Living Connected - NVC

ORBISCULATE!!! Eric was saying forbisculate and it made me laugh while editing. He didn't quite hear it over the zoom call.  Eric and I are feeling FUNdamental today and going to talk about how the awareness of our own feelings first, is the foundation to nonviolent communication. If we don’t know how to be attuned to how it is that our body feeling and what our heart is feeling it makes it c...

We will be referring to the friendship episode the time codes are down below to listen if you choose. Projecting and assuming can be tricky when it comes to NVC. When do you offer empathy, when do you ask for consent, when do you give advice, or are we even aware that we might be projecting or assuming in a conversation? We give several examples of what projection might look like to someone and ho...

Jose Flores is a classroom teacher committed to examining and implementing relationship based classroom practices. A classroom where there is no judgment, blame, or punishment for those whose behavior is not supporting our agreed-upon values; instead, there is an intent to identify and address the needs behind the behavior.  Replacing power over others; with power with others.  Resources: Student...

Kyle and I talk about how to maintain friendships, why some friendships drift apart and what we may need and feel when friendships have conflict. When we can drop our expectations of our friends and realize that each friendship is different we can have a friendship that flourishes.  Many times we may have different ideas of what we value when it comes to what a friendship looks like. Come and expl...

Sarah Peyton is a well-known author of her book “Your Resonant Self” and brings a whole different way of healing into the world.  She is also a Certified NVC Trainer. We get the honor to have a discussion with her on our show and give you Living Connected listeners a taste of her amazing knowledge and experiences.  Resources: Sarah's Website: https://sarahpeyton.com/   Sarah mentioned:  1. Al...

Bridgerton Season 1 : Episode 7 20 mins from the end. Kyle and I get to role-play a pop culture original from Netflix called Bridgerton. Kyle will play the Duke and I will play the role of Daphne. This scene talks about betrayal and honoring agreements. Afterwards we will talk about feelings and needs of each of the characters. Sometimes it can be fun and good practice to integrate NVC with the TV...

Tisse Mallon is the founder and co-excecutive director of the Elar institute, a school that teaches the science of connection.  Amy Whicker is co-excecutive director of the Elar Institute alongside Tisse. Together, they run programs which focus on emotional intelligence, applied neuroscience, and mindfulness in order to bring the community together in ways that build connection and transform the w...

How many of you find your self not feeling fully after you experienced something intense or maybe a conversation with someone...? What is it that we do instead of feeling fully maybe distract ourselves with something else. When we truly give ourselves permission to feel it truly helps us move through the hard moment and heal from it. Kyle goes through an experience he had and how he felt the exper...

Compromise is a loaded word; it can be a very complicated and complex topic to discuss. A lot of the information I have a said came from compiling information from these three websites I have provided in the description below. Many of us who are not familiar with NVC may see and define compromise differently. I know in my life I have had compromises that I didn’t really have a choice in and had to...

Grey’s Anatomy Season 17 Episode 4 Kyle and I role play a scene in Grey's and go through feelings and needs and behaviors of each of the characters. This gives us a chance to walk through NVC using a scenario that very well could happen in real life. When we don't have anyone to practice NVC with, we can practice while watching TV shows or the news etc.    CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Liv...

This episode is going to address the questions that one of our listeners emailed us about. Here is what our Living Connected Listener said: "How to "keep the tank full" so that the intention to lead with curiosity, care, and empathy can happen more often.  Is that through self-empathy? Is that through outside empathy (i.e. God or others)? Or maybe it is how to tap into the power wit...

Love, what an in depth word, there is no way to discuss love in ALL its entirety. We could have so many episodes just on this word alone. Have you ever been in love before? Do you know what it’s like to feel love for someone you care about ? Or are you still a bit confused on what love actually is and what it might feel like. Love can be so different between relationships you have. Love can even l...

CUP OF EMPATHY!!!! We have a wonderful guest on today’s episode her name is Marianne and she helps people to take care of themselves while being in relationships, in particular love relationships. She bases herself on NVC mostly, and currently has the biggest YouTube channel worldwide about this topic.   We get to explore ways to communicate using NVC when we are in the bedroom with our partner. M...

Suzanne worked as a pediatric occupational therapist after expressing herself as a recreational therapy assistant, stagehand puppeteer and perennial college student. As an occupational therapist, she helped children develop skills for daily life; with the intent of teaching them to become their own best advocate. And with practicing NVC is growing into a person that is capable of doing this for he...

We are going to be talking about comparing and what it looks like in our society. When we find ourselves comparing a lot of times it comes with suffering. Other times, comparing can help inspire us and move us towards a more positive outlook. There are many feelings and needs that arise in us when we do either the positive way of comparing or the way that doesn’t serve us. We go into what some of...

2021 HERE WE COME!! We are in a new year and what this year may bring I have no idea. Everything seems so uncertain and has been for a long while now. We are going to talk about what needs we want to manifest for this new year. And as the world is changing our needs just might change too. When we want to manifest something in our life we gotta believe it deep down. We gotta believe that our need a...

HAPPY New Year Everyone!!! Here we are in 2021! Morris H Ervin, Jr. is an educator, entertainer, motivational speaker, and Youth Development Professional committed to helping the youth, families, communities, and institutions “turn fear into strength, and pain into passion.” Morris is the founder of Mansa Consulting and he has provided assemblies, workshops, mentoring programs, and leadership camp...

MERRY CHRISTMAS!! See you next year! Returning Jan 5th. Hearing a NO after a request you have asked can be just as hard as telling someone a no. There are some things you may want to check when you hear a NO from someone: 1)   Notice the stories we are telling ourselves when we hear the no. 2)   Am I attached to the strategy to get this need met? 3)   Did you pause before responding to the NO 4)  ...

Karen Starz takes us through what it is like to work in spiritual communities using NVC. Karen is a CNVC Certified Trainer, she is a consultant, coach, speaker, and facilitator. Her background spans many areas, from interpersonal relationships to businesses and non-profit organizations. Her approach to Nonviolent Communication is based on embodying the whole of nonviolent consciousness to create a...

There is a difference between our inner critic and self - judgments that I wasn't aware of. We take you through this exploration with compassion. There are ways to quiet our inner critic and shift our thinking when our inner critic is hard at work. How much of our inner critic do we believe? Do you think it is true? What can we say differently that would be more gentle to our heart? If I were...

HAPPY THANKSGIVING WEEK!  In all the research I have done over the years, appreciation can really lift the spirits of human beings. A lot of times in our relationships we forget to give appreciate to our partner. We stop recognizing and acknowledging the good things and focus on the things that didn’t go right. Jonh Gottman says that relationships thrive when the ratio of positive to negative inte...

What is beneficial regret? Is it something that has an outcome that you preferred and you are still left with feeling badly. Is Beneficial regret when you have done something that you didn’t like and at the same time You don’t put your self down, in shame or blame for what you did.  Does regret benefit you because you have found a way to acknowledge unmet needs?  Regret opens the door into reflect...

There is a lot of violence going on in the world right now. There is a way to see through the violence with the lens of empathy. We invite you to join us in exploring ways to reduce violence by offering deep listening and acknowledgement. This can be very powerful and a transforming factor in the path of people’s lives from all backgrounds and walks of life. We have a special guest today who will...

Self-Reflection is important when doing our inner work. Being willing to be open to our patterns and improving on being better can only help us in the long run. Sometimes it is hard to see the behavioral patterns we have and when brought to our attention we don’t want to see it. Slowing down our conversations to incorporate some reflection can only benefit us. And it will bring more awareness to w...

Trust is a big deal when dealing with relationships. Romantic, friend, work, school relations build on trust. Trust builds in small and big ways for people. Trust can also be broken so fast. Sometimes we don’t even know it was trust that was broken to begin with. That is why there is resentment or anger or withdrawal. We all want a sense of safety and if trust is broken how do we repair or rebuild...