LIKING the people you LOVE

Well friends- this is it.  After more than 5 years and 250 episodes, this will be my last. In this episode I'm sharing some of the things I have loved and learned, as well as a few things I hope you'll remember. Thank you for being here, for listening, and for doing the work to create more love at home. If you'd like to continue learning from me, remember that my book is still available on Amazon....

If it sometimes seems like your teenager doesn't like you, you are not alone! Teens are developmentally wired to be emotional and easily irritated. For many parents, it feels personal. Today I'm sharing lots of personal stories about my teens not liking me (haha) so you will know you're in good company. I'm also sharing some things that I have found helpful while navigating this stage. Favorite qu...

Many thoughtful parents believe they need to be "on the same page" in order to be good parents. But what happens when you and your spouse genuinely see things differently? In this episode, Christi talks about the tension couples feel when they disagree about parenting decisions- from grades and discipline to bigger issues of values and faith. She shares a personal story and explains the difference...

So many moms feel stuck in the middle-trying to smooth things over between a husband and a teenager or between two siblings who can't seem to get along. The problem is that playing referee usually leaves everyone frustrated- especially YOU! In this episode Christi talks about why stepping out of the middle actaully helps relationships to grow, and what a mom's role can look like instead.  

Today's episode is a quick story about me applying my own advice from last week- being the calm in the storm. Moral of the story: "Everything will be OK in the end. If it's not OK, it's not the end." -John Lennon

In a world full of chaos and uncertainty, our families need steady mothers of faith.  In this episode, Christi shares ideas of how to be the "calm in the storm" by anchoring yourself to Jesus Christ, and applying President Nelson's guidance to create homes that are safe, peaceful, and spiritually secure. " Embrace the Future with Faith " Oct 2020

It's easy to focus on what's going wrong with our teens. But what happens when we intentionally look for- and speak about- what's going right? In this episode I'm offering some simple reframes that can change how you experience your teenager and create more love and connection in your home. Join my email list HERE ***you have to scroll down to the bottom

In these challenging times, one of the most valuable skills we can teach our teenagers is resilience. In this episode, I have three suggestions of ways we can help our teenagers-even the ones who aren't listening- to build resilience. If you'd like some personalized help, you can book your FREE consultation session HERE.

How do you know if you're succeeding as a parent of teenagers- especially when you can't control their choices? In this episode, Christi reframes what success really looks like when parenting teens, and shares four faith-centered questions to help you measure progress, trust yourself, and parent with confidence and peace. Schedule your FREE Ministering Session here Talk by Tamara Runia

If you've ever doubted your parenting instincts, or gone quiet about something that feels important to you, this episode is an invitation to trust yourself and speak up- with confidence and clarity. So many faithful moms wonder if they are doing this right, even when they are thoughtful, capable, and deeply committed to their families.  Today I'm talking about why your family needs you to trust yo...

What if some of the negative things you believe about yourself aren't true- and never were? In this episode I'm sharing some real-life examples of how challenging subconscious beliefs about ourselves can drastically change our parenting experience. If you've ever felt like you're failing, falling short, or not enough, this episode will encourage you to pause, challenge that story and adopt a more...

Christmas time can be magical- and incredibly stressful for moms. In this episode, I share practical ways to manage Christmas stress by adjusting expectations, letting go of traditions that no longer serve you, and taking back the control over your own emotions. We'll talk about intentionally choosing your thoughts and feelings to create a more meaningful Christmas, filled with gratitude, joy, and...

Today I'm talking with my dear friend and fellow coach Jill Pack. Jill helps LDS moms navigate their relationships with their adult children, which can be tricky! She has created a roadmap of sorts that she calls "Beyond the Battle Map." It's designed to help you turn your conflicts into connections with adult kids. She's sharing it with you for FREE right here .

If you've ever felt like you're "playing small," or not doing enough with your life, this episode is for you. Today I'm sharing a gospel-centered mindset shift about identity, divine purpose, and why your everyday efforts aren't small at all. You'll walk away with more confidence, more peace, and a deeper belief that you are part of a great work- right where you are. Quote from Gordon B. Hinckley...

Holiday gatherings can feel overwhelming. Especially when you're navigating opinions, expectations, and judgement from the people you love most. In this episode, I'm sharing my timely "Family Potluck" analogy to help you handle extended-family drama, and stay calm around challenging personalities. You'll learn how to let others "bring what they bring" without taking it on or letting it ruin your m...

Is contention taking over your home? In this episode, Christi shares practical, faith-centered tools for LDS moms who want more peace, love, and the Spirit in their homes- especially while raising teenagers. Christi breaks down the three most effective strategies she has learned as a mom of teens and young adults:  Taking responsibility for setting the spiritual and emotional tone with intention I...

"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times." Charles Dickens' famous line perfectly captures the messy beauty of mortality.  In this episode, Christi explores what it means to live in a world full of opposites, and how learning to hold both can deepen our peace and wisdom. Through scripture insights and real-life examples, this episode reminds us that two things can be true at the same t...

Today I'm attempting to share with you a meaningful skill I gained at a women's retreat last weekend. Becoming acquainted with your true, wise, spiritual self can help you see things from a more eternal perspective. You have light and wisdom inside you that can help you better navigate mortality. Doctrine and Covenants 138:56

We all like to be nice. We like to be helpful and supportive. But sometimes, in our efforts to make others happy, we end up taking responsibility for their emotions. Unfortunately, no matter how hard we try, we can't make another person feel happy, or confident, or calm. And sometimes, when we try too hard to be helpful, we end up walking on eggshells and damaging the very relationship we were try...

One of the most common things that I see sucking the joy out of family relationships is the constant worry and anxiety that we as mothers sometimes carry around. We feel an urgency to make sure our kids are thriving and doing things the right way. It sounds nice, but it's often counterproductive. Today I'm reminding us all about a truth that President Dallin H. Oaks taught in the recent general co...

Our kids learn more from who we are than from what we say. This is especially true during the teenage years, when they start to tune our words. Today's episode is about how to teach teenagers skills of emotional resilience, without them even knowing they are being taught!

With the passing of our dear prophet, President Russell M. Nelson, I have been reflecting on the many precious things I have learned from him. While his general conference talks were not specifically issued as "parenting advice," his wise and inspired words have helped me so much in my parenting, and in my family relationships. Today I'm sharing how I have applied his teachings to my parenting, an...

Mothers are the heart of the home. Today's episode is about how to be more intentional about the kind of atmosphere or feeling we are creating in our homes.

What if you were wearing smudged lenses, but you didn't realize it?  You would think that the world just looked dirty! Today I'm talking about how the things we believe create our reality.  As we become aware of beliefs that create negative results in our lives, we create more options for ourselves. We can, if we choose, let go of limiting beliefs and choose beliefs that open us up to new possibil...

The Book of Mormon tells us that we are agents to act, and not just be acted upon. (2 Nephi 2:26-27) But when the people around us are being difficult, sometimes it's hard to take full responsibility for our own agency. We all know that we are responsible for our own actions, but sometimes I think we forget we are also free to choose our thoughts and feelings. Today I have a couple of suggestions...