Love Isn't Enough

Just days before their wedding, Joree and John sit down to reflect on how they transformed their insecure attachment - hers anxious, his avoidant - into a secure partnership. They share what it looked like to move from fear and defensiveness to trust and safety, and why the work of healing old wounds is the foundation for a lasting relationship. In this heartfelt conversation, John and Joree open...

In this intimate, story-driven episode, Joree and John explore three complementary paths to a good life: pleasure (hedonic happiness), purpose (meaning), and the often-overlooked third path: psychological richness. Drawing on positive psychology research from Dr. Shigehiro Oishi's "Life in Three Dimensions," they unpack how novelty, challenge, and perspective shifts can transform not only your moo...

In this episode of Love Isn't Enough, Joree and John continue sharing the dating advice they followed in their own journey, along with the tips they give their clients on how to find - and maintain - the love you're looking for. While some of this episode is for those dating later in life, and specifically for those who are divorced, much of what they share will apply to anyone in the dating world...

Dating after divorce is a whole new game, with real wounds, real wisdom, and (yes) real hope. In this straight-talking, compassionate episode, John and Joree share their own post-divorce dating stories and how they guide their clients: what to put on your dating profile, how to spot genuine interest vs. mixed signals, and why behavior, not words, should guide your choices. They unpack red flags (i...

What makes you feel loved might not be what your partner needs to feel loved - and that's where so many couples miss each other. In this playful, practical episode (yes, complete with Joree's giggles and Dr. John's faces 🙃), we revisit Gary Chapman's five love languages - Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, and Gifts - and talk through five powerful additional lov...

Intimacy isn't just physical, it's the courageous act of sharing your inner landscape: the thoughts, feelings, fears, and messy in-between moments most of us keep tucked away. In this candid, funny, and deeply vulnerable episode, John and Joree unpack why so many couples get stuck in transactional chatter (calendars, chores, carpools) and how to shift back into connection through everyday openness...

In this 3rd episode in our series on attachment styles, Joree and John take attachment theory off the page and into real life, breaking down patterns into tangible examples of how anxious and avoidant patterns play out in the middle of an argument. As we know, arguments in love are never just about the dishes or the eye rolls; they're often old wounds and hidden fears playing out in real time. A v...

What happens when someone who feels "too much" falls in love with someone who feels "not enough"? For years, that was us - Joree, the anxious partner, and John, the avoidant partner - stuck in the push–pull dance neither of us fully understood. It created disconnection, frustration, and the same repetitive patterns… until we learned what was really going on beneath the surface. In this episode, we...

In this heartfelt and vulnerable joint episode, we share our personal journey of healing from deep-rooted attachment wounds. We open up about the patterns we carried into our relationship—especially the anxious/avoidant dynamic that kept us stuck in cycles of disconnection—and how we consciously did the work to break free from it. Through honest reflection and therapeutic tools, we reveal what it...

In this honest episode, Joree and John share vulnerably (once again - they're always being vulnerable!) how they've been feeling lately. It's been a mixture of grief, sadness and fear about the state of the world, dealing with aging parents, being in physical pain, stress and navigating difficult family dynamics. Without awareness or tools, couples can either deal with these real-life stressors fe...

On this raw and revealing episode of Love Isn't Enough, Joree opens up about a powerful realization that shook her to the core: she's a high-functioning codependent. Together, John and Joree explore what high-functioning codependency actually looks like—especially in women who seem to have it all together—and how it can quietly erode your sense of peace, boundaries, and self-worth. They dive into...

Your mindset shapes your relationship more than you might realize. In this episode of Love Isn't Enough, we unpack the powerful research on mindset and how your beliefs about growth, change, and learning directly influence the success of your relationship. Do you believe yourself or your partner to "just be the way you/they are"? Or do you approach challenges as opportunities to grow, both individ...

In this episode of Love Isn't Enough, we're diving deep into the final two of Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse—contempt and stonewalling—and exploring why these are the most damaging dynamics in relationships. We break down what they look like, why they show up, and how they silently erode connection, intimacy, and trust over time.   If you've ever felt dismissed, shut out, belittled, or...

In this episode of Love Isn't Enough, Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose take a deep dive into two of the biggest relationship killers: defensiveness and criticism. These behaviors, identified by Dr. John Gottman as part of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse," are major predictors of relationship dissatisfaction and conflict. But the good news? With awareness and intentionality, couples can brea...

What if your love story started with a contest? In this episode of Love Isn't Enough, we're joined by Evin Rose and Alex Terranova, a couple whose unique journey to love is anything but ordinary. Alex, a coach and podcast host, decided to run a contest to find a date to bring to Tulum, Mexico—and Evin, a dating and self-worth coach, entered on a whim. What started as an unconventional experiment t...

In this episode of Love Isn't Enough with Joree Rose and Dr. John Schinnerer, we are joined by therapist, relationship expert, and author Elizabeth Earnshaw to discuss how stress impacts couples and what we can do about it. Elizabeth's new book, Till Stress Do Us Part, explores how daily pressures—whether from work, parenting, finances, or other challenges—can erode connection and create conflict...

Sex is one of the most important aspects of a relationship—and yet, for so many couples, it's one of the hardest topics to talk about. In this episode of Love Isn't Enough, Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose dive deep into the reasons why couples struggle to communicate about sex, the unspoken beliefs and fears that keep them silent, and how they can start having more open, honest, and fulfilling...

In this episode John and Joree interview Shana James, a relationship coach with 20 years of experience who specializes in helping men with their love and sex lives. Shana discusses her work, including insights from her podcast, 'Man Alive,' and her book, 'Honest Sex.' Topics covered include the importance of vulnerability, relational healing, honest communication, and overcoming attachment wounds....

In this powerful episode of Love Isn't Enough, Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose unpack the timely and troubling themes presented in Netflix's Adolescence, a docuseries that explores the hidden struggles of modern teenage boys. From bullying and isolation to the rise of poisonous online influences like the manosphere, incel culture, and the pressure of the "man box," this conversation sheds light...

Joree & John share the story of how John lost his vision in his left eye while in Portugal, why they were the cause of an emergency airplane  landing, and how these tribulations actually brought them closer together. So often when the sh*t hits the fan, it can feel easy to want to give up or resign to the situation, but what happens when they pile on top of one another and you barely have a chance...

Inevitably, the holidays are a stressful time of year, and this can easily turn into unintended arguments with your partner. In this episode of Love Isn't Enough, Joree and John talk through common challenges couples face and give helpful tools on how to navigate stress with greater awareness, compassion and better communication. They even role play conversations we often hear our clients describi...

In this episode of 'Love Isn't Enough,' Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose, LMFT, discuss the importance of appreciation and gratitude for loving, thriving relationships. They explore how many couples tend to neglect these practices, despite their effectiveness in fostering positive emotions and connection. The hosts discuss key concepts such as the negativity bias, the importance of a positive to...

Almost everyone we've ever worked with needs help learning how to communicate better with their partner. So why is this such a ubiquitous relationship challenge? There's lots of reasons: we often are not role modeled healthy or effective communication strategies, many times we don't know what we feel, need or want, or if we do, we don't always have the words to communicate it. And even if we were...

In this timely conversation in the face of the election, Joree and John talk about how couples can navigate staying connected and how to get along when they have differences in their values or beliefs. We know from research that 67% of relationship challenges are not solvable, so then what? Not agreeing does not have to be a deal breaker; the key is to understand that we are not trying to convince...

In this engaging episode, John and Joree explore what makes a healthy, thriving relationship by dissecting the themes from the Netflix hit show Nobody Wants This. Using the show's rare portrayal of a healthy relationship as a starting point, they identify the common pitfalls couples fall into and offer expert advice on how to avoid them. And more importantly, they offer a picture of a healthy, thr...