Loving that Midlife

What if resentment isn't an emotion you need to get rid of, but one you need to pay attention to? Whether you're resentful of another person, your busy calendar, your responsibilities, or even things you once prayed for, your resentment may be trying to tell you something. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck explores why resentment shows up, how it can coexist with gratitu...

Why does Thanksgiving sometimes feel more like work than a holiday? Between preparing the meal, managing family expectations, and trying to make everyone happy, it’s easy to end up exhausted before the celebration even begins. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck explores why we take on so much responsibility for the holidays and how resentment can signal that something needs to chan...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation only to replay it in your head 47 more times? Maybe you're wondering what someone meant, wishing you'd responded differently, or worrying that you said something awkward. If you find yourself overthinking conversations and second-guessing yourself, you're not alone. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck, Master Certified Chr...

Why are we so uncomfortable with our own emotions? Whether it's anger, fear, sadness, or even joy, many of us have learned to push our feelings aside, judge ourselves for having them, or try to make them go away as quickly as possible. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , master-certified Christian Life Coach, Lori Buck, explores why feeling your feelings is an important part of emotional...

What if the goal of life isn’t to avoid every difficult experience, but to become the kind of person who can navigate difficult experiences well? In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori Buck explores what it means to see life itself as a curriculum—and why some of the hardest things we experience may teach us lessons we couldn’t learn any other way. This can be especially difficult when it co...

How often do you find yourself digging in because you know you’re right? Maybe it’s an argument with your husband, a disagreement with an adult child, or simply frustration when someone doesn’t do something the way you think it should be done. But what if being right isn’t always the most important thing? In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck explores the question, “Do you want to be...

What if the way you’re experiencing your life has less to do with what’s happening around you and more to do with the way you’re relating to what happens? In midlife, it’s easy to find ourselves thinking, “This is just how things are,” or “There’s nothing I can do about it.” But what if there’s another way to approach the life we’re living? In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck introd...

What if quitting isn’t failure? We’ve been told that quitters never win and that we should finish what we start—but sometimes continuing to do something that no longer works for us isn’t perseverance. Sometimes it’s simply staying stuck. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck explores what it means to change your mind in midlife. Maybe you’ve outgrown a tradition, a family role, a resp...

What are you waiting for? In midlife, it's easy to put our lives on hold while we wait for something to change. We tell ourselves we'll be happier when the kids are more independent, when our marriage is better, when our bodies feel different, when we have more time, or when we finally figure out what we want. But what if we're spending too much of our lives in what Dr. Seuss called...

What if the thing making a hard situation even harder isn't the circumstance itself—but the fight you're having with the fact that it's happening? In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck explores what it means to stop fighting reality when you're facing something you can't change. Because some circumstances really are hard. Dementia, addiction, difficult relatio...

What happens when your body changes in midlife—and you don't know whether the change is temporary or your new normal? A sore joint, lingering injury, hormonal changes, or a new physical limitation can leave you wondering, “Can I fix this, or is this the body I have now?” In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori Buck explores the emotional side of living in a changing midlife body, includ...

What happens when you decide to learn something new in midlife—and suddenly find yourself feeling like you should already know how to do it? That’s the topic Lori Buck covers this week on Loving That Midlife, because it's exactly where she's found herself recently while starting a new music theory class. Although she's excited to learn, she's also had some moments of frustratio...

You pictured college drop-off a certain way. Maybe there would be tears, hugs, a meaningful goodbye, and a Hallmark-worthy moment with your child. But what if reality looks completely different? What if your child is anxious, distracted, excited to leave, or seems ready for you to go? What if the goodbye you've imagined for months lasts five minutes in a parking lot? In this episode of Loving...

What happens when your teenager is getting ready to leave for college—and suddenly everything feels a little… weird? They’re excited to leave, but they’re also irritated, distant, argumentative, or picking fights with their siblings. You’re trying to soak up these “last few weeks” together, while also wondering why everyone seems to be getting on everyone else’s nerves. If you’ve experienced this,...

Last week, we talked about one of the biggest realizations of midlife: our days are numbered. So now what? Do we panic? Reinvent ourselves? Start checking off a bucket list? In this Season 1 finale of Loving That Midlife , Lori explores a quieter—and ultimately more meaningful—response. Instead of asking, "What do I have to get done today?" what if midlife invites us to ask, "What a...

Have you ever caught yourself doing the math? Someone casually says, "Thirty years from now," and before you even realize it, your mind is calculating how old you'll be. If so, you're not alone. In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori explores a midlife realization that almost no one talks about: the moment when aging stops being an idea and starts feeling personal. This...

Have you ever looked at your marriage and wondered, "How did we get here?" Maybe nothing is terribly wrong, but something feels different. The kids have grown up, the house is quieter, and now you have the space to notice changes in your relationship that were easy to overlook during the busy years of raising a family. In this episode, we're talking about why long marriages often fe...

For years, many women have been asking the same questions:  What needs to be done next? Who needs me? What's the priority?   Then midlife arrives, and suddenly a new question appears:  What do I want?   And surprisingly, many of us don't know how to answer it.  In this episode, Lori explores why so many midlife women struggle to identify their own desires, preferences, and dreams after y...

Why do so many women feel lonely in midlife—even when they're surrounded by people? In this episode of Loving That Midlife , Lori explores the surprising reasons loneliness often shows up during the empty nest and midlife years. Sometimes the problem isn't a lack of people. Sometimes it's the loss of the roles, routines, and connections that once filled our days. You'll learn:...

  One year. Fifty-five episodes. Countless conversations with women navigating midlife.  When I started Loving That Midlife , I hoped to encourage women through the challenges of this season. What I didn't expect was how much I would learn from all of you.  In this special anniversary episode, I'm sharing the biggest patterns I've noticed after a year of podcasting, coaching, and ta...

Family vacations can create beautiful memories… and also reveal every unresolved stress response you have. In this relatable summer episode, Lori Buck shares the realities of vacation prep in midlife: the packing, planning, overstimulation, hormonal stress, travel anxiety, emotional labor, and pressure women often carry while trying to make sure everyone else has a good time. This episode will hel...

Have you ever found yourself with more space than you've had in years — and somehow that space feels more uncomfortable than you expected? You're not broken. You might just be in the midlife in-between.  In this episode, Lori gets real about her own experience navigating the season after homeschooling ended, her kids grew up, and her days stopped being built around everyone else's n...

Are you stepping into the role of mother-in-law — or already in it and wondering if you're getting it right? You're not alone. And this episode is for you.  Lori shares the practical advice, mindset shifts, and honest coaching she gives to women navigating one of the most significant new relationships of midlife: the relationship with a child's spouse.  In this episode, you'll...

Mother’s Day can bring flowers, brunch, and sweet social media posts… but for many women, it also brings disappointment.  Maybe you only got a text from your adult kids. Maybe your husband didn’t plan anything. Maybe you spent the weekend celebrating everyone else and ended the day feeling unseen, hurt, or resentful.  In this episode, Lori talks honestly about the emotional expectations many women...

Have you ever felt like you should have midlife more figured out by now — but somehow the ground just keeps shifting beneath you? You're not alone. And you're not broken. In honor of 50 episodes of Loving That Midlife, Lori is sharing the five mindset shifts that she comes back to again and again — both in her coaching practice and in her own life. These are the shifts that don't ju...