Life of the Lost

Dear Maya, this is what worked for me but only you will know what's best for you. Look for the clues.

Dear Maya, don't sweat the small stuff. Ask yourself, 'will this matter 5 years from now?'

A new series dedicated to Maya.

We talk about our own experiences with violent tantrums, sensory issues, and oppositional behaviors growing up as two adoptees.

Are there notable differences between growing up as a girl VS a boy adoptee? Is the difference based on who raised us?

A deep dive into Sam’s mind when it comes to adoption. How it’s changed his outlook on other adoptees, how it’s impacted big events in his life, and most importantly how it's helped him as continues parenting.

A deep dive into Meg’s adoptive family, finding her identity, learning how to express emotions in productive ways, and newfound confidence. 

We had the honor of sitting down and chatting with Lillian Wolfe, a PhD student at Stanford University, who also happens to be a transracial Chinese adoptee! She is researching adoptees and how family support influences how they form their racial-ethnic identities. This is our chance as adoptees to talk about our adoptive families - positive or negative (it can be totally anonymous). Let's support...

Today's podcast is about life, love, stress, & setbacks - what's going on and how to cope moving forward. Life - what's new Love - thoughts after attending Jay Shetty's 'Love Rules' event Stress - new ways to focus before a panic attack Setbacks - a new approach to balancing life with Ayurveda

Pain, embarrassment, shame, and fear followed us for the first week. The mental toll was something neither of us was ready for. It was sure a valentine’s day we’d never forget! 

Maya's 8th birthday party and all the nerves during her big day...not for her but for us!!

A day late and a buck short - BUT HEY, we’re still here getting our voice out into the world wide webs. :)  Sam is a champ for handling Meg’s family in MN and Meg talks about why she wakes up at 4am every morning. 

Living in NYC has been detrimental to how people judge Sam. He questions if it’s in his mind or if it’s truly his skin color that limits his ability to be himself. 

Even in unexpected circumstances, we move forward. As Sam says, "we must have that next-play mentality". In football, if you mess up in a play you can't dwell because you have the rest of the game to prove you still got it. NEXT PLAY.

A chaotic ending to our week landed us in the ER with little Maya. 

We had a week off work and it felt like a nice practice run to not having a 9-5 job. We discuss a few goals for 2023 and you get to hear me (Meg) go down a giant rabbit hole and Sam pulling me back out at the end. That's why we're a team - we got this, you got this! Thanks for sticking around! Happy New Years!

Sam talks about a food disorder he struggled with as a teen. He talks about how the condition could have started and how he's handling it right now.

Taking a deep dive into what it's like being in a relationship with another adoptee.

Let's finally talk about something we've been tip-toeing around for the past 2 years. Divorce, custody, attorneys...you can hear how shaken up we still are. Progress has been made and the most important part is how both sides have Maya's best interest at the forefront. <3

These conversations can get so intense and unexpected - sometimes I (Megan) want to hit that power-off button and end in the middle of a sentence but I know it's best to push through. We had such a solid conversation but at 1 hour it got erased and only 30 minutes were saved. We started again and thought…1. do we start all over again 2. Merge them together 3. Try to pick up where we ended. At this...

We start by listening to an audio clip explaining the deeper meaning of the movie 'Fight Club'. Sam breaks down part of the clip and relates it to his life - having no father and questioning what to do with this dwindling feeling of masculinity. We try to end it by talking about the root of the problem and how we think it can be reshaped.

More specifically...Brown Peruvian adoptees parenting in a rich neighborhood in NYC - but that's only to get super specific. :') Sam's a bit more sensitive to the daily stigmas he faces in NYC and you can hear his pain when he speaks about being a parent. I wish he could see what a fantastic job he's doing being Maya's dad but I know in time he'll see how much his dedication and love impact her. I...

From taking care of Oreo to taking over the world...you'll just have to listen.

Maya, Sam’s daughter, asked if we could do a ‘girls talk’ podcast episode without daddy! She talks about: -the drama that’s happening in first grade (we tried to change the names of the people we talk about) -what she likes to do for fun -what she wants to be when she grows up -a fun event we went to yesterday -an idea for a slime stand

WE’RE BACK.  In this episode, we talk about the insecurities we have about what we’re wearing.  The things that affect what we wear: -Being adopted -Being a parental figure -Comparing ourselves to what others are wearing -Still feeling like kids We also talk about Mother’s Day and how Sam’s detoxing from caffeine cold turkey.