Make Your Damn Bed

A lot of us are forced to make decisions daily that don’t align with our values. Many of us continue working for or otherwise supporting the evil corporation we wish to divest from, or we continue eating factory farmed meat despite wanting to lean into more plant based options, or we spend all day scrolling for companies we don’t want to have our data. I check social media despite knowing it will...

"We produce machines that are like men and men who are like machines." "Why is man so prone to obey and why is it so difficult for him to disobey? As long as I am obedient to the power of the State, the Church, or public opinion, I feel safe and protected. In fact it makes little difference what power it is that I am obedient to." Erich Fromm: On Disobedience Follow the BDS movement. How to organi...

Practicing disobedience is not an all or nothing strategy. Do what you can when you can how you can. Anything is better than nothing. Reclaim your time where you can, especially at work. Cancel your amazon. Stop buying fast fashion. Learn to mend and sew. Do a clothing swap. Support the BDS movement. Shop local when you can. But don't be hard on yourself if you can't make these changes. Becoming m...

Reject the surveillance state. Trash your Alexa. Drown your ring camera. Reject all unnecessary permissions. Turn off any added access where possible. Stop using google for everyday searches. Poison the "AI" well with false information. Stop relying on algorithms so much. THE SOURCES: https://caitcamelia.substack.com/p/disobey-or-die https://caitcamelia.substack.com/p/violence-might-be-the-answer...

Disobedience requires courage - not only the courage to break a rule but the courage to stand alone in doing so. Some rules are created for the protection and best interest of everyone following them. They are implemented to keep people following the same procedures and processes so that things can be done effectively, efficiently, or enjoyably. A teacher implements rules because they want to crea...

Jung had some interesting takes on personality and archetypes, many of which don't hold up today. That said, they are interesting and insightful in other ways. THE SOURCES: https://appliedjung.com/blog/four-steps-to-transformation-in-jungian-psychology-and-gnostic-alchemy https://www.verywellmind.com/what-are-jungs-4-major-archetypes-2795439 Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support JULIE (and the show!)...

You are not only what you consciously intend. You are also what you habitually avoid, deny, and disown. The shadow is not your enemy, and it is not your identity. It is the place where refused life accumulates, waiting to be integrated into a conscious relationship. Shadow work can support personal growth because it reduces the need for denial and projection. It can also soften the intensity...

You're not broken, you're human. And being human is often difficult and contradictory work. Shadow work is grounded in deep internal reflection, not self-optimization. "J ung describes the shadow as containing not only rejected or socially unacceptable impulses, but also normal instincts and creative capacities that have been disowned in the process of adaptation. The problem is not that these imp...

Confidence, drive, boundary setting, focus, and self-led intention are considered "bad traits" in a patriarchal society, but they aren't. https://moral-ranking.fandom.com/wiki/Villains https://meridianuniversity.edu/content/shadow-work-meaning-in-jungian-psychology-explained https://academyofideas.com/2020/02/how-to-integrate-your-shadow/ Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support JULIE (and the show!) Su...

One thing I appreciate about the villain archetype is the confidence it implies. Darth Vader isn’t gonna procrastinate because he is too tired or lacks the confidence to start. Bad guys don’t tend to second guess themselves constantly or question whether or not they deserve it. They always deserve it. They don’t give a fuck about anyone else’s approval.  https://heroinejourneys.com/healing-jo...

We all love the idea of a redemption arc. We love the idea of hitting rock bottom and bouncing up and transforming into a confident, powerful badass permanently. As humans, we tend to see things in black and white, before and after, cut and dry. But it’s important to remember that no timeline or journey or arc is linear.  Unfortunately life, and healing, is a messy process. Unfortunately it i...

Part of me wants to beat a bitch's ass and part of me wants to shut down completely. This conflict makes us feel bad for feeling bad. We have to learn how to integrate these conflicting feelings. Mental housekeeping is a crucial part of the process. "We all go through the healing cycle many times in our lives. It is inevitable that we may be disappointed by others' or by our own behavior at times....

The healing journey is not linear and it exists in many forms. The healing journey outlined by the Buddhist Library is: HURT.    FEAR OR ANGER.    FEAR AND ANGER GIVE RISE TO CONFLICTS.    LOSS OF LOVE FOR SELF AND/OR OTHERS.    ACTIVATION OF THE DEATH OR ILLNESS WISH.    LIFT IN LIFE ENERGY. DECISION TO GET WELL WHATEVER THAT MEANS, WHATEVER IT TA...

Note: When I speak of women vs. men in this context I don’t do it to reinforce the binary. I don’t believe in the binary, but because we grew up and now exist in a society that reinforces the binary at every turn, I am speaking in regards to how we tend to be raised on gender lines. I hope this will apply to individuals regardless of gender, but when I speak about specific genders being affected,&...

Do no harm but take no shit. Historically, especially under a patriarchal rule, women have been taught to be selfless, self sacrificing, useful, and kind over everything else.  The goal is to be seen and not heard. To be pleasant and palatable. While I think those are great virtues and attributes under a normal context, the patriarchy is not a normal context. Our society puts profits over peo...

"Some things are up to us and some are not up to us. Our opinions are up to us, and our impulses, desires, aversions—in short, whatever is our own doing. Our bodies are not up to us, nor are our possessions, our reputations... whatever is not our own doing.” - Epictetus "Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does.” He also said, "Freed...

A human being is a creature that doesn’t author the architecture in which it chooses from, so it can only act within the possibilities that it is capable of perceiving and expand those possibilities though learning, which can influence but never secure the outcome of their choices and therefore must live inside a permanent tension between agency and uncertainty. Growth is not escaping that tension...

be realistic, expect miracles. The universe is chaotic and the more we fight that the harder it is to deal with it. Resistance of that truth is the problem, not the truth itself. When we finally learn to accept the reality that the universe is unpredictable, we stop limiting ourselves to our expectations.  I am constantly at war with the reality of the universe. I cling to shit I can’t have a...

Uncertainty feels unbearable and can send us spiraling, keeping us trapped in our heads. It's important to get out of your head and into your body when this happens. THE SOURCES: https://gsas.harvard.edu/news/coping-uncertainty https://creativemindspsychotherapy.com/2021/10/21/anxiety-happens-when-you-have-no-outlet-for-your-creativity/ Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support JULIE (and the show!) Supp...

Emilia Fart has a poem she published on her TikTok in which she said, “When desolate, empty, and inspiration barren, remember the apricot you’ll eat next august, juice running down your chin. Remember lying on your back getting grass stains on your boomers pissing the day away. Remember wiping crumbs of good bread and butter from the corners of your mouth and smirking from the delight. Remember th...

We can't ask karma to do compassion's job. Acceptance and action are meant to be utilized together. Learn to separate what must be accepted from what must be changed. Don't make victory a measure of your worth. THE SOURCE: https://blog.dharma-renaissance.org/philosophy/how-to-face-suffering-and-moral-crisis-through-dharma/ Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support JULIE (and the show!) Support + get some...

Nature is indifferent to my interpretations of morality and justice.  We humans tend to moralize everything, but not everything has a moral. Every ending doesn’t have to feel like a punishment for bad behavior. This means that some of the most painful things that have happened to you had absolutely nothing to do with your character. You didn’t make mistakes and fail and deserve some painful o...

You don't know what you don't know, but the curse is that you think you do. If we make a good choice that works out badly, we are often very harsh on ourselves for making that decision in the first place, even though the results are only obvious after the fact, we will still blame ourselves for not knowing the future.  The hindsight bias pushes us to avoid risks, but it also brings undeserved...

Where might your current worldview be holding you back from the truth? THE SOURCES: https://en.wikiversity.org/wiki/Evaluating_Evidence https://en.wikiversity.org/wiki/Virtues/Humility/Being_99.9%25_Ignorant https://en.wikiversity.org/wiki/Exploring_Worldviews Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support JULIE (and the show!) Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON . Get an occasional personal email...

We shouldn't be seeking focus, we should be seeking reverence. Depth and fulfillment comes from awe. Our culture is obsessed with optimization, but that only disconnects us from our humanity. Focus keeps us. Reverence stops us in our tracks. Awe makes us more generous, loving, connected, patient, and abundant. Create space for awe by staying present and avoiding avoidance. SOURCES: https://www.sci...