Life's Messes with the Hess's

What really makes someone family? Is it DNA, shared history, or the people who choose to stand beside you when life gets messy? This week we're talking about the different ways family is created and what that word means to us. We also take a moment to acknowledge two years since Levi's accident. We discuss our 4th of July plans and Betty's upcoming birthday. As always, it's an hone...

In this episode, we're asking a simple question: why do some people their good time matters more than everyone else's? We dive into the frustration of being told to quiet down and make ourselves smaller, because apparently existing loudly is a crime now. We also discuss the internet frenzy over Bunnie and Jelly Roll, and why we think she deserves way more credit than she gets. From there,...

No outline. No game plan. Just two cousins catching up. From wedding weekends and live music to the realities of blended families, we're taking you along for one of those conversations that starts in one place and somehow ends somewhere completely different. Thanks for hanging out with us through the chaos!

We spend a lot of time chasing the idea of "having it all," but what does that actually mean? In this episode, we discuss what our version of "all" looks like. Is it financial freedom, a fulfilling career, a happy relationship, good health, more time, less stress, or all of the above or none of the above? We explore the dreams we have for our lives, the obstacles that seem to s...

In Episode 24, we're talking about what it means to be unapologetically yourself in a world that always seems to have an opinion. From people pleasing and self doubt to embracing our quirks, flaws, and strengths, we're sharing our thoughts on learning to stop shrinking ourselves to make others comfortable. This conversation is honest, relatable, and full of the kind of real talk you've...

This week the messes are diving headfirst into the world of double standards, and trust us, we have thoughts. From the things women get judged for that men get a free pass on, to the expectations that somehow still exist in 2026, nothing is off limits. Of course, we couldn't ignore the Summer House Reunion Part 1 drama either. We break down the season, without spilling the tea on the reunion....

Episode 22 is basically what happens when conversations take a hard left, forget where they were going and somehow still end up entertaining. From random thoughts and side quests to "how'd we even get here?" moments, this episode is chaotic in the best way. Of course can't get by without a little trauma right. No direction, no outline, just real conversations, laughs, opinions no...

This week is pure chaotic energy from start to finish. We talk about Jodi and Jack's Nashville trip, Betty's family cookout adventures, and then somehow spiral directly into affairs, serial cheaters, emotional cheating versus physical cheating, and whether "situational cheating" is just a fancy excuse for bad behavior. Add in some weird OCD habits and random side tangents, and ho...

Love isn't always 50/50 and honestly that's where relationships get messy. This week we're talking about the give and take of love, communication struggles, emotional effort, and what happens when one person is carrying more that the other. We also dive into the idea of right guy, wrong time and whether timing can completely change the outcome of a relationship. Some days relationships...

Episode 19 gets real as we dive into the difference between how people see us and how we actually feel inside. We talk about putting on a brave face, masking emotional struggles, surviving daily life while silently carrying heavy things, and why so many people say, "I'm fine" when they're anything but. This episode turned into one of our most honest conversations yet about emotio...

Episode 18 gets real about something nobody really prepares you for as an adult... trying to figure out the balance between isolating and actually having a social life. Why do we hit a point where staying home sounds better than out out? Is it age, burnout, anxiety... or just peace? Basically.. are we healing, aging, avoiding, or just becoming little raccoons that don't leave the house? Tune i...

Life be lifin'... and we're just here trying to keep up. This week we get real about how it feels like the only time we see old friends anymore are at visitations and funeral and why that hits way harder as we get older. We talk about how life gets busy, relationships fade, and those unexpected moments that make you stop and think, damn... when did everything change? Betty shares her excit...

We're taking it way back...and yeah, we were a mess This episode is full of teenage chaos, partying, bad decisions, and the kind of stories that make you question how we even made it to adulthood. We're laughing, cringing, and reliving the moments that probably should've stayed in the past...but here we are. If you had a wild phase, this one's gonna hit home, lol.

Alright...we're going there. In this episode, we're talking about sex...the real, awkward, funny, and honest side of it. From dirty talk to total silence, we're breaking down what we're comfortable with, what makes us cringe, and what actually works or doesn't in the bedroom. No filters. No pretending. Just two cousins keeping it real about things people think about, but don&#3...

In this episode, there is no script or real topic. It's just two cousins laughing, talking about all the chaos going on and having fun with it. If you like lack of structure, humor, and a little bit of mystery, lol, than this one is for you.

Pop culture is unhinged right now and we've got thoughts. In this episode we're diving headfirst into celebrity chaos, internet drama, and the moments that have everyone talking. From "did that really happen?" to "why are we like this as a society," nothing is off limits. Grab your drink and come be messy with us.

This one hit different. This wee, we're getting real about Betty's heart attack...what happened, what it felt like, and the moments that changed everything. We're talking fear, denial, and the wake up call neither of us saw coming. We dive into what life looks like now, the changes that have to happen, and the hard truth about taking your health seriously before your body forces you to...

This episode is exactly what the title promises. Unhinged. No agenda, no structure, just two cousins letting the conversation run completely off the rails. From random stories to questionable life choices, we bounce between topics like a pinball machine and somehow still make it make sense...kind of. Expect laughs, side tangents, and a few moments where we probably should've stayed quiet, but...

This week on Life's Messes with the Hess's we're stepping into the weird, the spooky, and the slightly unexplainable. From paranormal experiences to eerie moments we still can't explain to tarot cards, energy shifts, and those gut feelings that refuse to be ignored, we're diving into the world of vibes, intuition, and the possibility that there might be more going on around us...

In this episode, we get real about past relationships that shaped us, stretched us, and sometimes straight broke us. We talk about the chaos we confused for comfort, the trauma we carried longer than we should have, and the quiet anxiety that follows you into something new. Healing is not cute. It is messy. It is humbling. It forces you to look at your patterns, your triggers, and the stories you...

This week we tackle the greatest lie ever sold to children: grow up, get a job, and life makes sense. Instead you get passwords you can't remember, taxes you don't understand, emails that could've been one sentence, and a to do list that somehow breeds overnight. We vent about work expectations versus reality, the mental gymnastics of taxes, and the everyday nonsense that turns functio...

In this episode, we get honest about the parts no one puts on the cute Instagram reels. Postpartum struggles. Raising adult children. The guilt we carry. The boundaries we should have set sooner. The regrets that sneak up at 2 am. We talk about loving our kids fiercely while also learning how to let go. We unpack what happens when their mistakes feel like our failures, and we say the quiet parts o...

In this episode, we dive headfirst into habits. The ones we refuse to give up, the ones we know we should probably break, and the ones that somehow run our entire lives without asking permission. From bad routines to coping mechanisms to the everyday chaos we call normal, this conversation goes exactly where you would expect and also absolutely nowhere at the same time. We talk about life, surviva...

This week we get real about being kidnapped by our own parents, generational trauma dumping, and boundaries being optional in our childhoods. We unpack how our parents' trauma became our personality traits, how we accidently trauma dump too, and why healing feels rude and uncomfortable. Our lives were weird like that, we casually had Nobel Peace Prize winners at our house for Thanksgiving. You...

In this episode, we talk about what friendship means to us, how we show up for our friends, who has stuck around and who we had to ditch. Whether you're a friends friend or you only show up when needed, this episode is your you.