Life, Dilemmas & Dad Stuff

Ever feel like your mind just won't shut the fuck up? One minute you're in flow, getting shit done and feeling unstoppable. The next, you're stuck in your own head, overwhelmed and wondering why everything suddenly feels so hard. In this episode of Life, Dilemmas & Dad Stuff , I dive into something I've been noticing in myself lately, and in the corporate environments where...

I’ve declared September and October my money months. Underneath the goal to earn more, there’s something much more personal going on. My income has started fucking with the way I see myself. In this episode, I talk honestly about moving from financial independence to becoming a stay-at-home dad while Nic’s career continued to grow. I love being deeply involved in Winter’s life, but fatherhood has...

The nanny’s back, which means the podcast is back. After two weeks of full-time dad mode, I started thinking about how quickly life fills every available space and how easy it is to blame your circumstances when you’re not moving towards what you say you want. This episode is about the difference between wanting something and genuinely choosing it. We get into Current Reality, Vision, the uncomfor...

Becoming a dad has been one of the greatest experiences of my life. It’s also challenged my identity, career, freedom, friendships, relationship and sense of purpose. In Episode 12 of Life, Dilemmas & Dad Stuff, I talk honestly about loving fatherhood while still missing parts of my old life. I share what it was like becoming a stay-at-home dad, losing touch with my own purpose and eventually...

We've all done it. We wait until all the conditions are perfect before making a decision. We tell ourselves we'll know when the timing is right, when we have more money, more confidence or more certainty. The problem is, that moment rarely comes. In this episode, I explore why waiting for certainty can keep us stuck for years, why truth often feels uncomfortable, and why the biggest mome...

One of the biggest myths we buy into is that we need to have it all figured out before we take the next step. I don't think that's how life works. In this episode, I dive into what I mean by "making shit up." It's not about pretending or guessing. It's about having the courage to follow what feels true, even when you can't see the whole path ahead. We explore the...

Most of us spend our lives trying to fix ourselves. We think we're broken. That we need more confidence, more motivation, or another strategy to finally feel at peace. What if you've simply become tangled up in stories, beliefs and expectations that were never really yours? In this episode, I introduce The Untangling Method —the philosophy that's become the foundation of my coaching...

Do you ever wake up feeling anxious for absolutely no reason? I had one of those mornings this week. Instead of trying to push the feeling away, I started asking myself a different question... What if anxiety isn't the enemy? What if it's actually trying to tell us something? In this episode I talk about: • Why I've stopped trying to fight anxiety and started listening to it. • The...

This week I share a lesson that smacked me right in the face during my yoga practice. For nearly 20 years I've avoided one pose. Every time it came up I'd find a way around it because it felt awkward, uncomfortable and honestly... pretty shit about how much I couldn't do it. Six months ago I made a deal with myself. Just do one. One wheel pose every class. Nothing heroic. Just one....

This week I'm joined by my best mate Steve. We've known each other for 42 years. We sat down in Bali with no real plan, hit record, and ended up talking about life, friendship, getting older and some of the things we were completely wrong about. We chat about: • Why money doesn't solve as many problems as we thought it would • Relationships and the myth of "finding the right pe...

Most dudes are carrying way more than they let on. Is it because they're trying to be tough or macho? I don't think that's the case. I believe it's because they often don't know how to say what they're actually feeling. Or who to say it to. In this episode I dive into some of the things I hear from men all the time, both in my own life and in conversations with client...

In this episode, Tommy dives into one of the biggest things that holds people back from going after what they really want: The fear of what other people think. Whether it's starting a business, posting on social media, launching a podcast, changing careers, parenting differently, or simply putting yourself out there, judgement is unavoidable. Tommy shares his own experience of getting back in...

In this episode, Tommy dives into the subtle ways we manipulate the world around us in order to feel safer, more accepted, more comfortable, or more in control. From people pleasing and collusion, to trying to manage perception and avoid conflict, this episode explores the fine line between acting from truth… and acting from ego. Tommy opens up vulnerably about his own relationship, the need for a...

Emotional regulation might be one of the most important life skills we never get taught. In this episode, I talk about: how quickly the stories in our head can spiral us emotionally why thoughts create emotional states that shape our experience of life catching yourself before you disappear down the rabbit hole learning how to observe emotions instead of becoming consumed by them the connection be...

Pressure changes people. Financial pressure. Relationship pressure. Parenthood. Trying to hold everything together while quietly feeling disconnected from yourself. In this episode, I talk about: what happens when pressure keeps building under the surface the danger of ignoring the little signs your life keeps showing you victim mentality vs stepping into your power uncertainty and why growth rare...

Hey guys,  Have definitely been quiet for a while. Not because I didn’t have anything to say, but because I felt like I didn’t have my shit together. In this first episode back, I talk about:  what the last couple of years have really been like   becoming a dad and how much it actually changes you   losing direction, identity, and a sense of purpose   the pressure that comes with trying to hold it...

Had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Dr Sarah Jane Perri—founder of "Spinal Energetics". She's just an all-round legend. We talked about the real side of building something massive, and what it’s like being a woman leading a powerful movement in a world that still doesn’t always get it. All the highs, the heavy bits, the weird moments, and the stuff that usually stays behi...

In this raw-as-hell episode, I sit down with one of my soul sisters, Kat John, for a no-bullshit convo about life, friendship, relationships, parenting, and the shitstorms we’ve both waded through. We talk honestly—like, laugh-til-you-cry and then actually cry kind of honest—about our personal struggles, how they shape us, and how they sometimes fuck with our heads. It's earthy, it's mes...

In this episode, Tommy shares his personal journey of becoming a parent, reflecting on the challenges and growth that come with it. He discusses the emotional transitions he has experienced, the impact of parenthood on his creativity, and the dynamics of his relationship with his partner. Tommy emphasizes the importance of self-discovery and choosing happiness amidst the challenges of parenting. H...

Hey gang, In this episode, I reflect on my experience as a new father and the changes it has brought to my life. I discuss the uncertainty I feel about the direction of  where I'm heading in terms of career but also a deep yearning, and desire to find a path that aligns with my truth. I emphasise the importance of listening to intuition and allowing opportunities to come naturally instead of...

My partner in crime Nicola Lally comes on the poddy for round 2. The first time she was on, was not a fun one. It was 4 days after we had a still birth at 38 weeks. This time is a very different story. Her tenacity, and belief in our end result of starting a family together is next level. The amount of challenges and hurdles that we experienced and faced was a tough one. Either way, we now have a...

In this episode, Tommy discusses the path forward and how it reveals itself in the most intimate ways. He shares a personal experience from the ocean and draws parallels to decision-making and intuition. Tommy emphasises the importance of moving towards fear and uncertainty to reveal the path forward. He also highlights the significance of perception in shaping experiences and encourages seeking d...

In this episode, Tommy  discusses the futility of worrying and the importance of taking action. He emphasises the negative impact of worry on the physical body and encourages to focus on the present moment.  He challenges listeners to identify three things they have been worrying about and make them a priority. Tommy also talks about the magic that happens when we step into what we love and take a...

In this poddy,  Tommy breaks down three super simple tricks that can turn you into the calm, cool, and collected person everyone's curious about. Ditch the drama and find your zen? Here's what's coming your way: 1. Check In With Your Feels: Ever feel like your emotions are all over the place?  We'll chat about how to tune in to what you're feeling, without getting lost in...

Masha is one strong, humble, warrior, goddess woman. She is the founder of Within Retreat Yoga Studio in Melbourne, and has first-hand helped change the lives of countless people on and off the Yoga mat.  From being thrown into deep uncertainty from a young age, she shares with us the golden nuggets of wisdom amassed over the years. From growing up in Siberia, to being thrown onto a plane heading...