Life Lessons with Indie Wrytes

There's a quote by Pearl Bailey that says, "A crown, if it hurts, is not worth wearing." We've taken the label "selfless" and turned it into a crown that inevitably hurts us; a badge of honor that dishonors our own needs and desires. Understand, there is no honor in having little to no concern for one's self and focusing on the needs and warfare of others. How can y...

Making love is better when you're naked, but so is sharing love. Have you ever been skin to skin WITH intention with a person you love? This is a feeling that not much compares to. Imagine that feeling in emotional and mental forms. Not just skin uncovered, but hearts unguarded, souls unhidden; two people present enough to be completely seen. Naked in love is skin without layers, nothing hidden, n...

Since the beginning of time, girls and women have been split into two impossible categories and identities: the Good Girl  and the Bad Girl. The "good girl" - she's obedient, self-sacrificing, and pleasing and the "bad girl" - she's rebellious, outspoken, risky, and “too much.” Me, Indie, I was the "Bad Girl." However, most women carry both inside of us, but w...

Let’s talk CAPACITY and BOUNDARIES! Let’s be real here… they are the unsung heroes of every healthy relationship and an overall healthy life! How many times have you modified your capacity or altogether axed your boundaries to accommodate other people? How did that end? Terrible? I know. Same! In this episode, we’re going to have a little conversation about a big problem plaguing people, women and...

After a two-year hiatus, we are officially back!! Ready to teach, share, and continue learning the life lessons that really matter. It only felt right to start with an open conversation about where I’ve been… and whew,  chile . Life has been LIFE-ing, and the lessons have been lessoning all across my universe. In this episode, we’re simply catching up. From professional shifts, to motherhood, to t...

In this episode we take a look at what expectations really are and look for the answers to the question, "do expectations ruin relationships?" I hear and read so much about how expectations ruin relationships. When I first read and heard this, I thought that it was very misleading and more harmful to our happiness within relationships. So, I decided to really look into what expectations really are...

In this episode we talk about the influence of LOVE & FREEDOM! There are so many things that we build hope and fidelity in. This includes people, relationships, careers, even our own bodies and abilities, but today we’re going to focus on people and relationships. We make space for people out of need, desire, connection, companionship, attraction, and compatibility, right? We spend time getting to...

In this episode we discuss The Journey Back To Ourselves. Where does it start? WHY does it start? How do we recognize when we’ve lost ourselves? What are the indicators? One night I was journaling about some experiences that I was going through and attempting to understand and conceptualize the feelings I was having, which lead to me ask myself all of the aforementioned questions. I, then, went on...

In this episode, we discuss intimacy. What is intimacy? Do you create intimacy, do you invite it, or does it naturally happen through connection? What does it mean? How does it look? How does it feel? What are the initiators of true intimacy? What is false intimacy and what are the signs of false intimacy? Intimacy is one of the most overused, while being simultaneously misused, words in the world...

Welcome to Season 4 of the Life Lessons Podcast! We're starting this season off where everything starts: CHOICE! And, in order to make a choice, you first have to have a made-up mind. So many of US don't realize we don't make choices with CONSCIOUS INTENTION! Our choices are often made out of desperation and short term relief. Question: how often have you made choices without even proc...

We all have experiences in life, some good some challenging, however we don't have to allow those experiences to dictate what we expect and the results we receive. It may have gone this way last time the experience happened, but that doesn't mean it HAS to go the same way when it comes back around. In this episode, I speak about the lessons I have learned in marriage, divorce, and primary parentin...

In this episode, I talk about learning to keep moving when we need to and also learning to trust and let go when we need to. Sometimes, we feel the need to control things and hold them. We fear what might happen if we let go, even for a moment. Surrender takes more strength than movement in some moments. Yet, as we surrender, we find ourselves being able to hear more clearly. When we float, when w...

In this episode I Am discussing the inevitability of relationships/partnerships. Do you believe it is predestined and almost certain that your relationships will start off great, yet experience inescapable declination? Are we stuck in a continuum of defeat no matter who we are having the experience with? I deeply believe in the ability and strength of Love. To me, it is the infinite power of God,...

In this episode I go a little further into my experiences with divorce and some of the reasons. DIVORCE IS NOT THE EASY WAY OUT. It's such a painful experience for you and if there's kids involved, it's even deeper. But, sometimes, you have to put away the fear of "what if" and be more afraid of "what is." I was more afraid of things being the same way they'd been for the past 6 years, than I was...

Welcome back to the Life Lessons PodCLASS! This season I will be sharing my experiences and the lessons I've acquired through those experiences over the past year. This first episode is about my journey into PRIMARY PARENTING. How I've had to learn a new way of parenting and living, altogether. How I've had to navigate my own healing while trying to help and nurture my girls through their own. Fin...

This episode is based around a conversation I was having with someone about a clip from a show she'd seen. So often we speak against our desires without even realizing it, because of how we THINK it might make us look or sound. Needing something doesn't mean you're desperate for it. And, needs are fine to have. You can still be great and strong, even when you need people. Break the curse. Break th...

I just wanted to share what I’ve been going THROUGH (because I’m moving past it) over the past couple of months and weeks. This is just an open conversation about the emotional and mental experiences I Am dealing with right now. I wanted to (needed to) openly share and release my feelings. I know it’ll help someone(s). We’re all dealing with similar things and knowing, hearing, and seeing hope hel...

This lesson is about the phases and cycles we experience being living things and how to properly prepare for them and how to accept and learn the lessons from them. All things on this earth are subjected to the Universal law of cycles and phases. Understanding this is a part of life itself. It's a part of growth, it's a part of BEING. We experience highs and lows, ups and downs, but they're all a...

We Wear The Mask, not only because of this pandemic, but because we are afraid to allow people to see or know what’s really going on with us. We are smothering our wellness with the Mask of perfection and “alright.” It’s time to come from behind the mask and be able to breathe and get well.

When I heard this phrase inside of me 5 years ago while feeling so betrayed and hurt, it really upset me. It upset me and then it taught a Life Lesson that I now practice with everything I encounter. We will always experience disappointment and sometimes hurtful experiences, yet learning to "get over it" is a necessary practice in order to live again. This episode is about GETTING OVER IT BY BUILD...

In this lesson we discuss defining moments and realizing how we respond to them gives our tomorrows meaning. Every moment you’re faced with a choice, it’s defining you and your life. Make them good.

This lesson is based on a quote by Paul D from the Book, Beloved. So many times we make the mistake of basing our goodness and importance on titles, attachments, and roles we play in life. We forget that we are our OWN good thing without anything else. This is about getting back to SELF.

We’ve always been told and shown that love is the answer to everything, including our happiness. Love is very necessary, but it’s not enough. You need additional additives to make love good! This is your lesson!

While conversing with a colleague, she used the phrase “Relationships are work!” She said this over and over again. It made me think about relationships from the aspect of Jobs vs. Careers. Your relationship should be a partnership that is run like a business you want to see grow, expand, and see big profits .

This is the first Episode of Season 2! This episode is about paying attention to patterns in yourself and your relationships. It's about learning your fabric, measurements, shape, and patterns of your design and those around you to enhance the beauty of what you're creating and your own person design!