Love After Lies

Send a text In this episode of "Love After Lies," Avonlea and Josh share their transformative journey from betrayal to forgiveness. They recount their experiences at a healing retreat in Costa Rica, where they explored the power of plant medicine and its impact on their relationship. Join them as they discuss the challenges of healing, the importance of setting and intention, and the pro...

Send a text When a viral Coldplay concert “Kiss Cam” exposed two married executives in a shocking affair, the world turned it into a meme—but for the betrayed spouses and families, it was anything but funny. In this episode, we pause our personal story to unpack why infidelity is so devastating—through the lens of science, faith, and lived experience. You’ll discover: The different types of affair...

Send a text In this deeply personal episode, the hosts share their journey from betrayal to healing, highlighting the powerful role of truth and vulnerability in rebuilding intimacy. They reflect on the aftermath of Full Therapeutic Disclosure, the emotional reconnection that followed, and the hard but hopeful road of reintegration after separation. The episode confronts common excuses for secrecy...

Send a text In this deeply personal solo episode, Avonlea shares the raw and unfiltered story of what happened after Full Therapeutic Disclosure—including the moments of panic, regret, and resistance that followed. From symbolic decisions like removing her wedding ring to the anxiety of traveling post-disclosure, she opens up about the emotional toll of navigating betrayal, addiction recovery, and...

Send a text In this raw and informative episode, we take you inside one of the most pivotal (and most controversial) moments in our healing journey after infidelity: Full Therapeutic Disclosure (FTD) and the use of a polygraph. We talk about why we chose to go through this difficult, costly, and emotionally intense process, despite skepticism from well-meaning friends and family. You'll hear:...

Send a text In this vulnerable episode, we pick up our story in September 2023—a month marked by emotional extremes, deep spiritual wrestling, and pivotal moments in our healing journey after betrayal trauma. Avonlea opens up about her darkest night—grappling with suicidal thoughts and the heavy weight of relational trauma. Josh shares what early recovery and international travel were like while b...

Send a text In this episode, we invite you into a raw, God-centered conversation about what it means to cast a vision for a new kind of love. You’ll hear Avonlea’s personal journal entries from “Calling in the One,” and the cautious moments of reuniting in person after weeks apart. Whether you're healing your marriage or your own heart, we pray this episode brings clarity, hope, and encourage...

Send a text In this episode, we return to the raw and painful moments of August 2023—the second month in our healing journey. We talk about the impossible odds of saving our marriage after betrayal, the emotional weight of therapeutic separation, and the heart-wrenching process of rebuilding from ground zero. From moments of profound spiritual insight—like a lakeside baptism and the realization of...

Send a text In a spiritual context, a "sacred wound" refers to a deep, transformative trauma or suffering that, instead of being a source of negativity, becomes a catalyst for growth, healing, and a deeper connection with the divine or oneself. When God creates Eve, He calls her an “ezer kenegdo.” That’s the word used in the original Hebrew in Genesis 2:18. Turns out, this phrase is noto...

Send a text Josh and Avonlea dive deeper into their journey of recovery and healing and share some of the resources that helped them navigate through the process. Affair Recovery "The Shocking Truth About Trust"  Affair Recovery First Steps Bootcamp Find a CSAT Therapist Find an APSATS Therapist Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal

Send a text Josh and Avonlea share more details about their journey and specifics about how they handled the first month after D Day. 

Send a text In this episode, Avonlea and Josh talk about trauma and betrayal trauma, as well as a lesser known subject: post traumatic growth. 

Send a text Josh and Avonlea share what they have learned about lust, sex, and addiction, and how that knowledge empowered them on their journey of healing and recovery.

Send a text Josh and Avonlea talk about their decision to separate, and how they first learned about sex and lust addiction and how it might be impacting their relationship.

Send a text Josh and Avonlea discuss the question of divorce after infidelity. 

Send a text In this episode, Josh and Avonlea talk about how sex went wrong in their lives. 

Send a text Avonlea talks about her journey and navigating betrayal trauma.

Send a text Josh and Avonlea share their initial reactions to the disclosure of infidelity in their marriage. 

Send a text Josh and Avonlea Roy share the first part of how their lives led up to this podcast. 

Send a text Josh and Avonlea share the second part of how their lives led up to this podcast.

Send a text Josh and Avonlea share about the disclosure of infidelity in their marriage.