Living Deliberately with Shira Gura

Simply because you want someone in your life to do something, doesn't mean he/she will or even needs to. It is not your job in this world to create a rule book for others to live by. And you cannot depend on others for your own happiness. It will only set you up for disappointment. That being said, when you are in the right mindset and no longer stuck, having a conversation that comes from the pla...

I think I was feeling depressed. Or at least, I was feeling disconnected from my community. This happens to me sometimes in the winter, when I tend to hibernate during the cold and rainy days. But, I got myself unSTUCK by considering community.  Tune in to hear how I, within a few days, transformed how I was feeling, and you can, too. Subscribe to the Getting Unstuck podcast. Leaving me a review  ...

Rockets are shooting down! I'm afraid! A Getting unSTUCK podcast listener wrote to me asking for my perspective and insight on her fear of a recent launching of rockets into southern Israel where she lives. Tune in to hear my response to her and why processing through The S.T.U.C.K. Method step-by-step is crucial when you are trying to get unSTUCK from any challenging emotional situation. Subscrib...

All I wanted to do was shop for some clothes! Sometimes we can easily get stuck on taking these personally, even though the person who "hurt us", had no intentions of doing so. ("Hurt us" is in quotations because no one has the power to allow us to be hurt except ourselves.) Tune in to hear how I considered not taking this stuck spot personally, and how you can do so as well in your life. Subscrib...

It is so easy to get stuck on insult. When people say things in a way that can be construed as hurtful, our minds can't see any other way of being, except to take things personally. Yet, getting stuck on insult won't ever help you feel better. And getting stuck won't make you feel in control. Remember, you are always in charge of what you choose to believe! And it is those thoughts that will affec...

Have you ever had the experience where something happened to you and you are convinced it should NOT have happened? Do you have the feeling of wanting to turn back the clock? Change the past? In this episode we explore considering "there are no mistakes." When we can accept that whatever has already happened is out of our control, we can then leave the past in the past, and go on living in this mo...

What does Jim Carey, the star of The Truman Show, have to do with Getting unSTUCK? Tune in to this week's episode and learn about how Truman Burbank epitomizes what it means to get unSTUCK as he demonstrates courage and bravery to investigate the only truth he's ever known which ultimately leads him to choosing a life of ease and comfort, or a life, while may be scary and uncertain at times, is hi...

All my husband wanted to do was zone out for a few minutes and watch some T.V. All I wanted to do was get my son to sleep. There the conflict began. Because what did my son want to do? Watch T.V. with his dad. And my husband was oblivious to the fact that I was trying to get my son to sleep. And my heart closed on my husband. Tune in to this week's episode to hear how I considered opening my heart...

We either get stuck in the past or stuck in the future. There are really only two choices. When we get stuck in the past, we get stuck on a story that already happened. Whether it was a second ago, 5 minutes ago, yesterday, last month, or last year. Whatever happened, already happened. And there's nothing we can do to change that. So, we really have two choices: Stay stuck in our story about whate...

Sometimes we put ourselves down, not because of any outside force, but because: Either we believe it ourselves, or We believe someone else may be thinking it. Either way, that belief of defining yourself negatively is not serving you, nor is it serving anyone else around you. I got stuck recently on feeling stupid. But, I got unSTUCK when I honestly investigated that belief. I'm not stupid. Did I...

There is a difference between taking action and keeping busy. When you take action, you work towards a goal. When you keep busy, you may not necessarily be direction-oriented. Even if you create or produce things, it doesn't necessarily mean you are taking action towards a goal. I got stuck on inaction in 2017. But, have a plan for action in 2018. Do you notice any inaction in your life? Where you...

I hired myself a coach last week. It was the best decision in 2017. I feel aligned, happy, excited and ready to take on 2018. I got stuck on not wanting to hire a coach and this not only held me back professionally, it held me back personally. Don't make the same mistake as I. Consider hiring yourself a coach . Happy 2018! *****   Subscribe to the Getting Unstuck podcast. Leaving me a review  auto...

One way to get unSTUCK and evolve into a newer version of yourself is by visioning. Different from goal setting, this is a practice of actually  seeing  yourself  AS  your new self. This takes courage, bravery, and vulnerability. It stretches your mind and opens it up to anything in the realm of possibility. Join me with visioning YOU for 2018. If you'd like, email me with what you come up with (I...

We do not live our lives in a vacuum. We are who we are in this world because of the experiences and people we come into contact with. The S.T.U.C.K. Method wasn't created in a bubble, but rather from standing on the shoulders of giants and learning wisdom that came before me. Tune in to this week's episode and learn more about how The S.T.U.C.K. Method came to be. And, this is the final week of m...

Often times when we get "stuck", we are blinded from reality and often times lose faith to what the future can hold. Tune in to this week's episode to hear a story of how considering faith gave me the confidence to move forward with a project that otherwise seemed daunting and impossible to me. And consider where in your life can you consider faith? And how, by considering that, may you be able to...

When we are in a "stuck" spot, we can self-sabotage the joy that can otherwise be experienced in any given moment. Whether we are stuck on anger, anxiety, fear, frustration, disappointment, desire, depression or any other emotion, if we take a stop, we can touch the joy that always exists and that is always behind the story. Tune in to this week's episode to hear my stuck story and how I chose joy...

Revisiting the time I landed in the hospital and nearly died was not easy for me to share in this podcast episode. But, I did so to encourage you to talk to God - whether you are religious or not, whether you even believe in God or not. It's something to consider. It's something I never considered until that time when I was cold and alone in that hospital room, and someone suggested it to me. In t...

To me, prayer has always been associated with religious institutions. But, does it need to be? Have you ever considered prayer when you are stuck? In this week's podcast episode, listen to two stories of how I recently considered a prayer to get myself unSTUCK. Can you consider a prayer the next time you are stuck? The CD ! And tune in to a recent conversation on the  Authentic Parenting podcast ,...

Please tune in to this week's episode to learn about the crowdfunding campaign I have recently begun to create gentle music for yoga, meditation, and prayer. You can learn more and watch the video here: My CD! With gratitude, Shira Subscribe to the Getting Unstuck podcast. Leaving me a review  automatically enters you into the monthly giveaway! Join my free community for daily tips, challenges, an...

Have you ever heard of "imposter syndrome"? It's a phrase coined by 2 clinical psychologists in the late 1970's describing people who have an inability to internalize their accomplishments and have a fear of being exposed as a fraud. People who get this syndrome believe they don't deserve the success they have achieved. Apparently this syndrome affects both men and women equally. I got stuck on im...

There is nothing like talking out a stuck spot with someone who can hold your space, listen mindfully, and guide you towards emotional well-being. Not everyone knows how to do that. In fact, most people don't.  Tune in to learn more about this and you can learn about working with me. And, hear about some experiences and testimonials from the most recent Getting unSTUCK retreat in Israel.   http://...

Some of us live with the world on our shoulders: believing that everything that happens in life is entirely caused by us. My son had a freak bike accident, and I got stuck on guilt that it was my fault. Irrational, but true. I got unstuck by considering it wasn't my fault. Tune in to this week's episode broadcasted from a hospital in Israel, with my first guest, my 9-year-old son. And consider whe...

If you're like most people, mornings may be difficult for you. It's so easy to hit the snooze button, isn't it? But, what are you gaining from doing so? And what may you be giving up by not embracing your mornings? Tune in to hear how, as uncomfortable as it is sometimes, I have considered embracing my mornings - which means waking up while the rest of the house is asleep, so that I can start my d...

It's so easy to take for granted someone special in our lives. Yet, things change. Friends move. People pass on. And we have the choice to suffer from those changes, or not. In this week's episode, tune in to how I got unSTUCK from sadness from when my best friend moved, not only out of my community, but out of the country. Where can you, too, consider to walk alone in your life? And not with a se...

Who in their right mind likes to apologize - and admit to others they were wrong? Apologizing is actually a lot easier to do that we think. It's the considering to apologize to someone which is a lot harder. And in this episode you can hear how I consider to apologize to my husband, and how I encourage you to also explore to whom in your life can you consider apologizing? Feel free to comment at:...