Lights On with Carl Lentz

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Our book, Overcoming Infidelity, is OUT NOW: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230497 Are you getting better, or are you getting bitter? Everyone has opinions about your marriage, your choices, and your life, and how you handle those voices affects your mental health, your relationships, and w...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Our book, Overcoming Infidelity, is OUT NOW: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230497 "Do you ever worry that I'm going to cheat on you again?" Carl asks Laura that question on camera, and her answer may not be what you'd expect. For everyone new here since the book launched, we pulled togethe...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Our book, Overcoming Infidelity, is OUT NOW: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230497 "Is it really possible to overcome infidelity?" It's the question behind the title of our new book, and we hear it in some form every week. Today, on release day, we answer it live from Nashville, along with...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Pre-order our book, Overcoming Infidelity, TODAY: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230497 "How did you experience no guilt? Because you're a Jesus follower?" Last week a wife wrote in about a husband who uses grace to dodge accountability. This week she asks Carl the question directly, and he...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Pre-order our book, Overcoming Infidelity, TODAY: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230497 "He tells me he has no guilt, because there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." A wife married over 30 years wrote in with a question we hear far more often than people realize: what d...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Every couple in recovery hits the same three walls at some point. The rage that won't quit. The suspicion that there's more to the story. And the impossible question of how to protect your kids from the fallout of a parent who isn't showing up. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura take on all three, pulled straight from the mailb...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Some of the hardest questions in recovery aren't the big ones. They're the small, daily ones that couples get stuck on for years without ever asking out loud. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura take on two of them, both pulled straight from the mailbag, and get into the honest answers most couples never get. The first: when doe...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com "Is this normal?" is one of the most asked questions in every marriage counselor's office. It's also one of the most dangerous ones, because "normal" and "healthy" aren't the same thing. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle three real listener questions that get to the heart of what most couples are quietly wondering but a...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Some of the biggest misconceptions couples carry into betrayal recovery aren't just wrong. They're the reason people stay stuck for years. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about four of the most common myths they hear over and over from listeners, friends, and couples they've walked through this with. And every one...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com We're home in Virginia Beach and back in the mailbag. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura take on four of the most common questions couples in recovery keep sending in. Not the surface-level questions. The ones people ask when they trust the answer is going to be honest. The first: is forgiveness the same as reconciliation? The...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Carl and Laura are back with a new season, a new studio, a new book, and one of the most tender openings this show has ever had. Before Carl and Laura get into the listener questions, Carl opens up about the sudden loss of his sister Rachel, what he's learned about carrying grief and honor at the same time, and the reminder her life left...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Since Lights On started, we've been asked a lot of questions. Some out loud. Some in private messages. Some in the middle of a conversation with couples we love. In this special episode, Carl and Laura pulled the eleven hardest, most common, most necessary marriage questions into one place. This episode is for the couple sitting at the d...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com The Summer Shots series continues, and this week's shot is the simplest and hardest one yet. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get into the third shot in the series: a 20-minute walk together, every day, for one week. And underneath it, the bigger conversation almost no couple is having on purpose. Who is actually setting the...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Last week Carl and Laura kicked off the Summer Shots series with the challenge to cut criticism for a full week. This week, they build on it with the second shot: intentional, specific, planned encouragement. Because taking something out only works if you put something better back in. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get hone...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Most people have never been taught how to apologize. And the ones who have often learned to do it in a way that quietly protects themselves instead of repairing anything. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about what a real apology actually looks like, why it's the single most important skill in a healthy relationshi...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Most marriages don't fall apart in a single moment. They quietly erode under the weight of what nobody's willing to say out loud. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about the one thing that changed everything for them, and could change everything for any couple willing to try it: radical honesty. Carl and Laura walk...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Last week Carl and Laura opened up the biggest question in marriage recovery: how do you stop being lonely in your marriage? This week, they pick up right where that left off with the follow-up question thousands of couples are quietly asking. How do we actually come back to each other? In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com You can be married and still lonely. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about one of the most under-talked-about realities in relationships: sitting next to someone every night and still feeling completely alone. If that sounds familiar, this one is for you. Carl and Laura walk through three real listener questions t...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com A listener wrote in with a question almost every betrayed spouse eventually wrestles with: I have every right to be angry, but I can feel it turning me into someone I don't want to be. How do I let go of my anger without letting him off the hook? In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura take that question seriously and reframe one of...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com After last week's episode reframing the most asked question in betrayal recovery, Carl and Laura pick up exactly where they left off. In this episode of Lights On, they introduce what they call the two decision reality: the framework that quietly carried them out of the valley and into the marriage they have now. Most couples think they...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com After betrayal, almost every couple lands on the same question: should I stay or should I leave? In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura make the case that this is the wrong question, and the rush to answer it is one of the most damaging moves a couple can make in the aftermath of infidelity. Drawing from their own season in the val...

Charles and Abby Metcalf are back at the table, and this one goes deeper than part one. In this episode of Lights On, Carl, Laura, Charles, and Abby get into the parts of marriage that quietly erode underneath the busy life of raising kids: the conflicts that aren't actually about what they look like, the unspoken games we play hoping our spouse will read our minds, the way two exhausted people ca...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com For the first time on Lights On, Carl and Laura invited guests to the table: Charles and Abby Metcalf, dear friends, pastors, and parents of four little ones in the thick of the season most couples privately worry they won't survive. Together, the four of them get into the question hundreds of you have asked in different ways: what do ki...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com This is the number one question Carl and Laura get asked, so they finally gave it a whole episode. A listener wrote in asking how you rebuild intimacy when sex, touch, and closeness have all become wired to pain, pressure, and fear. Underneath it sat the question almost nobody says out loud: will we ever have sex again? In this episode o...

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com When a parent emailed asking how to discipline their kids after blowing up the family, we knew this conversation needed its own episode. Their question went deeper than discipline though. It was about authority. How do you lead your kids when you feel completely disqualified? And how do you stabilize their nervous system when yours is ba...