Life As We See It with A and A

On this episode, we talked about cheating spouses, polygamy, paternity tests and dealing with exes. Enuma and I basically discussed a range of topics related to marriage and relationships. We reacted to men who cheat on their wives and yet demand loyalty from them, such men even insist their side chicks to stay faithful to them which is ridiculous. We talked about polygamy and why African men are...

We discussed the problems with African (Nigerian) marriages in the diaspora after relocation. Marriage is very complex and African marriages are twice as hard because of the patriarchal culture in which African (Nigerian) men were brought up in. Some Nigerian men get into marriage with the primal understanding that their wives are beneath them and are always there to serve them. However, when they...

On this episode, my friend Enuma narrates how she went on a date with a scammer . Enuma shared about her dating/relationship experience as an black immigrant woman in America and shared her date from hell experience (dating experience Storytime). She matched with a guy online (the first African American man she's matched with)and they went on their first date to a breakfast place. She said he...

In this episode, I'm joined by my 2 nieces to have a conversation about why African immigrants find relating with Americans confusing. They share their experiences about living in America as new immigrants from Africa (Nigeria). We compared how communicating and relating with Americans is different from how we interact with eachother (fellow Africans). Cultural differences seem to play a huge role...

I moved to America 15 yrs ago and on this episode, i talked about the reality of living in the USA today in 2011 vs today (2026). A lot has changed in 15 years, from economic situation to the political landscape, life in America especially for immigrants is significantly different. I talked about how America has lost its charm for immigrants due to all the recent immigration laws, many are choosin...

In this episode i talked about Americans moving to Africa realizing they've been lied to about the reality of life in Africa. Americans can sometimes come off as very entitled and high maintenance. They expect to enjoy the same comfort they are used to in America and when they don't get it, they get very disappointed. Some Americans move to Africa hoping to enjoy a slower pace of life however the...

The overwhelming feeling of guilt and the silent pressure to support others. In this episode i share my personal experience of dealing with personal guilt that comes from having a savior complex mentality due to survivor's guilt. I put a lot of pressure on myself to rescue people I have left behind in certain seasons of my life. As someone who has deep levels of empathy, i find myself overly sensi...

I threw away a 7-year career in banking to pursue a PhD in engineering in the USA. In this episode I share my career transition/pivot from banking to engineering. Having worked in the financial sector for several years, i decided to pursue a different career path in my early 30s (mid career) and so i decided to go back to school. I moved across continents from Nigeria to America to pursue my gradu...

I share my personal testimony of salvation. I grew up in a Christian household and was raised in the Anglican (protestant) denomination. However, in the course of my childhood, my parents moved us to several churches/denomination some of which were bible based while others preached heretical doctrines that wasn't founded on Christ or Salvation. In 1997, I had a personal encounter with God wher...

You look in the mirror and think you're ugly because evil people use mirrors as portals. in this concluding episode with Dr Nicole Avery, she talks about signs of witchcraft attacks and how someone can know if they are being be-witched. She also talked about the evil agenda of the enemy/witches, how they use artifacts like mirror or cameras to set up portals in people's homes or lives. She also ta...

In this episode Dr Nicole Avery shares how unseen forces affect mother-daughter relationships and overall family dynamics. Nicole believes that the way a mother parents has a lot to do with her family of origin, her position in the family and the spiritual forces influencing her thought life. She shares her personal story of surviving trauma, battling spiritual attacks, and finding her purpose in...

Tammy shares her divorce from her husband of 25 years and how she's starting over in her 50s. Her husband was leading a secret life, grooming her daughters, addicted to prn and consuming and distributing CP. Even though she stood by him after he got convicted, however after seeing how that put a strain on her relationship with her daughter and grand son, she made the decision to file for divor...

Tammy shares how she found out her husband of 25 years was living a double life. He pretended to be the perfect Christian husband but behind closed doors, he was addicted to prn which ultimately led to his arrest for charges of consuming child prngry. Tammy shared how she met him after she had just separated and gotten a divorce from her 1st husband. She had 2 kids from the previous marriage and t...

I interviewed my sister who shared the brutal reality of her first nurse practitioner job (what no one tells you) & why she quit her first nurse practitioner jo after 6 months . She talked about her nursing school journey, how she started out as an LPN and quickly progressed to get her RN, BSN, Masters in Nursing leadership and finally a post graduate Masters degree in nurse practitioner. She...

15 years later.... Living in America has changed me as an immigrant. In this episode i reflect on my immigrant journey in America. I have lived in the US for close to 15 years and looking back at how far i've come and all my experiences, I'd say it's been such a delightsome time. Being an African (Nigerian), i was hit with a lot of culture shock moments and experiences that questioned...

In this episode, i shared mistakes i made buying my first home in the US. Home buying can be quite a complex process and having all the information you need to make a good decision is very helpful. I share my personal experience and regrets about buying my first home in the US, from unexpected home costs like Insurance, HOA, PMI, etc , I dive into the lessons I've learned and what I would do d...

In this episode, i reflected on some horrible dating mistakes i made in my 20s that made me miss out on love and kept me single in my 40s. I shared some mistakes, regrets and wrong mindsets i had going into relationships when i was in my 20s. I talked about 2 relationships I had in in my 20s and why i ended them. I was constantly looking for the ideal man, a man that checked off all my lists, I wa...

Now in our 40s, Things we wish we knew sooner (Life advice for 20y/os). In this concluding episode, we shared life advice/tips for younger people, life lessons and things we wish we knew sooner. Ellie wishes she learned to use her voice more in her 20s and setting stronger boundaries. As a young person, it can be intimidating to use your voice but the sooner you start using it, the better for you....

I didn't think i'd be single with no kids in my 40s. In this episode i am joined by 2 of my best friends, Ellie and Amanda and we shared about our life's experiences, growing older, regrets/mistakes we made in our 20s. Zuki shared about her relationship/dating mistakes which is a deep source of regret- being single, never been married and without kids in her 40s, Amanda shared about di...

We discuss the dynamics of female friendship in this episode. I am joined back again by my friend Enuma to share the importance and dynamics of female friendships. She shared her experience with her friend groups, what she looks out for in a friend, how she has become a better friend as she's grown older/matured especially around setting and respecting her friend's boundaries. We talked ab...

Tia is back to share what causes conflict in her American Nigerian intercultural marriage. The main issue she shares is gender roles in marriage and how the cultural difference between her as an American and her Nigerian husband shows up in their marriage. While she takes care of the home, the baby and works, she expects her husband to step up as well and help. She acknowledges that even though he...

Tia shares how she met her husband on a dating app and they got married 9 months later. This is a beautiful intercultural love story between Tia, an African American and her husband, a Nigerian. Tia details how they met on an online dating app (Hinge). She was initially hesitant to swipe left on him because his profile picture wasn't picture perfect however, upon meeting him she was pleasantly...

I am joined by my friend Enuma who shared How she navigated life as an international student in USA: Identity, making friends, finances, academics, etc. We discussed everything from financial struggles to culture shocks, academic achievements, finding identity, communicating with Americans, making friends, etc. She talked about why she chose the USA for grad school. As a Nigerian coming to America...

Is living in America (USA) still worth it for immigrants in 2026? I talked about the pros and cons of living in America as an immigrant. With the recent travel restrictions and visa bans in 2026, it's become more difficult and unsettling for a lot of intending immigrants into America. Despite all of that, America is still one of the best countries for immigrants to live in and thrive. It provi...

In this episode, i shared some of my life regrets now that I'm in my 40s. My hope is that young people in their 20s & 30s learn from my mistakes so that they don't repeat it. Life goes by so fast and if we're not careful, we waste precious moments and opportunities. Some mistakes I talked about include: constant procrastination, living for people's validation, not loving myself...