Love By Faith

Send us Fan Mail We celebrate the wins, the delays, and the growth that shaped Season Three, from raw conversations on temptation and unmet expectations to building new tools for couples who want to get better. We also share what we’re learning about Sabbath rest, why we want a deeper biblical grounding, and how we’re preparing for a smoother Season Four.  • Season Three reflections and why it fel...

Send us Fan Mail We get honest about long-term sabbaticals and why stepping down can be one of the most loving things we do for our marriage, our family, and our spiritual life.  We share our own burnout seasons, what we wish we did sooner, and how to build a rhythm of rest that keeps us connected to God and each other.  • why a sabbatical works like a fast from what is draining you  • our 2020 re...

Send us Fan Mail We get practical about building a weekly Sabbath reset that helps our marriage rest, reconnect, and worship together. We share how we define “real rest,” why Sabbath is obedience, and how a simple plan can protect peace for the whole week.  • Sabbath as worship and a weekly spiritual reset  • why disobedience to rest leads to drift and burnout  • how our Sabbath styles differ and...

Send us Fan Mail We get honest about what Sabbath really is and why a day packed with chores, parties, and church tasks can still leave a marriage empty. We share the warning signs you’re missing Sabbath and a practical way to rebuild weekly rest around God’s presence and shared family connection.  • defining Sabbath beyond a day off and why it is holy  • spotting symptoms of missing Sabbath, like...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about reaching the mountaintop without losing each other in the process of building marriage endurance. We wrap our marriage endurance series by talking about what happens when the hard climb finally gives way to a mountaintop season. We share how peace and joy show up at the peak, why success can still wreck a relationship, and how we keep moving with God...

Send us Fan Mail As we continue our series on building marriage endurance, in this episode, we talk about how couples become stronger when entering new seasons together.  We talk about how marriage changes when only one of us steps into a new season, and the other has to adjust, support, and stay connected. We share practical ways to build endurance through promotion, grief, waiting seasons, and s...

Send us Fan Mail We open a new "Building Marriage Endurance" series by getting real about enduring valleys together and why they do not disqualify a God-centered marriage.  We share our hardest lows, how grief and identity shifts hit differently, and how standing on God’s promises helps us keep moving together. • defining valleys and mountaintops as normal marriage seasons • comparing po...

Send us Fan Mail We wrap up a 3-part story of unmet expectations by resetting expectations in marriage.  In this episode, we close out our Unmet Expectations series by getting brutally honest about why a missed celebration turned into disconnection and what finally helped us reconnect. We talk through love languages, how “dollars vs coins” works in real life, and why love has to be consistent and...

Send us Fan Mail We continue our 3-part story of unmet expectations with a chapter where Kyle & Selina experienced unspoken love languages and how it affected their marriage. We tell the raw middle chapter of our unmet expectations story and why a missed “spa day gift” exposed something deeper than a calendar mistake. We work through love languages, the difference between processing and punish...

Send us Fan Mail In this new series of "Unmet Expectations", we share a 3-part story on missing the ten-year message.  We share the story of the first full day all three kids are in school and how Kyle missing Selina’s long-communicated spa day dream creates one of the most painful disappointments in our marriage. We break down how unmet expectations connect to love languages, why “too l...

Send us Fan Mail We celebrate 100 episodes with real talk on obedience, growth, and the long game of building a God-centered marriage and a resilient creative practice. From one mic to a video-first studio, we share lessons, favorite series, and a vision for what comes next. • starting with one mic, one light, one camera • choosing video-first and why it mattered • season three hurdles and perseve...

Send us Fan Mail As we head towards our 100th episode, we trace the roots of Love by Faith, share our contrasting backgrounds, and lay out how faith turns good intentions into durable connection. From our living Playbook to premarital coaching and on-demand workshops, we show clear next steps to strengthen any relationship. • why love by faith exists and what it means • how our 13-year marriage sh...

Send us Fan Mail In the last leg of the "A Better Woman" series, we talk about how a better woman enhances her marriage by prioritizing herself.  We unpack why caring for yourself is not selfish but strategic, and how spiritual, physical, and emotional self-care can renew joy, reduce resentment, and make marriage warmer and more fun. From hair appointments to Bible rhythms, we build syst...

Send us Fan Mail A better woman... communicates courageously! In this episode, we unpack why “hinting” isn’t communication, how fear and past hurt silence honest words, and how clarity can feel kind, brave, and deeply loving. Practical scripts, a playful sock roleplay, and Proverbs 31:26 ground a faith-first approach to building trust. • season context and why “a better woman” matters • tech setba...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we (finally) wrap up "A BETTER MAN" series with why a better man studies his wife.  Once a man chooses to study his wife, attention, friendship, and faith turn changing seasons into deeper connection. We map the identity shifts after marriage, name the obstacles, and offer practical tools you can use tonight. • restarting our Better Man series finale wit...

Send us Fan Mail We explore what it means for a husband to become an “Ephesians 5 man,” grounding the call to love, lead, and serve in Scripture and everyday practice. From humility and friendship to washing with the Word and guarding your heart, we map a path that starts small and grows strong. • why the “better man” series focuses on Ephesians 5 • how Christ’s love shapes daily choices in marria...

Send us Fan Mail A better man is spiritually awake.  In this episode, we challenge men to move from spiritual autopilot to a living, daily walk with God that reshapes purpose, marriage, and leadership. Kyle shares his radical turning point, and together we map practical steps for encounters with God, humble community, and alignment at home. • difference between spiritually awake and spiritually al...

Send us Fan Mail We walk through the hard reality of choosing divorce, and what happens after choosing divorce.  From safety and legal steps to grief, co‑parenting, church dynamics, and how to cling to God when you feel abandoned. The aim is simple and honest: protect your life, tell the truth about pain, and rebuild with hope. • why we address divorce during holidays • safety first in abusive sit...

Send us Fan Mail Merry Christmas! We pause the heavy topics to share warmth, joy, and a blessing for Christmas while keeping Jesus at the center and love by faith at the forefront. We also invite couples to a simple one‑hour, on‑demand workshop, The Relationship Renovation Workshop, with a 33‑page blueprint to strengthen marriage for the new year. • holiday chaos named and kept light • Puerto Rica...

Send us Fan Mail When you're on the brink of divorce, we pray this message will encourage and uplift you to reconsider. We share a frank, hope-filled plan for couples on the brink of divorce, from transforming prayer and inviting real community to humble conversations and non‑negotiable counseling. Faith frames the fight while practical steps make repair possible and safe. • Why changing pray...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we discuss the Biblical grounds for divorce. We open Scripture to explore when divorce is biblically permitted and how God’s heart aims to protect people, not trap them in harm. We unpack adultery, abandonment, and abuse with care, then point to humility, repentance, and real-world steps toward safety, healing, and peace. • scriptural grounds for divorce: adultery...

Send us Fan Mail In our new series, "Defeating Divorce," we start off by asking WHY Christian couples get divorced?  We open the season’s toughest theme with honesty and hope, asking why Christian couples still end up divorced and how to push back with faith, rhythm, and practical tools. We share our no “D-word” rule, our hardest years, and a path to rebuild identity, intimacy, and unity...

Send us Fan Mail In our final episode of the Temptations series, we talk about how to guard our marriage against temptation. We unpack how temptation seeds itself in thoughts and desires, grows through secrecy and isolation, and fractures trust when left in the dark. We offer practical ways to confess early, involve church community, use Scripture as sword and shield, and remember the real enemy i...

Send us Fan Mail We confront the real reasons why couples are tempted to skip church and offer honest, practical ways to rebuild trust, rhythm, and community without pretending church is perfect. From burnout and offense to pride and preference, we point back to grace, ownership, and shared responsibility. • why church exists as a body, not an event • healthy vs emotionally unhealthy church cultur...

Send us Fan Mail We explore the temptation to keep secrets in marriage, the difference between confidentiality and secrecy, and why even “small” omissions can damage trust. We share practical ways to disclose hard truths with grace, plus boundaries that protect privacy without hiding from your spouse. • defining secrecy versus withholding versus confidentiality • holiday surprises and why patterns...