Loving that Midlife

Have you ever felt like you should have midlife more figured out by now — but somehow the ground just keeps shifting beneath you? You're not alone. And you're not broken. In honor of 50 episodes of Loving That Midlife, Lori is sharing the five mindset shifts that she comes back to again and again — both in her coaching practice and in her own life. These are the shifts that don't ju...

Your college kid is almost home — and you have feelings about that. You're excited. You've missed them. You've maybe already planned their favorite meals. And you're also a little nervous about what it's going to look like when two very different sets of expectations collide under the same roof. In this episode, we're talking about how to welcome your college kid home...

Have you ever thought, “I’ve worked on this… so why is it still bothering me?” You’ve done the work. You understand your patterns. You’re trying to respond differently. And yet—you still get triggered. In this episode, we’re talking about why emotional triggers don’t just disappear—even after growth—and why that doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. If you’ve ever felt frustrated with yourself...

Do you ever make a decision you feel good about… and then immediately start questioning it?  You set a boundary, say no, or take care of yourself—and suddenly you feel guilty. Like maybe you’re doing it wrong.  In this episode, we’re talking about that familiar midlife feeling of second-guessing yourself—even when you haven’t actually done anything wrong.  I share a personal story from this past w...

If you’ve ever avoided a conversation because you didn’t want to upset someone, this episode is for you.  So many women in midlife struggle with confrontation—not because they don’t care, but because they were raised to be “good girls.” Good girls don’t rock the boat, don’t complain, and don’t make things uncomfortable.  But avoiding hard conversations doesn’t create peace—it creates resentment, d...

When your adult child is struggling, everything in you wants to fix it.  You want to step in.  Make a call.  Say the right thing.  Take the pain away.  But what happens when you can’t?  In this episode, we’re talking about one of the hardest and most overlooked parts of parenting adult children— watching them go through something difficult… and having no way to make it better.  Whether it’s a situ...

When your adult child makes a decision you don’t agree with, it can bring up a very specific kind of tension. You’re not in charge anymore… but you still care deeply. In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to navigate those moments—when your adult child chooses something you wouldn’t choose, and every part of you wants to step in, say something, or steer the outcome. You’ll hear:...

If you’ve ever found yourself standing in your kitchen, listening to your adult child share a problem… and feeling that immediate urge to fix it—this episode is for you. Because here’s the truth: Parenting doesn’t get easier when our kids grow up… it just gets different. In this episode, we’re talking about one of the hardest and least talked about parts of parenting adult children—knowing how to...

In midlife, many women begin to realize how much they’ve been carrying for years — managing emotions, solving problems, keeping the peace, and making sure everything holds together. In the last episode, we talked about what happens when you finally stop over-functioning. Instead of relief, many women feel uncomfortable, restless, or unsure what to do next. So what comes after that? In this episode...

When you stop over-functioning — stop fixing, managing, and carrying what isn’t yours — the discomfort doesn’t always come from inside you. Often, it comes from the people around you.  In this episode of Loving That Midlife , we talk about what happens after you stop over-functioning: why families, workplaces, and relationships push back, why that resistance doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong, and...

Are you responsible — or are you carrying things that were never yours to manage?  In midlife, many capable women find themselves exhausted, anxious, and quietly resentful — not because they aren’t doing enough, but because they’re doing too much . Waking everyone up. Tracking schedules. Managing emotions. Preventing problems before they happen.  In this episode, we talk about over-functioning — w...

Sometimes the low-level anxiety women feel in midlife isn’t coming from unprocessed emotions...it’s coming from an unmade decision. In the last episode, we talked about how unnamed emotions can leak out sideways as irritability, tension, or reactivity. But in this episode, we’re naming something different: the anxiety that shows up when a decision stays open too long. When a decision remains unmad...

Feeling more irritable, overwhelmed, or emotionally reactive in midlife — and not always sure why? In this episode of Loving That Midlife , we’re talking about something many women experience but rarely have language for: unprocessed, low-level emotions that build up in the background and come out sideways. You’ll learn why saying “I feel like…” isn’t actually naming an emotion, how to identify wh...

When circumstances are objectively hard, midlife can feel overwhelming — and no amount of positive thinking can change that.  In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck, master certified Christian life coach, shares a real-time story from the Nashville ice storm and what it revealed about emotional responsibility, nervous system regulation, and how people respond so differently to the same...

Who am I now? If you’re a woman in your 40s or 50s and quietly wondering why life feels different — even though nothing is technically “wrong” — this episode is for you. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck, Master Certified Christian Life Coach, explores the identity shifts many women experience in midlife when long-held roles change or come to an end. Whether you’re no longer activ...

Midlife doesn’t just make women tired — it can bring many of us to a breaking point.  In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Master Certified Christian Life Coach Lori Buck talks about a pattern she’s seeing everywhere: thoughtful, capable women hitting midlife exhaustion and feeling the sudden urge to quit — to stop cooking, stop volunteering, stop carrying the emotional load, or walk away from...

Life can feel more exhausting in midlife than it used to — and for many women, that exhaustion feels confusing and discouraging. Instead of seeing it as a season shift, we often turn it inward and judge ourselves for being more tired, less patient, or less capable than we once were. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Master Certified Christian Life Coach Lori Buck explains why midlife truly...

What do you do when you fall off track with your goals — because at some point, you will? In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Christian life coach Lori Buck talks about the part of goal-setting and personal growth that rarely gets discussed: how to rebuild after you mess up . This episode is for women in midlife who are tired of all-or-nothing thinking and want a more realistic, emotionally m...

January doesn’t require urgency — it needs clarity. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck shares a grounded, emotionally mature approach to planning the new year in midlife — without pressure, hustle, or “new year, new you” energy. This episode is for women in their 40s and 50s who want to slow down, get clear, and move forward intentionally, instead of reacting to another January. Lo...

If the idea of “reflecting on the year” immediately turns into self-criticism, pressure, or a mental scorecard — this episode is for you.  In this Christmas Eve episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck invites you to pause and look back on the year you actually lived — not with judgment or shame, but with honesty, kindness, and compassion.  This is not an episode about doing more, fixing yoursel...

That voice in your head telling you you’re behind… failing… or not enough? It’s not wisdom. It’s your inner critic — and she’s louder than ever in midlife. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , we’re talking about the meanest bully most women know — not the one from sixth grade, but the one living inside our own heads. The voice that shows up when growth feels uncomfortable, when you’re trying...

Are you tired of feeling overlooked, disappointed, and underappreciated during the holidays? If so, this episode will change the way you experience Christmas — forever. For so many women, the holidays highlight the gap between what we hope our family will do…and what actually happens. We wait for someone else to create the magic, plan the moments, remember our needs, or make us feel appreciated. A...

Friend, if you’ve ever felt like your family’s emotional pack mule — carrying everyone’s stress, disappointment, frustration, or overwhelm — this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. Today we’re talking about: • Why moms become the emotional carriers in the family • How this role starts long before we even notice it • What happens to you when you take on everyone else’s emotions • What hap...

Friend, why is it that we can be doing so well — growing, healing, renewing our minds — and then one holiday gathering with family can send us straight back into our old patterns?   Today on Loving That Midlife , we’re talking about why that happens… and how you can show up as your true, grounded, adult self this holiday season, no matter how anyone else behaves.  In this episode, you’ll learn:  •...

What really happens when your college kid comes home for Thanksgiving and winter break? If you’ve ever dreamed of cozy family time — only to be met with attitude, exhaustion, or a debate tournament at the dinner table — friend, you are not alone. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Christian Life Coach Lori Buck shares what moms truly need to know about navigating the emotional ups and downs...