Living Deliberately with Shira Gura

When you are feeling stuck, you are probably "being" someone you don't want to be. You get hijacked by your emotions and your emotions take control of the real you. But when you go through the process of getting unSTUCK, there's an opportunity for you to shift. To shift out of who you were being and into the person you truly want to be. It's simple, but not easy. Tune in to this week's Living Deli...

Do you ever get stuck on caring what other people think of you? It's a very common human behavior to do this. We come from a tribal background where fitting in literally often meant a matter of life or death.   But there are lots of problems with this: *You may not ever be able to change to their desires. *If you are able to change, you'll become someone who you're not. * You can't control other p...

2021 has just begun. And with it comes lots of feelings of excitement and hope. Many people around this time make New Year's resolutions. Unfortunately, statistics show that New Year's resolutions don't work. And that's because New Year's resolutions are devoid of the secret to creating change. The secret is not so much about the actions you take, but rather about something else entirely. Tune in...

There are two ways to look at life: That it's happening to you , or that it's happening for you . When you look at life from the latter, you realize what a gift it is. Each of us is on our own healing journey. It's very easy to feel fearful, uncertain, or hopeless when you aren't getting the results you want or hope to see. But staying in difficult emotions like that will only keep you stuck. Gett...

This month, the Living Deliberately community focused on practicing generosity in their lives. But have you ever stopped to consider what really is generosity? Is generosity just a willingness to give support and help, or is something more? Do you need to feel generous in order for something to be considered an act of generosity or are your feelings about it irrelevant? Tune in to hear some though...

Most people erroneously believe that it's the things outside of them (like, the people and circumstances in their lives) that cause them to feel the things they feel. But, the truth is, feelings come from within. Feelings are generated by the thoughts you choose to believe. No one and nothing can make you feel anything you don't want to. What you feel is always a choice. The power is always within...

By looking at the title of this episode, you may be quite surprised by the topic. But, I encourage you to tune in as I have two powerful stories for you regarding getting CLEAR in order to avoid getting STUCK that you don't want to miss! Shira Gura is an award-winning author and authority on emotional health and well-being with over two decades of experience in the wellness field. Her background a...

Do you experience anxiety sometimes? A lot of people do, whether they realize it or not (or whether they want to admit it or not). And the truth is, people are feeling anxious now more than ever. Anxiety is a difficult emotion to experience and most people aren't equipped to cope with it. And so, they resist feeling the anxiety, so they don't have to feel that difficult emotion. The problem is, re...

I was speaking with my parents the other day who told me that because of Corona restrictions, they are most likely going to have to spend Thanksgiving without family and friends this year. I'm sure they are not alone in feeling stuck with the reality of the situation due to Corona/COVID. If you are feeling stuck as well, tune into this episode to see what you can do. I welcome your responses to th...

Maintaining your emotional health and well-being is just as important as the other things you work to maintain in your life, such as your car, your physical health, or your job. Good emotional health and well-being isn't a birthright. It's something that needs to be cultivated on a daily basis. Tune in to hear about some of the things that I do to maintain my emotional health and well-being.  I'd...

It's certainly not pleasant to live with someone you believe has a disgusting habit. What should you do? Try to change their habit?  What if they don't have the power to change it? How is it possible to go on living with someone you feel so ashamed about? Tune in to learn how you can get unSTUCK from feeling disgust about your partner's disgusting habit.

Last week (episode 183), I shared about creating "crazy" goals. This week, I share with you why it's not about the goals. No, my intention is not to confuse you, but rather it's to challenge you to look at your own life and realize where does your sense of purpose really lie - in achieving the goal or in becoming the person you want to become while on your way to achieving the goal. Tune in to lea...

Living Deliberately is about playing it big. It's about giving yourself permission to dream. It's about taking leaps of faith. It's about creating crazy goals to stretch and evolve you into the next best version of yourself. Tune in to this week's episode to learn why you may want to consider creating crazy goals in your life.      

In my private community on Facebook, I lead monthly group Challenges. Tune in to this week's podcast episode to learn more about what these Challenges are about, why you may want to consider participating, and the next steps you need to take in order to join my community. www.shiragura.com

I recently posted a question on Facebook in three different places and was fascinated by the responses I received. "If you could name one thing, what would you say is the most important thing in your life?" How would you respond? Tune in to this week's podcast episode to hear my response. It may catch you by surprise.

Optical illusions occur when the brain perceives something that in reality, may or may not exist.  The way we perceive things in the world is not only what we take in with our eyes, but how our mind interprets that information. Many people are familiar with optical illusions in the form of artwork, but have you ever considered the optical illusions that exist in your life? They do exist and they a...

Yesterday, I sat in solitude in the forest near my home for the purpose of reading through the journals I wrote in over the past year. The purpose of this exercise was to remind me of where I "missed the mark" (and also a reminder of where I "hit the mark.") Tune in to hear why you may want to pick up a journaling practice (if you don't have one already). And why you may also want to create a year...

When you get triggered, there are only two options of responding: 1) With a childhood reaction, or 2) With an adult response. Adult responses are defined by how you consciously choose to show up, not necessarily how others behave. They're about how you choose to respond, despite how others act. They are powerful because you are not dependent on others for your emotional health and well-being. Adul...

When you get triggered, there are only two options of responding: 1) With a childhood reaction, or 2) With an adult response. Many of us respond with childhood reactions because that is what we are most familiar with and have more experience responding in this way. Yet, childhood reactions typically do not help us, they do not help the other people involved, and they don't help resolve the situati...

Living Deliberately is a framework for living. It includes understanding the big picture of what it is you want to create - (Episode 175) And the moments in time that comprise the time as you go from "here" to "there." Identifying and visualizing what it is you want to create or change can be very exciting. But, if you don't keep in mind the moments in time that you will face along the way, you ma...

Living Deliberately is a framework for living that incorporates two main parts: The big picture (what it is you want to create and who you need to be to manifest that), and the moments in time that comprise the big picture. While the moments in time are crucial for achieving our goals, often we get stuck in them and forget to see the big picture. When living deliberately, it is important to apprec...

Today is the birthday of my new book, The CLEAR Way: Five Simple Steps to Be Mentally Prepared for Anything . You can grab your copy on Amazon. (On launch day, Tuesday August 25th, the book is available for FREE on Kindle!) In today's podcast, I share with you some excerpts from the book and a few testimonials from those who graciously participated on my book launch team. I am grateful to be able...

What would you say is the greatest legacy you can leave your children? If you could leave just one thing to your children, what would that one thing be? Today, I invite you to consider that the greatest legacy you can leave for others is your ways of being. Who you are and how you show up in the world on a regular basis - when things are easy and even when the going gets rough. Because your ways o...

Last week I had an idea to create senseless love in my community. I never heard of such an idea before, but I thought it would be a worthwhile effort. Tune in to this week's podcast episode hear more about what happened and where you can create senseless love in and around your life, too.  www.shiragura.com  

When you feel stuck, you get stuck on a particular emotion. The question is, is it possible to feel better when you are deeply attached to a difficult emotion? The answer is "yes." Tune in to this week's podcast episode to learn more about creating the emotions you want to feel. www.shiragura.com