, incompetence, or lack of skill in a relationship as a manipulative tactic to avoid responsibility, gain control, or shift blame onto the other person. This form of manipulation can be harmful and destructive to the dynamics of a relationship, leading to frustration, resentment, and a lack of trust. Understanding how weaponized inco...