Life from the Top of the Mind

“Until we are trusted, our ability to influence others will be limited or nonexistent.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"Until we know the true cause of our stress, frustration, and anxiety… we won't be able to do anything about it." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"In order to influence others to do and be their best, we must make a distinction between whether we are going for trust and cooperation…or obedience. Trust and cooperation create solution-focused conversations and build successful relationships…obedience is what you teach your dog." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"When the alarm bell of the emotional brain keeps signaling that you are in danger, no amount of insight will silence it." ~ From The Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kolk (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"Feeling out of control and being shamed for those feelings is probably one of the most distressing feelings there is… especially if you are a kid.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“When worry and/or trauma hijack our imagination, they turn one of the most powerful tools we have for happiness and success against us.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“While we are not responsible for other people’s reactions, we do play a role in how their brain interprets what we do and say, and this will impact our influence.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

""You can't make a good deal with a bad person." ~ Warren Buffett" (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"The first thing we need to influence if we want to influence others is our state of mind." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“While understanding is necessary, it doesn’t necessarily mean agreement.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“In order to feel insulted by others, we must first value their opinion over our own… why would we do that?” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"Change isn't the problem. People can deal with change, they just can't deal with being changed." ~ Adapted from Peter Senge (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

As Robert Burns said, "The best laid plans of mice and men oft go astray." So, let's make our plans, for sure, but always remember that our happiness and success is not about what happens in the future, but who we are now, and the qualities and characteristics we bring to dealing with the unknown. ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"Until we can ask the right questions, we will rarely, if ever, find the right answers." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“Until we shift our focus from trying to change the world around us so that it no longer "exhausts us," to triggering the chemicals in our brain and body that support our energy and effectiveness, we will forever be at the mercy of people and things that are out of our control.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“Stress, anxiety, anger, and frustration are signals that something needs to change… Suffering is when we don’t make the change.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“Until we make “who we are” more important than just what we do, we will always be at risk for being never enough.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"In order to be effective with others, we must know the difference between defending one's self and being defensive, and when (if ever) to use each." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"True empathy isn't simply understanding another's experience, it's connecting to the emotions that underpin that experience." ~ Adapted from Brene' Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“Never make the most important thing in your life something that is beyond your control.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"Anxiety is a signal that something needs to change…. Suffering is when we don't make the change." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"Patience isn't simply the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting." ~ Joyce Meyer (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“To achieve anything, we must have a clear purpose, a pathway, and the persistence necessary to see it through.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“Wherever perfectionism is driving us, fear of not measuring up and shame are always riding shotgun.” ~ Adapted from Brene’ Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"We will never get others to trust our best by pointing out their worst." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)