Life and Love in Paris

In this episode, I’m breaking down the ten pieces of dating advice I’ve been giving to everyone this year including my dear friends, my listeners, and honestly, to myself. From knowing what you want to not overanalyzing one date, to remembering that “he’s not the last man on earth.” It’s everything I wish I knew when I first started dating.-Next my favorite dating coaches and podcast:Evan Marc Kat...

In this episode, I am sharing dating advice from the great Natalie Lue. Why do we keep sleeping with people who don’t want what we want? One of the hardest truths in modern dating: sex doesn’t equal love. I will unpack why emotionally unavailable partners keep coming back, and why we sometimes let them. Also, I will share a personal story about ego, self-worth, and the difference between being cho...

For today ’s episode, I share the lessons from Mark Manson’s “40 Life Lessons I Know at 40” that truly resonate with me right now and that I think might be helpful to my listeners. Whether you’re 20, 30, or 40, this one will remind you that it’s never too late to start anything that you want to start. 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠  💌...

Bonus episode since we are in our feels! This short episode is called 2025 Plot Twist: It’s All Character Development. If 2025 has been dragging you through the mud too, know this: you’re not alone. In this conversation, I share my own setbacks from losing jobs to rejection to health scares ;  it’s felt like one hit after another. This is a reminder that even when life feels unfair, sometimes just...

For today's episode, From Confusion to Clarity: Decoding Modern Dating Part 2 . I’ll continue to answer the questions: 6. What does it mean when a guy says he misses me, but doesn't make plans to see me? 7. Why did he pull away after things were going so well? 8. Why does he keep coming back but still won't commit? 9. Why does he say we're exclusive but refuses to call me his girlfriend? 📝 For mo...

In this episode, From Confusion to Clarity . I’ll unpack the most common questions women and even men ask themselves, like why he’s texting but not asking you out, or why he pulls away just when things were going great. Through my own experiences and insights from some of the sharpest voices in the dating space, we’ll decode the mixed signals and uncover the one truth that makes everything crystal...

In this episode titled “Love Is Not Enough” , I dive into one of Mark Manson’s most powerful essays about the limits of love. I will unpack the three harsh truths about love: why love doesn’t equal compatibility, why it doesn’t solve your relationship problems, and why it’s not worth sacrificing yourself.  Blogpost: https://markmanson.net/love 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on M...

For today’s episode, Your Actual Person, I’m diving into what it truly means to wait for  and recognize  the right partner. I’ll share the lessons I’ve learned from heartbreaks, almost-relationships, and chasing the wrong men, and how all of that shaped my clarity on what I actually deserve. This episode is about building the blueprint for your ideal match, setting unshakable standards, and living...

In this episode, I will describe what it really means to decenter men in 2025, and how you can still date them at the same time. We are not at war with men; we are just choosing better. Cosmo article: https://shorturl.at/jm1S8 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠  💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: pattu....

This episode is about that powerful shift, the moment you finally stop loving someone who kept pulling you back in. I’m sharing a piece by Chris Marchie that captures the freedom, clarity, and peace that comes when love no longer feels like crumbs. Chris Marchie: https://medium.com/@ChrisMarchie 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠  💌 Got a...

This episode is a heartfelt celebration of the love story that often gets overlooked: female friendships. I share stories of the women who’ve carried me through heartbreak, existential crises, and everything in between, and also why girlfriends are true soulmates. From Marseille memories to birthday surprises, this is a reminder that the most powerful love in our lives isn’t always romantic. 📝 Fo...

For today’s episode, “30 Signs That Someone Isn’t Interested: Avoid Being Used or Confused,” I briefly address the viral sister Hong fiasco. I’m breaking down Natalie Lue’s brilliant list of red flags that show when someone is lukewarm, unavailable, or stringing you along. If you’ve ever found yourself making excuses, waiting for mixed signals to turn into clarity, or holding on to crumbs of atten...

For today’s episode, “Fuck Yes or No: The Dating Filter That Changes Everything,” I’m sharing a powerful concept made famous by Mark Manson, a simple yet game-changing rule: if both people aren’t a “Fuck Yes” about being with each other, it’s a no. I’ll walk you through how this mindset can save you from endless grey-area situationships, stop you from settling, and help you focus on building conne...

If you feel dating apps are a chaotic mix of hookup culture, mixed signals, and emotional whiplash, you’re not alone. Social media is  overflowing  with women and even men venting about how hard it is to find someone  intentional  about dating. Not just someone who can hold a conversation or make plans, but someone who’s  actually  looking for a genuine romantic connection, this one’s for you. 📝...

Missing your ex doesn’t mean you made a mistake, it means you’re human. In this episode, we talk about why it’s normal to miss someone who wasn’t good for you, how to sit with that feeling without acting on it, and how to move forward without shaming yourself for still caring. 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to...

For today’s episode, titled “Signs someone is emotionally underdeveloped and why constant texting isn't as meaningful as you might think.” I share how I was able to learn that the guy I was in a situationship with was emotionally underdeveloped, and why you have to look at the whole picture when getting to know someone new, rather than focusing solely on the messaging aspect. 📝 For more bite-...

In this episode titled "Why Men Decide To Ghost You When Things Are Going Well", I break down the psychology behind this frustrating pattern, with insights from dating coach Elliot Scott. If you’ve ever been blindsided after things seemed to be going great, this one’s for you. Elliot Scott: https://medium.com/@Elliotscotttext 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ...

In this episode of Dating in Paris, Patty sits down with one of her besties, Viktoria, to discuss dating apps, how to be properly approached in person, and to compare dating in Paris and in Vienna in 2025. 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to email me at: pattu.v01@gm...

How to Leave a Situationship. Four years later, I can promise you - the only way out is through. In this episode, "I spill the tea" about reconnecting with my situationship from 2020 only to learn he is still the same emotionally unavailable guy, and much more... 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to shar...

Today’s episode is about the fear of quitting online dating — and whether being single forever is really the question we should be asking. We unpack the myths behind dating apps, why they profit from our pain, and how chasing love through them can leave us feeling exhausted and stuck. Shani Silver: https://medium.com/@shanisilver 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https:...

Does sleeping with someone too soon hurt your chances of a real relationship? In this episode, we dive into why making a man wait for sex helps filter out those who aren’t serious. Featuring insights from dating coach Evan Marc Katz and real-life experiences, we explore how setting boundaries can protect your heart and energy from early on. Evan Marc Katz: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/ 📝 For more...

Ever dealt with someone who keeps you hooked just enough but never chooses you? In this episode, we break down breadcrumbing—what it is, why people do it, and how to spot the signs early. If you've ever been left on read for days only to get a random “miss you” text, this one’s for you. Fernanda Calvo: https://shorturl.at/Zh0WL 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠http...

Why do men always seem to reappear after pulling back? In this episode, we break down the psychology behind why men return—whether it’s for validation, the ‘grass wasn’t greener’ realization, or just plain loneliness. If you’ve ever received a ‘hey stranger’ text out of nowhere, this one’s for you. 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01 💌 Got a...

Today’s topic is all about letting go without rewriting the past — how to stop questioning whether they ever cared, avoid overthinking, and find peace after a breakup. We’ll dive into the ways we distort reality when we’re hurting and how to move forward with clarity instead of doubt. Natalie Lue Blog: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: h...

In this episode of Dating in Paris , I break down one of the most common (and frustrating) excuses in dating: “I’m too busy.” Is he truly overwhelmed with work, or is he just not that into you? I share personal experiences, insights from dating experts, and practical tips on how to respond without chasing or overanalyzing. If you’re tired of wondering where you stand, this episode is for you!  📝...