Living Your Truth w/Tavares

This episode we discuss being active and how important it is to stay in motion. The human body must move. Movement affects our bodies and brain. It affects our digestion even the way we think or don’t think. The idea of movement may seem like a far fetched idea but the truth is we must move. Focusing on being involved and intentional allows us to hold space for ourselves and process. It’s special...

On this episode we talk about taking accountability for ourselves. It’s no one else’s fault that I get upset. A lot of it depends on my reaction. If I react in a bad way, then I’ve just given up power. And often that power is hard to get back. When we respond in negative ways, we forward the energy on. Being more intentional about self love will help with managing our emotions. Exercise also plays...

Tavares’s Famous Mirror Talk is amazing. You can incorporate it into any situation at any time. The multiple benefits will have you practicing daily. You’ll be happier, have more energy and confidence to go along with self love in an abundance of ways. This is a practice that can be used immediately! Don’t wait! It’s being utilized by thousands of people that I support right now. Build your self i...

Do you have enough energy? Do you protect your energy? Energy sufficient is about having enough given enough and still having some of it for yourself. Energy comes in all shapes and sizes. We must have enough of it for ourselves and for those that we love and care about. As I evolve on my journey, I find that I must protect my energy more and more. I must manage my energy so that I am not overwhel...

Gratitude is the Attitude on this episode of LYTWT. Gratitude is such a powerful way to show appreciation for yourself and others. Gratitude helps with depression, anxiety, physical health and mental health overall. Gratitude is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. On my journey I have learned how to express gratitude to myself and it’s really h...

On this episode of LYTWT we talk about the morning routine. The importance of the morning routine and how it shapes your personal growth and your successes for life. A morning routine is being intentional in your efforts to pursue your best or better self. I began to prepare my next day the day before. By preparing myself, I find out my focus is pre-determined to feed into my efforts of being my b...

We open up the 2nd episode of season 6 with “Reactive”. We all have been in situations that have tested our patients. I myself have been reactive for most of my life. Not really understanding how my reactions would, and could impact others. I always moved with how I felt and that didn’t always serve me well. The greatest power in the world is self control. If I am able to master the self, then I w...

Season six begins with us taking a deeper dive into the self. It all starts with the self. It’s no one else’s fault. It is completely up to us to be the masters of us. See when we allow other people to make us mad. That is our fault. I know you may read that and think well, how is that. We have a decision to make in a moments notice if someone is acting in a way that may be offensive to us. If we...

Your best you or your better you should be who you want to show up right? For me, the answer is yes. I have found that on my journey that I’ve had to be patient. It’s taking me a long time to get to this place I am in right now. I’m glad I never gave up on myself because I would never feel the kind of enlightenment I feel right now. I am still learning to love myself and that is OK. I realize that...

Self compassion is necessary. Taking time for yourself is always necessary. Being kind to yourself and speaking kind to your self is a part of what makes you better. For me I have struggled with self compassion, but now I find myself showing gratitude and giving morning gratitude affirmations to make my process and self compassion more fulfilling. I’m not perfect and I don’t try to be, and so the...

How do I make me better? A question I ask myself all the time. It’s a way for me to be present within myself. I struggle with showing compassion for myself. I’m not sure I even know what it is half the time. No one has ever taught me how to be compassionate with myself. Other times I feel like I am being compassionate, because I’m doing things like meditation, working out, running, stretching and...

Encouragement is the job of the self. Now we like to be encouraged by our friends and family, and sometimes even strangers. But the real job belongs to the self. In my case the self is me, and when it comes to encouraging myself, I first have to be very transparent with myself. I have to understand the WHAT behind the WHY. Because once I understand that well, then the picture of my “Why” gets a wh...

Have you ever felt like you were struggling internally with just being you? Some may see it as an identity crisis. Some may feel it more than they can articulate it. The struggle within for me has been about seeking out the best versions of myself. Seeking out the balance that makes me feel a whole and complete. See my struggle within is surrounded by a traumatic early upbringing coupled with a lo...

The art of managing the self is self management. It’s taking the approach and making each action deliberate. It’s managing your day. It’s managing how you will go about your day from a mental perspective. It’s preparing yourself for the day and allowing yourself flexibility throughout the day, so that when, and if things come up, they don’t irritate you to the point that it interrupts your flow. S...

I’ve been asked why I decided to change. It was more of a feeling. The feeling is like being stuck in place but inside yourself. I just felt like I wasn’t growing in the ways that I wanted to grow. I was already battling bad behaviors. I was, dealing with my demons after I stop drinking and drugging. See I knew I was in for a battle but I did not understand the strength that it would take to keep...

Making you happy is about putting in the work that nobody sees. It’s about that selfless commitment to yourself for the bettering of yourself. It’s understanding that you must make the difficult decisions to better yourself. It’s a lonely journey at times. And that’s OK. In fact it’s necessary for growth. Making you happy is a one on one job. It’s the employment of every fiber of your being. It’s...

What’s love got to do with it? No pain no gain is that true? My journeys in love and pain have been an experience. I have fallen in love. Only to realize that I wasn’t really in love. I have been a luat before too, that was short lived. I have confused, love for sex and sex for love in my past. Pain has always found its way to me. I believe it has a lot to do with how I was brought up and raised....

Protecting your energy is necessary. It is so important to feel your energy and to always be present with your energy. There will be challenges along the way, but we usher on. Sometimes people are not deserving of your energy. Sometimes I may not be deserving of their energy. And that’s why I say, protect your energy sometimes at all cost. We all know how energies can impact us, and how it can mak...

Have you ever felt isolated? Have you ever self isolated? I have. It’s sucks. It happens when I feel overwhelmed. Perhaps overwhelmed by my thoughts or by tasks. For me isolation has also been a coping mechanism for times I feel uncomfortable too. I never quite knew what I was doing when I’d remove myself from a group of people or away from my own family. I am searching for understanding of how I...

Sobriety is a long road. It’s the road that keeps on giving and keeps on going. It’s a journey that you must be present for. I never feel like I have it figured out. The moment I do that I’m done. Done as in over. Sobriety is the sort of present that you have to be ready to show up for every single day. Sobriety doesn’t care if you’re tired, anxious, depressed, or have PTSD. Sobriety wants you to...

Re-introducing trauma through behaviors we’ve learned from our past. Why do we act out bad behaviors that we are comfortable with? Trauma, physically, affects the brain and body, causing anxiety, rage, and the inability to concentrate. People have problems, remembering, trusting, and forming relationships. All the news reports and discussions tend to focus on war veterans, abuse, children, domesti...

Children exposed to domestic violence frequently do not have the foundation of safety and security that is normally provided by the family. The children experience a desensitization to aggressive behavior, poor anger management, poor problem solving skills, and learn to engage in exploitative relationships. Damn that all sounds too familiar when it comes to me. That’s why I’m here. I have struggle...

Here is an example of Self Love. Self Love comes in many forms. The raw nature and ability for me to be honest with myself is powerful. It’s about loving on you with positive reinforcement and transparency at least that’s what it is for me. I took a moment to record an audio letter to myself to remind me of how resilient I am. I reminded myself that it’s ok to recognize the struggle as long as we...

Season 5 returns Jan 7 2023. I reflect on my past relationships. I have struggled with abandonment, separation anxiety, ptsd, anger and identifying with my vulnerabilities made me feel like everything was crashing down so I became destructive within the fire and that’s when a “switch clicked” and I internalized everything to a maximum read. Generational Trauma is a big deal to me because of there...

What is your peace model? How do you cultivate? Peace? I have always had a hard time. Cultivating peace has not always been my strong suit. Growing up I didn’t know how to cultivate peace as a kid. I was a kid full of energy. Trying to figure out my life. I realize that it is time that I have a peace model. A peace model is not only for you. It’s for others as well. Your peace model can involve wh...