Like Me Podcast

Episode number: EP 22 Podcast: Like Me Officially with J'K Frederick Category: Society & Culture / Gender-Based Violence / Policy & Accountability The Cost of Witnessing - Your Story on the World Stage What does it actually cost a survivor to witness their own experience play out in reports, courtrooms, news cycles, and public arguments, often without ever being in the room? In this episode, J’K F...

Episode number: EP21 Podcast: Like Me Officially with J'K Frederick Category: Society & Culture / Gender-Based Violence / Policy & Accountability In 2024, over 122,000 child sexual abuse and exploitation offences were recorded in England and Wales. Half were committed by children aged 10 to 17. Online offences rose 26% in a single year. Over half of all recorded cases are child on child. Something...

Episode number: EP20 Podcast: Like Me Officially with J'K Frederick Category: Society & Culture / Gender-Based Violence / Policy & Accountability In May 2026, three teenage boys convicted of raping two girls in Fordingbridge, Hampshire walked out of Southampton Crown Court without a custodial sentence. The judge handed down youth rehabilitation orders. His reason: he did not want to “unnecessarily...

What this episode is about There is a script. It runs every time someone asks a question nobody wanted asked. This episode names the architecture — how media framing, community culture, and heritage culture operate in similar ways to protect the powerful and silence the inconvenient. From himpathy to legal language, from Jeffrey Epstein to Lauren Goodger, J'K tracks the pattern and asks who it ser...

What is the Survivor Algorithm? The Survivor Algorithm is a framework for understanding the identity stages many people move through after trauma victim, survivor, and thriver and why moving between them is rarely straightforward. Like a social media algorithm, it runs in the background, based on rules that were installed without your consent. And like any man-made system, it can be rewritten. Wha...

Episode Summary What does it mean to be a "voltage spike" in a broken system? In this episode of Like Me Officially , J’K Frederick explores the concept of the "glitch" an intentional disruption of the scripts we are forced to follow. Drawing from literature, history, and personal experience, we dive into why speaking out is an act of disobedience and why your truth doesn't need a system’s signatu...

In this opening episode J’K challenges the societal standard of the "survivor" label. Using the biological formation of a pearl and the architectural rebuilding of Nehemiah’s walls as frameworks, she explores why "survivor" is a crucial milestone that should never have been turned into a full stop. This is an invitation to move beyond endurance and into a space of agency, mental clarity, and thriv...

Opening reflection Something about the way the 12% is framed, as data, as a metric, as a gap, felt like it was missing the person at the centre of it. This episode is my attempt to put her back there. And to ask what each of us, survivors, supporters, and workplaces, can actually do. Themes explored in this episode Theme 1: The dissonance at the heart of the 12% The survivor tax has been described...

This episode contains discussion of sexual violence, domestic abuse, coercive control, and their economic consequences. Please listen when you have space. Come back when you're ready. This episode is a companion to EP13: The 12% Survivor Tax. Start there if you haven't listened yet. Join the conversation on substack https://substack.com/@jkfrederick In this episode Why Finland has the data the UK...

On the 26th of March 2026, the Institute for Fiscal Studies — one of the UK's most respected independent economic research institutions published a report on the economic consequences of gender-based violence. The headline finding: a permanent 12% drop in income for survivors of domestic abuse. Not temporary. Permanent. In this episode, J'K responds to that report in real time. She connects the nu...

I did not know there were two International Women's Days until I started asking questions. When I came across the 2026 IWD theme, Give to Gain, I felt exhausted. Not inspired. Exhausted. And I needed to understand why. So I pulled on the loose thread of my curiosity. What I found sitting underneath that theme, behind the purple banners and the cupped hands and the hashtag, is what this episode is...

EPISODE 11: WHO AM I? The Search for Identity SHOW NOTES Why do we keep taking personality tests? And what are we really searching for when we do? In this episode, I explore the cultural obsession with identity, the origins of personality tests like MBTI, DISC, Human Design, and the Enneagram, and why external validation can never replace self-trust. I share my own experience of taking personality...

When the Epstein files dropped, something happened in my body before my mind had even caught up. Head fuzzy. Stomach dropping. A tightening — like a recognition. That's what re-triggering feels like. Not abstract. Physical. Immediate. This episode isn't about the files. It's about the pattern underneath them. Twenty minutes of commentary on the perpetrator. Five seconds on the people who were harm...

What No One Tells You About Disclosing Disclosure isn’t always the neat turning point people imagine. It isn’t catharsis. It isn’t relief. It’s risk. In this episode, I share what happened when I disclosed childhood sexual abuse at thirteen, what I expected, what actually happened, and what that moment taught me about silence, shame, belief, and accountability. I explore: - What disclosure really...

On December 18, 2025, the UK published its Violence Against Women and Girls Strategy. A 10-year commitment to halve violence. Within hours, I saw the same pattern: applause, promises, and a missing piece I know too well, coordination infrastructure. I’ve spent a decade watching strategies give hope, then quietly fail because there’s no accountability to deliver them. No one is tracking who does wh...

Prevention doesn’t fail because we lack strategies. It fails because we refuse to be honest. In this episode, I explore: -What the manosphere really is — and what it isn’t -How culture, profit, and silence intersect -Why prevention can’t work without naming harm -The myths we’re told about perpetrators -Institutional power and moral accountability -Unfinished stories, shame, and survival -Where pe...

In this episode, I take a closer look at the UK’s 10-year strategy to end violence against women and girls through reflection, lived insight, and questioning rather than instruction. Themes explored: - Reduction versus eradication - The gap between policy and lived reality - Institutional responsibility and design failure - Who gets protected — and who gets left behind - Urgency, tolerance, and ti...

In this episode: - How entertainment teaches us to accept violence as normal - The "dazzle" effect: when harm is wrapped in beauty - From C-dramas to conflict minerals: the loop connecting entertainment, technology, and violence against women - The Economy of Apathy: why corporations can afford to wait out our outrage - What we can do when we finally see the pattern Content Warning: This episode d...

A reflection on abundance, shame, and remembering what was never lost. In this episode, I explore: - The psychology of scarcity and suggestion - How shame enters and teaches us to hide - Why abundance often goes unnoticed until it feels threatened - Discernment between voices of truth and lack - Healing as participation, not passivity - The courage to receive support - Eden as an inner state, not...

Episode:3 – What’s in a Name? Podcast: Like Me Officially Host: J’K In this episode, J’K explores: - Why names carry power beyond words - How labels can become identities — without our consent - The psychological impact of being named by others - The difference between survival and becoming - Why some labels help… and others quietly limit us - The body’s role in remembering what the mind avoids -...

Life After “Survivor” What happens when the word survivor no longer fits? In this episode of Like Me , J’K explores what it means to live beyond survival, not by erasing the past, but by loosening its grip on identity. For years, surviving became both a skill and a label. It shaped how the body stayed alert, how safety was negotiated, and how patterns of loss and stability quietly repeated themsel...

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There was a long season where I didn’t recognise myself…and I wasn’t sure if I even liked who I saw. This episode marks the beginning of Like Me - a personal and immersive podcast about life after the violence, the shame, and the labels that were placed on me without my permission. I’m not teaching. I’m not fixing. I’m not holding myself up as an example. I’m sharing from my own experiences the qu...