Love Language

Everyone is watching Off Campus. Your millennial colleague, your younger cousin, that friend who swore she was done with college dramas. Anahita and Jesselina have a theory. Tracing back their years in boarding school and the unlikely education that happens in the in-between spaces. When you're told you're not good at something you've put your heart into. When Cosmopolitan is contraban...

South Asian weddings carry warmth, family, and fanfare. But behind the celebration, a quieter crisis of dowry deaths, women choosing to end their lives rather than endure abuse, and a social architecture rarely built for women to not just survive, but thrive. Anahita and Jesselina unpack what it really means to marry or consider marrying into a South Asian family. Are women being prepared for the...

What does it really take to survive a long-distance relationship without losing your mind, your identity, or your will to live? In this episode, Anahita and Jesselina get honest about the emotional chaos, quiet resilience, and very specific kind of character-building that comes with loving someone across cities, countries, and time zones. From cheating paranoia and mismatched communication styles...

What if romance on screen once held our hands through feeling and belonging, and now lets go? In this episode, we linger over the slow disappearance of the romantic comedy in Bollywood and Hollywood, tracing what has been lost along the way. From starry-eyed classics to today’s hardened heroes, we ask how cinema stopped believing in love as something soft, sincere, and transformative. Moving betwe...

So, you’re turning 30, congrats, welcome to the club! In this episode, Jesselina and Anahita, both now 30, dive into all the weird, funny, and unexpected parts of this new decade. Why does your body start sending mysterious signals you didn’t ask for? Did we really leave the weight of other people’s opinions behind in our twenties? And seriously, are we all supposed to become marathon runners now?...

What if every meal were a mirror reflecting belief and belonging? In this episode, we dive into the politics simmering beneath our plates. From fab food to fad diets, we explore how food can be both a bridge that brings us together and a weapon of exclusion. This conversation moves from the plate to the politics, from the intimacy of home kitchens to the hierarchies that shape entire cultures. Jes...

Ever wondered why eldest daughters have spreadsheets for feelings and backup plans for everyone’s birthdays? In this episode, we get way too real about our BDE aka Big Daughter Energy!!  Why do eldest daughters end up running family group chats like Fortune 500s? Is dating younger siblings just emotional babysitting with better playlists? And can we ever stop trying to fix everyone else’s problems...

Summer’s over, the mics are back on, and Anahita and Jesselina are finally here! In this bonus episode, they return from their season break with a little bit of everything. They reflect on 6 months of podcasting - the sweat, the tears, the doubts - and spill all the tea from a very Love Island–coded summer. The Summer We Turned Petty? Maybe. Tune in to find out what the girlies were really up to....

You know those nights where you're doomscrolling TikTok, half-watching Love Island, and somehow end up talking to ChatGPT about your ex? Yeah. Same. In this episode, Anahita and Jesselina get real about what we’re all secretly doing—bingeing “mindless” content and ask if it’s actually mindless at all. From Rakhi Sawant deep dives to emotional support sitcoms and the sweet relief of rewatching...

If a city doesn’t work for women, it doesn’t work for anyone.” In this powerful episode, Jesselina and Anahita unpack the invisible gender biases built into our cities—design flaws that don’t just inconvenience women, they actively exclude them. From unsafe college walkways and inaccessible public transport to public bathrooms that ignore menstruation, this conversation lays bare the very real con...

Anahita’s whirlwind wedding extravaganza left her with a treasure trove of memories—and a crash course in wedding planning. Whether you’re dreaming of your own Big Fat South Asian Wedding or just trying to survive the chaos of it all, this one’s for you. Join the duo as they unravel the madness behind the glitz: from budgeting headaches that stretch longer than the baraat, to the Instagram-fueled...

“Economies are built on the backs of women’s unpaid labor.” In this conversation, Anahita and Jesselina unpack the care economy through the lens of their South Asian upbringing and the women who shaped their world. They explore how homemakers, caretakers, and "working" women—often seen as opposing groups—all share one goal: for their work to be valued. For too long, the invisible, unpaid...

Jesselina has landed in LA for some well-deserved rest and recovery, and the duo is using this reunion to thoughtfully dive into your questions. In this episode, they reflect on the milestones and missteps of their 17-year friendship—exploring childhood experiences in boarding school that shaped their identities, teenage challenges that deepened their bond, and the complex realities of adulthood t...

Once burnt, twice shy—Anahita and Jesselina dive into the often-overlooked truth that friendships aren’t just a social accessory; they’re emotional lifelines. In a world that teaches us to orbit around romantic love, they explore what it means to recentre friendships as vital to identity, intimacy, and growth. Through honest reflections on marriage, breakups, shifting identities, and cultural expe...

After a weekend binge of Netflix’s latest chartbuster Adolescence, Anahita and Jesselina dive deep into the toxic layers of the manosphere, the algorithm-driven rage economy, and how young boys—our brothers, classmates, future men—are being shaped in silence. Between Andrew Tate’s influence and the seductive pull of digital echo chambers, we ask: who’s really raising our boys? From personal upbrin...

Jesselina, a fiery Scorpio, and Anahita, a determined Capricorn, dive deep into the world of astrology and the occult. As they navigate their own differences in belief systems, they explore how horoscopes have wormed their way into everything—from Hindu households to TikTok algorithms. How much does your star sign really shape your life? Friendship, dating, and beyond... Add a sprinkle of capitali...

Tune in to a very cathartic conversation on body shame in South Asia and beyond. Jesselina and Anahita open up about their journey with body image issues, PCOS, and how their childhood has shaped some of their most important mental battles. From learning to accept and love yourself to understanding the realities of colonialism, class, and gender on what we eat, how we eat, and how it builds our bo...

Anahita and Jesselina invite you into their world of digital dating — 8 years of rings, flings, and everything in between. Pre-COVID, dating apps were all the rage, but recently? The swipes have slowed, and stocks are sinking. As new types of apps pop up, the big question looms: Is technology to blame, or have men and women just lost interest in dating altogether? (01:43) Apps to the Altar (5:00)...

Join Jesselina and Anahita as they bring you this heartfelt conversation. The girlies open up about their personal stories, navigating the highs of their teen years and the challenges of their 20s. Through candid discussions, they explore what it means to be a woman in today’s complex world, all while embracing the power of friendship rooted in girlhood. With open communication—their love language...