Life in Relationship

Grouchiness in Marriage   Questions: What makes you grouchy? Especially in marriage, keeping a household, and family life?   How does the law motivate in marriage, or does it?   How does the gospel motivate more fully or better in marriage? What does the gospel look like when you'd like to see a change in your marriage?   Wellness exercise: Identify one change you'd like to see in your marriage. C...

Who are Your Marriage Rockstars?   Who do we look to in our culture(s) or as couples to tell us what marriage should look like or be like?   Read John 6:67-68. Where does God tell us to go?   What difference does the Word of God make in discerning what our marriages should look like?   Who are your marriage rockstars?   Wellness exercise: If you currently have marriage mentors, give them a call, a...

The Power of Pursuit   What are your communications like on a day to day basis?   What parts of the statement, "Pursuit is still necessary," do you agree or disagree with?   What benefits are there to still pursuing our spouse in marriage?   Song of Songs 8:5-6   What gets in the way of sacrificially pursuing our spouse, both personally and for people in general?   Wellness exercise: Consider two...

Always Growing...in Marriage Riding the Storms   What storms of life come into people's marriages?   What kind of storms or changes have you experienced in your marriage?   Matthew 8:24-25   How can we remind one another we are in it together?   Wellness exercise: Practice praying together once a day, holding hands, for 5 days straight.   YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/g-ccQmXC-Ls

The Marriage Sandwich   What might your marriage sandwich check-ins look like?   What rituals of connection do you already have?   How does your stage of life impact your ability to connect and check in with one another?   How do you ease the transitions in your days?   Wellness exercise: Consider times you have connected well and other times you have not connected well. Acknowledge both to one an...

Marriage and the Fallen World   How does the culture around you view people?   How do you think those cultural views impact marriages, your own and others? In other worlds, why does the fallen world matter in marriage?   John 1:16   What opportunity do you see in recognizing the fallenness in your own marriage? Where do you see grace alive in your marriage?   Wellness exercise: Consider three ways...

Same and Different   What is the same about the two of you?   What is different about the two of you?   Ephesians 2:10   What are the tattoo discussions in your marriage?   How can do we grow by talking things out and how do we grow by letting something go for a time?   Wellness exercise: Celebrate your sameness and your differences together today in some way.   YouTube video link: https://youtu.b...

Unpacking the baggage of the word "Church" What is it? Body of Christ, believers, gathering around the Word together The church in transformation Very basic: Matthew 18:20 local community Gathering/meeting together Moderate concept: Little c and Big C Church The family unit as mini-church Encouraging and building one another up Hebrews 10:24-25 Acts 2:46-47 Colossians 3:16 Advanced: We will all lo...

Question of the day: Is God too serious? God has a sense of humor, which is one of the reasons we have a sense of humor.   Why do we have a hard time seeing God as playful?   Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, "The LORD has done great things for them." Psalm 126:2 Psalm 126   God's promise of salvation includes our mourning...

Episode 15 – Ten Minutes of Journey Growth-orientation of the faith walk: God bringing me from where I'm at to where He wants me to be.   Long history of journeying in Scripture, since the garden of Eden and onward:   Hebrews 11:9-11   1 Chronicles 29:15 – Old Testament understanding of journeying Distraction culture, good tools, and dialing into the journey   Journey through many different landsc...

Sharing humanity with one another "Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep" (Romans 12:15) Empathy takes time Empathy takes energy Sympathy stays on the surface The place of worth in giving empathy The place of capability in giving empathy Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by God and afflicted. (Isaiah 53:4) Isaiah 53...

Episode 12 – Grief: God of All Comfort              Intro – grief patch story from: https://heidigoehmann.com/blog/loss-and-grief-grief-without-shame     2 Corinthians 1:3-5 (ESV)   Psalm 10:14 (NIV)   God is thoughtful about our grief and holds our grief with us. So we are: thoughtful about grief for one another, and we help one another hold the grief and the weight of that grief   Psalm 34:17-18...

What is loss? Gravis (Latin) to weigh down Gravare (Latin) to make heavy Grever (Old French) to burden or afflict It's ok to ask lots of questions. It's ok to struggle. Open the Word, gather with supportive people. What kinds of loss come to mind for you when we talk about the idea of loss and grief? There is no rushing loss and grief. There is no hierarchy of loss or grief. We witness to one anot...

2-part series – complicated things we experience in our mental health internally complicated things we experience in our mental health externally Blog series at heidigoehmann.com – The Many Sides of Mental Health https://heidigoehmann.com/blog/not-so-simple-the-many-sides-of-mental-health Dualities in mental health we are covering in this series: Agency (choice) and happenstance Relationships and...

2-part series – complicated things we experience in our mental health internally complicated things we experience in our mental health externally Blog series at heidigoehmann.com – The Many Sides of Mental Health https://heidigoehmann.com/blog/not-so-simple-the-many-sides-of-mental-health Paradox and duality and the complications of life Mental Health brushes up against: morality lifestyle choices...

Episode 8 – Dive Deeper: Good Gifts   Happy Release Day! Happy Book Birthday! The many things in life we would easily call good Good = complicated   What does God say is good v. what I say is good - heidigoehmann.com/blog/what-does-god-call-good   A Reading from Good Gifts Addressing the concept of congruence   Study overview – 6 weeks or segments, 4 days or readings in each, average of 3 pages ea...

Episode 7 - Courage (and JOMO) Vulnerability Recap: It chooses to see the bigger picture. It's connecting. It's a spiritual practice. Episodes in this series: Vulnerability (and Boudaries) Lack (and Enough) What is courage? internal processes external relational experience Courage is relational and sacrificial. Simon Sinek: https://youtu.be/fQjnW3_78a8 Courage is vulnerable. Brene Brown: https://y...

Episode 6 – Lack (and Enough) New series: Episode 5: Vulnerability (and Boundaries) Episode 6: Lack (and Enough) Episode 7: Courage (and JOMO) What is lack? Lack can be real, but hyperawareness creates scarcity Where do we see it in individuals, families, and the church? (and what's the result) 1 fear and shame 2 hyperawareness and fixation v awareness of what we need 3 tucking in rather than conn...

Episode 5 – Vulnerability (and Boundaries) New series: Episode 5: Vulnerability (and Boundaries) Episode 6: Lack (and Enough) Episode 7: Courage (and JOMO) Vulnerability Definitions - the good, bad, and ugly New definition: Brene Brown, Daring Greatly https://amzn.to/2pYlyE2 (affiliate link) Vulnerability mantra or repeated phrase: "Because I love God, I love people. I will be vulnerable." Vulnera...

Episode 4 – Mystery of Prayer   Special Guest: Michelle Diercks, Peace in His Presence Podcast  https://michellediercks.com/podcast/   Mighty and Mysterious Release episode with Heidi: http://traffic.libsyn.com/michellediercks/heidi.mp3   Colossians 3:15-17 A Reading from The Mighty and The Mysterious, pg. 179   Where do dwelling and prayer connect? Making time for God Reading the Word Listening t...

  Episode 3 – Mystery of Church   A reading from the Mighty & The Mysterious, pg. 214 – a little glimpse into the Church on Earth   The Church = people, community, life together Perfect & Far from Perfect Broken & Redeemed   Order and organization + Family Life How is the church mysterious like family? How would the church look different if we treated it like a family?   Family life -> church life...

Episode 2 – Mystery of Relationship Intro: God as the Great Connector mystery to God's connecting work the gift of God's connecting work   Know and Being Known Genesis 1 Genesis 2:18-25 – the creation of marriage, not just marriage Knowing with God the connection of grace to knowing – forgiveness, questions, confessing our stuff, telling him our difficult emotions and pain What could we ask God if...

Welcome to Season 3!  Episode 1 – The Mighty Mystery of God   4 Episode series: The Mighty Mystery of God The Mighty Mystery of Relationships The Mighty Mystery of Prayer The Mighty Mystery of the Church   Episode Design- this mystery's impact on our relationship with God, our relationship with others, and our relationships within the church   Mystery of God 101 It's time to become OK with questio...

Name change time! I Love My Shepherd -----> Life in Relationship What's coming at you this season? Where do I get the resources? First episode drops September 10th. In the meantime, visit me at heidigoehmann.com   YouTube @heidigoehmannwrites Facebook @heidigoehmannwrites Instagram @heidigoehmann Snapchat @heidiadventures  

ILMS25 – WII: Prodigal Mercy Release Date: May 14 Special Guest: Paula Isakson, Faith Family Reunions   Paula's Story   The "I Don't Know" Moment The connection between childhood experience and faith development             We all have shame and grace moments             Lies we believe and the whiny voice             God writes our testimonies Restoration is better than what we started with      ...