Love Under the Scope

In this episode, we explore how meaningful relationship shifts often begin with subtle internal changes rather than big conversations or shared agreements. We look at what it means to take responsibility for our own resistance, reconnect with the playful parts of ourselves, and embody the energy we want to experience with our partner. As we soften into this inner work, our partners naturally feel...

Join us in pondering what love really is in this episode of Love Under the Scope. We've all been sold a story by the media, society and our families around the term 'love'. We're shown endless images of grand gestures, passionate love making and star-crossed lovers-turned married soulmates living happily ever after. But what's there at a deeper level? We'll take a deep dive on what's going on when...

In this episode, we tackle the hard truth around feeling like your partner's parent. Whether you're a man or woman listening, there's something here for you if you feel you are in this dynamic. We'll get into: What the parent-child dynamic is in a romantic relationship How do we get into a dynamic like this Steps for starting to address and unwind the dynamic And hopefully, you'll walk away feelin...

We're constantly getting messages around why our relationship needs to be fixed and perfected. Social media tells us to compare and 'test' the love that we have with our partner. And the self-help world says that there is always something to be worked on. I know I've felt like it's never enough, there is always something "wrong" that needs us to work our butts off to fix. What if everything we eve...

In this episode, we discuss how self-hatred and inner criticism can quietly sabotage your relationships. That harsh inner voice that says you’re not enough doesn’t just affect your confidence - it shapes how you show up with your partner, too. We explore where that voice comes from - childhood conditioning, societal pressure, and fear of rejection - and how it creates walls that block real connect...

Some breakups hit us like a truck. The deep well of emotion that we're faced with after a breakup can make us feel alone, rejected, helpless and lost (to name a few). We might wonder if we'll ever be happy again... In this episode, we'll get into a few reasons why breakups are so painful. What about the dissolving of a long-term relationship is so earth-shattering. Why are we brought to our knees...

It's a question so many of us in relationships have asked: can you keep the passion alive, even after so many years together? The short answer is YES! The long answer is best captured by listening to the full episode. We'll cover what that 'spark' actually is, how we lose it and how we can re-create and maintain the flames. The best part: you might be able to stir up some excitement that you've ne...

In this episode of Love Under the Scope, we'll explore the complexities of emotional comfort in relationships. We'll get into the importance of understanding emotional triggers, how to offer and receive comfort during high emotional states, and the skills required to navigate these challenging moments. We'll also discuss the need for patience, practice, and open communication between partners to f...

The source of your triggers with your partner might not be what you think. Often times, we default to projecting and blaming our partner for all of our problems. News flash: that tactic isn't going to help you feel empowered as an individual or in your relationship. In this episode, we'll explore the real source of triggers and how you can use inner work to address the issue at the root.

Your core beliefs about the opposite sex inform the very foundation of your relationship and/or dating life. Frustrating patterns that come up for you over and over again around men (or women) can be traced back to childhood conditioning. So, how do we form our beliefs? And how do we even know what we believe (since a lot of our beliefs are stored deep in the subconscious)? Listen in to this episo...

Developing a crush on someone outside of our relationship can be an uncomfortable experience. It's a situation that can lead to heavy feelings of shame, unworthiness and misunderstanding of ourselves. The truth is, we are human beings with many layers. So many of us carry unhealed wounds from our childhood and past as a whole. Interestingly, those wounds and unmet needs can eventually lead to havi...

Control in relationships isn't something that only narcissists engage in. So many of us impose subtle, even subconscious, controlling behaviors on our partners. This type of dynamic can happen to the best of us - even those who mean well. The truth is, we're demonstrated how to subtly control our partners by our parents, extended family, and society as a whole. Some of us use control as a way to a...

In this episode of Love Under the Scope, we'll explore connection (and disconnection!) in relationships. I'll start out by defining connection - what is it actually? Then, we'll get into why disconnection happens and how we can avoid it in the long-term. I'll share specific methods and practices that have worked for me in my relationship. Plus, my own personal experience of connection in my relati...

Do you ever get that feeling of being alone, even when you're with your partner? Loneliness in relationships is a common phenomenon. In this episode, we'll dive into how we can create our own sense of loneliness throughout our childhood - which then bleeds into our relationships. I'll give you insights on where the loneliness may stem from and how to address it in your relationship.

In this episode, we explore what toxicity in relationships really means, how it develops, and why it’s not always about one “bad” person. We discuss the patterns and behaviors - often rooted in childhood - that can quietly erode connection, and the importance of owning our part in the dynamic. Through real-life examples, we look at how self-reflection and accountability can transform both our rela...

In this episode of Love Under the Scope , we’ll explore how self-sabotage can surface in long-term relationships and the childhood roots that often shape these patterns. We’ll look at the many ways the “inner saboteur” shows up—through criticism, withdrawal, comparison, or fear—and why it emerges even in loving partnerships. We’ll reflect on how awareness and compassion can shift our relationship...

Arguments are par for the course when we're in a long-term committed relationship. If we're trying to understand each other, there are going to be misunderstandings. But why does this conflict occur? In this episode, we'll explore exactly that. Tune in for a deep dive into why we get into arguments and challenging dynamics in even the best of relationships. You are not alone!

Our desire for sex can vary greatly across relationships, especially when we meet someone that we feel fully safe with. In this episode, Kelby discusses her experience with sexuality from her dating years up into her current relationship of 7 years. If you've ever questioned what was going on with your sexuality after entering into a long-term relationship, this conversation is for you.

In the very first episode of Love Under the Scope, host and certified relationship coach Kelby Lauren sets the stage for a raw, honest, and deeply personal exploration of long-term relationships. Kelby shares her vision for the show: to peel back the layers of what it truly means to be in a committed partnership—not the highlight reel we see on social media, but the messy, beautiful, and often cha...