Living Connected - NVC

We have a special guest this week Adinah Barlow and we are going to talk about Trauma and NVC. How NVC might be helpful and how it might not be helpful for a traumatic experience. This is very interesting because I am just now editing this after my major traumatic experience, and I bet this episode would have been way different if I had come in with this example of trauma. I do hope to have Adinah...

I wrote out this long thing of what strategies that I remembered as I was listening to the episode for the 3rd time and now...2 weeks later or more I just don't know anymore. On Feb 25th, I got into a massive car accident. I hit ice out of nowhere. My car started to fish tail, swerved and before I knew it, my car jack-knifed into on coming traffic and I crash into a truck what seemed like fac...

Eric and I had continued to talk after our recording and got some good stuff to add. Eric really challenged me during the previous episode and it's good to have friends who can challenge your thinking gently. He felt safe to do that and also given the response I had he can and will continue to do so. I truly believe that we grow the most when we are challenged in our thinking. Pushing the unc...

Thank you Listeners for your patience and understanding when I have some technical difficulties. I acknowledge that the audio isn’t great and the next episode will be better. I appreciate you all for continuing to listen and passing along this Podcast to others.  We are going to be talking about passive aggressive behavior and I have some examples from my own life I will be using. Often times peop...

We get to talk about the Enneagram and I had no idea that there are so many deep levels of understanding of this modality, that I am just barely cutting the surface. Today, specifically we dive deep into the three subtypes of the Enneagram, which are Self-Preservation, Social and Sexual. In each individual Enneatype there are there three subtypes or instinctual variants/stacking. Understanding the...

The New Year is like a death and a birth in the sense that we are ending a year and starting a new one. We will never see 2021 again that we know of and that can be something to mourn especially if things have happened in that year or find the things that were a gift in the ending year and honor those too. We can shift or reframe how we see the birth of this New Year and what gifts this year may b...

This episode had more static and I have looked it up and it could be a cord issue which is crazy to me that a year and half cord would be causing so much trouble. I sincerely apologize for the poor audio quality. In this episode we talk about the holidays and how it can be hard to figure out family stuff around the holidays. We go into a little about change and growth and what that might look like...

Michael Shawe started out in research psychology studying the origins of childhood depression which is a risk factor for depressive episodes in adults. When he was deciding on what path to choose, his advisor at the time who strongly encouraged him to be a researcher, died suddenly. Michael took time to reflect and decided on going on a more clinical path. From there he was invested in understandi...

There was some popping in this episode. This mic created some weird static and I am so sorry, I have no idea why it did that. There are parts where its really bad. I think the coming episodes it isn’t so bad or at all there. I am having a hard time finding time to edit when working full time so here we go, bare with me. I am putting episodes out the best I can. Thank you so much for your patience...

I have finally moved to Bend and I apologized for not keeping up on the podcast. It is so hard to move and edit all at the same time. I am doing my best to keep up on it. I think about how behind I am lol. Hang in there with me. This episode is so powerful and if you are okay with a lot of tears then be prepared for the mess I bring hehe. Rachelle gives me an opportunity to heal by giving me words...

I have been traveling in California seeing family and friends. I haven't put out an episode because its been so hard to edit while spending time with those I love. I am doing my best to keep up. Thank you for baring with me. Much love to you all.  Our special guest is LaShelle Lowe-Chardé. She founded Wise Heart with a mission to help make a shift in consciousness about how we relate to life...

OMG, if anyone has a podcast or work with audio, you would know that different mics can sound different depending on how it is set up. The mic can be up right or the top facing you. And silly Kady decided to turn the mic to face her and the sound got all jacked up lol. (face in hands) So if the audio of my voice sounds off and or different, yup that's me messin' with things before record...

In several episodes I was obsessed (still am) with the book Permission to Feel by Marc Bracket. I still highly recommend reading. I tried to reach out to see if he could join me on my podcast and I was given the gift to talk to Nikki who has worked along side Marc and we enjoyed an amazing connection talking together. I am grateful to introduce Nikki Elbertson, M.Ed., is the director of content an...

We recorded this 7 days before my mom passed and I was so tired and exhausted. I had forgotten to put in my headphones in. It truly messed up my recording and you will hear my audio with both Kyle and David in the background. Because of this screw up it took me over 12 hrs to edit that is sooo long. I did give myself compassion for this. I wanted to give you heads up incase you heard some things t...

We had the honor to have Dan on our podcast. Please feel free to send us any questions that you might have for him and we can try and have him on again to answer your questions. I wanted everyone to have a deeper understanding of the autism world that some of us may not know about. Cheers to you Dan!  Daniel M. Jones (The Aspie World) is an international best selling author / video influencer with...

Holly Mandel has inspired so many people in the improv work that she does. She has created programs such as the school of improv called ImprovOlution, she has a podcast and wrote a book called “Good Girls Aren’t Funny”. Her work is based on women and girls on perfectionism, limits of obeying cultural ‘shoulds’ and liberating one’s self for the sake of all women. Holly has her degree in sociology a...

How has closure helped you? What strategies did you use to find closure in your heart? We would love to know what worked for you, send us a voice memo or an email so we can engage with our listeners.  The healing that comes from the clarity of closure is so healthy and important in order for us to move forward into the next chapter of our life. When we can heal and move through acceptance it allow...

My Mom passed away, and for those who follow my IG and FaceBook I made a post about it so you are caught up in real time.  I realize that I am several episodes behind so the information that I talk about is definitely several weeks prior. Bare with me as, I have fallen behind from being so overwhelmed with everything. When we think about the Stimulus in NVC, it’s an event or situation or what a pe...

BLOOPERS!!! At the secret ending lol. And with all that is going on with my mom having a month left to live, I completely forgot if I listened to this episode one time through before I exported. I would love your grace. Thanks so much. Yvette Erasmus says “Relational wounds must be healed in relation" this means, Relational healing is the idea that because some wounds occur while in relations...

Punishment / reward has been a strategy that people all over the world have used to get others to do what we want them to do. Does it work for the moment that there is discomfort in trying to figure out how to stop what is happening? Are there long term affects in the human psyche from the punishment method? Using domination “power over” rather than “power with” can be a strategy that often dismis...

Season 2: This episode will be part one of a three part series with David Weinstock. Here is David’s Biography.    David Weinstock is executive director of Liminal Somatics, a Somatic Coach through the Strozzi Institute and Stuart Heller’s Five Rings Coaching Institute and originator of Somatic Consensus.  He is a certified international trainer of Nonviolent Communication and author of Becoming W...

SECOND SEASON COMING JULY 13th!!! WOOT WOOT! Vulnerability is can be defined in different ways depending on how you see the word. For me, vulnerability is the willingness and openness to express emotion or share your heart with someone you feel safe with and trust. When we are talking about being emotionally exposed in some way and the possibility of being judged, or criticized, we may find oursel...

HOORRAYYY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF PODCAST! Let's Celebrate! Asking for consent can show up in so many different ways in our lives. When dealing with my podcast, it’s essential to ask for consent when sharing something on the podcast that belongs to someone else. When I have shared emails, or comments from listeners it’s because I have asked for their consent. Sometimes, it’s good to ask someo...

Levels of intensity can relate to how high or intense your emotions are, how intense is this situation I am in, or how is my body reacting to this experience in this now moment. We can use the levels of intensity scale to figure out where we are. Sometimes I find it easier to connect with a number when I am thinking in terms of capacity. If I am at 20% capacity and my self-awareness of my energy i...

There are three steps to get to emotional liberation that Marshall Rosenberg describes in his book. Eric and I discuss each step and as we do that we are both learning more about what it means to find that emotional liberation. We don’t have control over someone else’s feelings or emotions.  We can’t change how someone feels about something. We can have awareness of our own feelings. We can change...