Love Your Life: Love Your Life: Midlife Reinvention, Emotional Regulation, & Parenting

What do do when you feel angry? What can you do when you feel anger? How often do you feel anger about things that happened in your past? How much resentment do you hold towards other people? How annoyed are you at other family members? Or maybe you're never angry. You say "It's all right" or "it's okay" more times a week than you can count. This episode is for you. Anger happens. When we resist i...

There is a lot of heaviness out there.  We are tired of "this".  We're worn out.  We're fed up.  We feel tired, sluggish, and heavy.  We are tolerating a lot in our lives and that leads us to these feeling states.  I hear you and am I am here to offer help and support as you are not at all alone.  Listen in. This episode is for you.   ⭐️Find all links and resources mentioned in the show notes her...

When I meet with parents, I hear two main things: how stressed or anxious they are about their child. Well lucky us! Listen in as I share my top two tools to help! And don't skip this just because you don't have children. You are in relationships, whether with your own parents or with your spouse, friends, or coworkers. You don't want to miss learning about these SMB fan fave tools!     ⭐️Find al...

Fed up? Burnt out? Feel like if you don't ask, it will never get done? Sick of doing it all? Oh my warriors, have you ever heard of emotional labor? Listen in to this week's episode as I get to interview Gemma Hartley, the interview of the book: FED UP! Emotional Labor, Women and the Way Forward.     ⭐️Find all links and resources mentioned in the show notes here:  https://smbwell.com/139 ⭐️See...

This post is for anyone who has a parent. Lol though not kidding. If you're a parent, even better. If you're in a relationship, platonic or romantic, even better! Today let's drop our defenses so that we can learn, love, and accept ourselves and those around us. Here are two tools to become more conscious, compassionate and mindful in our parenting and in our living.      ⭐️Find all links and res...

Shortening the time it takes to make a decision moves us towards living that life we want to be living. When we spend a lot of time in indecision, we feel stress, overwhelm, and mental fatigue.  That's not what I want for you warriors. Listen in to learn the three main factors to consider when making a decision and then let's work together to strengthen our decision making muscle. I'm here for you...

Do you spend more time believing in future you want or finding excuses for why it's not possible?  If you're like most of us, you spend time imagining your worst life rather than your best life.  If you're like most of us, you spend time using your imagination to futurecast a life you don't want to be living instead of one you do want to be living. Tune in to this week's podcast as I speak of futu...

When people ask you about your past, what story do you tell? This is important because as humans, we are unreliable narrators. We think we are telling an accurate version of our life story but we are telling it through our subjective lens. In simple terms, the way we experience life is filtered through the lens through which we see it. Listen in as I share two different stories I can tell about my...

Have you been told you're too much? You laugh too loud? Talk too much? Are too direct? Or is it just me? Lol because I know it's not.  From very young ages, women are taught to play small, to be small, and to not rock the boat. I was praised when I did what others wanted me to do over what I wanted to do. I was threatened or punished if I spoke up for myself or my needs.  How does this show up in...

Oh warriors, this is a great episode! Today I am diving into an ancient personality typing system called the enneagram. I discovered it last year and learning about it has helped me deepen my discovery of myself and why I do what I do. This month we have been focusing on our relationships with other people and today, we're finishing up the series by focusing on your most important relationship, th...

Here you go: The top ways to ruin your romantic relationship. Frankly, these ways can be applied to most any relationship. The irony is, we tend to be better behaved in our other relatksohips; more mindful of what we are doing and what comes out of our mouth. We are experts at adding drama to our intimate relationships and here are some ways we do that.     ⭐️Find all links and resources mentione...

You're not broken Did you need to hear that?  Listen in to this week's episode as this is the sex-ed we never received. The sex education, that because I didn't get it, I went through the first thirty years of my life thinking something was wrong with me. Thinking that I was broken. Truly.  And I'm not alone.  Coaches and sex therapists report that the number one complaint of women is that they fe...

Sex is a wonderful part of our wellness and healthy relationships yet we rarely talk frankly about it.  Let's change that today!!  In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, Dr. Sonia Wright, a sex coach for midlife women, is on the show! We discuss some amazingly helpful topics to help you feel empowered and uplifted.      ⭐️Find all links and resources mentioned in the show notes here: https:/...

When we say yes to something new, we are saying no to something else. If you're a woman growing up in the society, that probably means you've been saying no to you.  The choices you've been making may have led you to say no to your dreams, to your goals, to your health; to your life.  Let's change that.  Choose You this year.  Listen in to specific steps on how to choose you. You matter to me.    ...

Have you ever asked yourself the question: Is this all there is?  This episode is for you. I've asked that question and I now know why. I call this your soul ache.  That inner knowing that you keep putting yourself off.   Your soul knows. You feel it. It's a gentle nudging. A longing. Glennon Doyle speaks of the knowing.  Let me help you.   ⭐️Find all links and resources mentioned in the show not...

We waste a lot of time getting distracted from our best lived life. Thinking we need to do what others want us to do or focusing too much on our weaknesses instead of strengthening our strengths. We waste a lot of time avoiding our life in our thoughts and in our actions. We think up excuses of why things are as they are. We take action that isn't most aligned for us. Looking on facebook, drinking...

We humans often define ourselves based on what we have or haven't done in the past. That leads to futures that look very similar to our past. In fact, our futures looks very similar to what everyone else around us is doing and has done also. If we want something different, we need to start using this tool. Listen in to learn where can you use your future self to create the future your best dreams...

Well, here we are. At the end of a year that none of us could have ever imagined. There were many many lessons and discoveries this past calendar year, and if I could highlight one above all it would be this: we do not have as much control over the external circumstances of our lives as we like to think we do.  Things happen around us. Quarantines, violence, elections, to name a few. 2020 reminded...

How you think of yourself, how you treat yourself, how you value yourself, how you speak of yourself has more of an impact on your wellness and health than any other relationship.  How much attention do you pay to you? How well do you know yourself? Here are three ways to get started nurturing that important relationship this year.  - Give yourself the most important gift this year.  - The gift of...

Fear has no place in love. Deep connected relationships have a foundation of understanding and love, not tiptoeing and fear.  Listen in as our experience of 2020 has brought many troubling relationship patterns to the surface. I share and speak openly about my past experiences of emotional and verbal abuse while providing support to help you or a loved one out of this untenable situation. Love is...

Have you gone to a book club or event with the intention to not drink and had alcohol pushed on you? When you say: "I'm not drinking tonight" people look at you like you must be ill or pregnant?  Alcohol is one of the most widely-used and normalized drug on the planet.  My own experience with sober living and wanting to learn more about aging healthy and what alcohol does to my brain and body led...

Hey dear warriors, lean in close. I have a big secret for you today. A big aha that will impact your overall happiness and the health of all of your relationships….It's not about you. What they said; What they did; What they didn't say; What they didn't do... It's  not  about  you. Listen in for my two ways to bring some freedom back into your life. One of the greatest things we can do for ourselv...

How you feeling dear warrior? How do you WANT to be feeling?  While we don't have control over a lot of what's happening in our lives, we do have control over our reaction and thoughts about what's happening. In today's episode I go through 10 ways you can deliberately raise your vibe! Whatever and wherever we put attention on grows.  When we train our brain to look for what's wrong in the world o...

Oh dear warriors. I honestly can't believe I haven't yet shared these tools with you or made a post about my experience with energy vampires. I will cut myself a break as I probably needed to do more healing first.  Today I'm ready. Energy vampires, cluster B personality disorders, negative people....they're out there.  This podcast will help you identify them and give you tools that work magic in...

Oh dear warriors, I am so excited to talk about how I cut back on drama by switching my view on this one area of my life. What's the area?  Listen in. We all do it and I have tricks to not only do it less but also feel better about yourself in the process.     ⭐️Find all links and resources mentioned in the show notes here: https://smbwell.com/118 ⭐️See if the Love Your Life School is open for e...