Make Your Damn Bed

The goal is to “ consume consciously” more often than you’re letting shit " consume you, unconsciously ”. James Baldwin puts it like this: “The industry is compelled, given the way it is built, to present to the American people a self-perpetuating fantasy of American life. Their concept of entertainment is difficult to distinguish from the use of narcotics. To watch the TV screen for any length of...

We all have limited time and if shit doesn’t make us feel empowered or better or less nihilistic, then we have to remember we’ve ultimately got the power to change that.  You’re allowed to and supposed to watch entertainment for joy and motivation and pleasure and curiosity and even to be petty as long as you don’t forget that the entertainment is affecting you in more than one way so in my e...

The title buries the lede, because there is no upside, but there are ways to avoid falling victim to the trap of consuming with no idea of the impact. It's good practice to assume that everything you're consuming online or on TV is marketing, either of a person, an ideology, or a product, which wouldn't be a big deal if it was honest with us. The lie leads to shame and homogeny and an overall feel...

These influencers make careers out of convincing you to give yours up. It seems pretty obvious that it’s supposed to benefit men but in reality it benefits nobody - people that don’t fall sharply into a gender binary suffer, women suffer, and unfortunately even men suffer under this system.   The whole thing contradicts itself. It’s snake oil. Toxic fumes to huff so you’re too high to notice...

I think the skeeziest lie about the trad wife movement is that it’s just a type of stay at home mom. Unlike stay-at-home moms, who may choose to stay home for practical reasons, like saving money on child care or because they genuinely want to, trad wives adhere to incredibly strict traditional gender roles - regardless of what the woman actually wants. A woman's identity becomes "the fa...

It's not the filters, or the photoshops, or the ads - it's a combination of all of it. It's keeping us so insecure that we don't do anything but focus on how we look. Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund:: www.pcrf.net Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM...

Bachelor Contestants have spoken out about how dates, meltdowns, and interactions were directed by producers. Pawn Stars admits to rehearsing and choosing their interactions.  House Hunters pretends to have them choose between three houses, but their house was already purchased. The other two were just for the show. Survivor contestants admit to getting help and storylines from off camer...

I think everything these days wants to steal our attention. And if it’s been a while since we checked in with that and how comfortable we are giving up all of life‘s best moments for bullshit that (if we could remember) would not matter at all.  So it’s nice to reclaim a bit of it for ourselves. In whatever ways we can manage. If that’s carving out a few minutes a day to dance? I think that’s...

Dance has been outperforming SSRI's, anti-depressants, and all other forms of exercise in combatting depression symptoms in multiple studies. It makes sense to me that the combination of mental + physical coordination, the way it grounds you + forces you to be present, and the social aspect would have a profound effect on our health but it makes you wonder what other cultural practices and wisdom...

Dance has been outperforming SSRI's, anti-depressants, and all other forms of exercise in combatting depression symptoms in multiple studies. It makes sense to me that the combination of mental + physical coordination, the way it grounds you + forces you to be present, and the social aspect would have a profound effect on our health but it makes you wonder what other cultural practices and wisdom...

Reminder 1. The point of self care is to care for yourself, not add unnecessary shame or heighten the stakes.  Reminder 2: You can’t optimize yourself out of experiencing all pain and discomfort. Reminder 3: There is no one size fits all fix to any problem. REMINDER 4: Sometimes, if we’re really lucky - we will find things that can help offer guideposts through a very tricky existence. ...

THE PROBLEM WITH SELF CARE + HOW TO DEAL WITH IT PROBLEM 1: NO SIMPLE DEFINITION  But because being a human includes incredibly diverse experiences, and inherently dealing with messy and complicated things, we can safely assume that caring for yourself is bound to be a little messy and complicated, too.  PROBLEM 2: CAPITALISM :  People are constantly trying to bottle and sell you so...

Hey friend! I had a technical difficulty today + the episode I planned didn't upload properly but I have fixed it (I think) and it will be uploaded tomorrow, as normal. Hope you enjoy this repost of my passion for food in the meantime. I AM SORRY + I LOVE YOU. -- Julie Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Some rules of thumb we review today include: "Is there a better use of my time?" "Stress vs. Reward Analysis" "It's okay to not finish a book you were reading for pleasure." "The braggers razor: the more someone brags, the less you should believe them." "Writing knife block: If struggling to understand something, write it down." "Opinions are earned, not owed." "Under-promise, and over-deliver." R...

Feynman Razor: If you can't explain it to a 5 year old, you don't really understand it. The Luck Razor: Much of what we call "luck" is the macro result of thousands of micro actions. The Arena Razor: When faced with two paths, choose the path that puts you in the arena. Once you're in the arena, never take advice from people on the sidelines. The Optimist Razor: When choosing who to spend time wit...

Alder's Razor: If something cannot be settled by experiment or observation, then it is not worthy of debate. Sagan Standard: Positive claims require positive evidence, extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence. Grice's Razor: Conversational implications are to be preferred over semantic context for linguistic explanations. Chekhov's Gun: If it appeared in foreshadowing, it will like...

Occam's Razor: The simplest answer is often the answer. Hanlon's Razor: Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity. Hitchen's Razor: I must provide evidence for my claim, rather than demand you provide evidence against it. and Hume's Guillotine : You can't derive a moral imperative from a factual description of nature. THE SOURCES: The Philosophical Razors: https...

Here's the final part to the Fleetwood Mac deep dive. Watch the Silver Springs Video: 1997 "The Dance" vs. 2003's Boston Show https://www.tiktok.com/@m0dser/video/7437140094764469536: Official 1997 Silver Springs Full Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eDwi-8n054s THE SOURCES: Fleetwood Mac Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fleetwood_Mac 1997 Interview for Rolling Stone https://www.roll...

The Stevie Nicks + Lindsay Buckingham lore runs DEEP. Here's part 3. THE SOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fleetwood_Mac https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/fleetwood-mac-back-on-the-chain-gang-243176/5/ https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/music/story/2021-09-10/stevie-nicks-lindsey-buckingham-relationship-timeline http://www.inherownwords.com/lindsey.htm https://www.tiktok.c...

Fleetwood Mac lore runs DEEP and today we're breaking it down from the beginning. Part 1: Peter Green creates a band, does some bad drugs, and quits the band. The guitarist does some bad drugs, quits the band and joins a cult. The rest of the band keeps touring and putting out albums every six months because apparently there were also good drugs at the time. Part 2: The new guy has an affair with...

Fleetwood Mac lore runs DEEP and today we're breaking it down from the beginning. Part 1: Peter Green creates a band, does some bad drugs, and quits the band. The guitarist does some bad drugs, quits the band and joins a cult. The rest of the band keeps touring and putting out albums every six months because apparently there were also good drugs at the time. Sources: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/...

There's been an uptick in far-right/christo-fascist content on almost all of my various feeds lately. I've personally got a VERY niche "far left"/"abolitionist" social media feed, but recently this wildly problematic propaganda has been sneaking into every corner. But it's not just me. Trump appointed a grifter to sell "prayer" that would heal your illnesses and give you wealth for the ridiculousl...

The four common phases of political evolution are: That's sad, That's fucked up, Fuck this shit, How do we get free? Original source was removed but here's a repost from another great creator: https://www.instagram.com/ijeomaoluo/p/C9VPQIZPE5z/?img_index=10 Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund:: www.pcrf.net Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds GE...

Today I'm sharing a few techniques that can help to build a healthier relationship with me and my screens. Putting a rubber band or hair tie around your phone is a cheap and super effective way to increase your mindfulness of your usage. 20-20-20 rule . Every 20 minutes, take a 20 second break looking at something 20 feet away. Having an alternative available builds the muscle of doing other activ...

"Screen use is a complex phenomenon with a continuum of behaviors ranging from severe use to complete abstinence. Some forms of use are safer than others and this should be discussed with children upfront. Remember that use and unhealthy use aren’t the same as addiction." - Kevin Y Xu  ,  Tiffany Tedrick ,  Jessica A Gold Screen Use and Social Media “Addiction” in the Era of TikTok:...