Loving Relationships for Women of Color

Tonight we talk about “equality” when it comes to dating and relationships and the way we sabotage intimacy by buying into being “the Prize”. I’m also going to list how any man or woman can truly be a prize, no validation needed.

"Should he pay?" and all the other nerve-wracking ways we 'should' all over our dating and relating. Also, the most important thing to apply to dating in the age of COVID and social anxiety. 

Countering the effects of COVID and beyond. Why fatness and loneliness have nothing to do with your relationship status. How to transform your body using your mind. #covid19lbs #quarantineweight #fatandlonely #loneliness

10 ways to make sure you stay single. The best thing is that none of them require much effort and you may already be doing them. I know I have been. Check it out, join the conversation, and see if you can come up with any more. #singleaf #lovecoach #dating #askforcandy

Why it's the "hard" work that makes life so much easier. Let's talk about "The Work" and the amazing Byron Katie. Join this conversation and let me know how you think this could make a huge difference for you in your relationships. 

All the questions to ask yourself to find out where you might be blocking your romantic desires. Whether you are stuck in a dead relationship, in a singlehood holding pattern, struggling with sexual dysfunction, too conscious about your body to engage in intimate interaction, or in any kind of love life rut whatsoever…

Ever wonder what kind of questions to ask to probe into a woman’s true character? Ever wonder how to ask them without sounding like an HR Director? Last week and this week I’m giving you a two-part series where I share the questions I ask potential daters and the methods I use for getting the most authentic responses. In essence, how I date the daters. This week, the women! You can ask these quest...

Ever wonder what kind of questions to ask to probe into a man’s true character? Ever wonder how to ask them without sounding like an HR Director? This week and next week I’m giving you a two-part series where I share the questions I ask potential daters and the methods I use for getting the most authentic responses. In essence, how I date the daters. Next week, the women! 

Whether it's loneliness, anxiety, or the need for reconnection with an ex, sometimes you gotta ask yourself... Would I be feeling like this if we weren't in a global pandemic? #sexwithex #datingincovid #lovecoach #matchmaker #dating #relationshipgoals

Last week we talked about what coupled people do that single people don’t. This week we’ll talk about what happily coupled people do that unhappy couples don’t, we’ll also talk about what single people do that people who want out of relationships don’t. Confused? Listen in and I’ll iron it all out for you. #relationships #relationshipgoals #couplegoals #communication #relationshipadvice #breakingu...

A look at what people who are in relationships do compared to those who are not in relationships. If you’re single and looking to be coupled, we’ll lay out some healthy ways to learn from coupled people and start something long-term.

Some people spend their entire dating life looking for what’s wrong with other people and some people are happy and in love. Join us for this juicy convo where we talk about why the people who are looking for red flags will never be the people who are happy and in love. What are you focusing on in your dating life? #estherperel #matchmaker #datinginapandemic

Let’s talk about marginalization in love and dating spaces and the narrative that Love Coaches, Gurus, and Matchmakers perpetuate about women over 40, and with good reason. This show is all about truly understanding that our love lives are not a consequence of the state of the world but a product of our own long-held beliefs. How do we transform and experience dream romance? Is it even possible? T...

I talk about my recent discoveries of Kevin Samuels and Rebecca Lynn Pope, lifestyle and dating coaches who have a particular take on women and dating. I also talk about “The Chrysalis”. What it really takes to go from where you are to where you want to be.

Why does it feel like my love life (or any other area of life) is giving me a weight problem. What is my relationship with food? What do I do when I love all the food that does not love me? How did I break up with fat and why is it taking so long to move out? Join the conversation and leave your comments.

The problem is not that we want “chemistry” it’s that we think it’s something that will magically appear and confirm the other person’s relationship worthiness. Tonight we talk about how to develop physical attraction in a sustainable way that supports having a relationship.

Tonight on AFC we talk about Will and Jada on the last Red Table Talk and why what a lot of people are calling “weirdness” really works. We’ll also talk about why we don’t have to be rich or famous to make relationships work for us as well. Stick around til the end for “Matchmaker Moments” and leave your advice for my latest client in the comments.

Coping Skills vs. Coping Mechanisms. One will get you where you want to go, the other is a cycle of instant gratification and guilt. Join us as we talk about developing coping skills and answering the age-old life question... "Now what?"

Exploring "365 Days" the Netflix movie and why it's so wildly popular. How to bring all the intensity and passion in your love life without the glamorized dysfunction. Tired of only watching other people live passionately? This show is for you. 

"Love's in need of Love today", Let's talk about the brutal society we live in and the way we can choose to contribute to the brutality or the LOVE.

So for black lives and all people of color right now mattering is very relevant. We also want to remember that not only do we matter on a global level but also on a micro-level in our individual lives. In this show, I list some things we can do for ourselves individually in support of expressing that we matter in our everyday life. 

What does it mean for your life to have value? Is it possible as a person of color in America? What does it have to do with love? Why did I feel it is so important to speak lovingly to my people? 

Between pandemics, racist murders, dangerous confrontations and just trying to avoid getting coughed on, the last thing we want is to be taken down by our own fear. In 2013 I wrote a blog article called "Water, Yoga, Sex, Magic" about epic level self-care. In 2017 I edited and re-published it to my blog. I was reading it today and was amazed at how well it has held up and for our personal use, it...

Getting right with Mom for the sake of my love life. I read excerpts from my upcoming book. If you've ever wondered why you seem to constantly get in your way with relationships. If you've ever suspected that it may have something to do with your relationship with your Mother. Check out this episode. 

Does it seem like men of a certain age are becoming harder to date or even get to know? Tonight I talk about some recent run-ins with rigidity that sound a lot better than they were. I also talk about Michael Castleman's article from AARP "The Man's Guide to Dating After 50". Let's deep dive. Shall we?