Life after sexual abuse - The Podcast

This audio was shared first on Substack - r ead the full post here. Stacie shares a theme coming up for 1:1 clients at the moment - the overwhelm of healing. How we expect a final destination to reach and the frustration level when it feels like we're healing painfully slowly. This episode includes some reflection prompts that may help you to consider how far you've come. Stacie has space...

This audio is from a recent Substack post - read here. This is an example of a paid post but I made it publicly available as a taster for what you receive for just £5/month. That's healing support for less than the cost of a coffee. This episode walks you through how fear of change can hold us back from moving forward. How meeting the resistance and fear with curiosity instead of dismissal is...

Read the full post on Substack here. "Many of us have learned to survive by disconnecting from our emotions, shutting down sensations in our bodies, and keeping our pain locked away in the unconscious corners of our minds. At some point, this numbing may have been necessary. Numbness may keep us safe from pain, but it also keeps us from feeling fully alive. It separates us from the love, joy,...

In this short story, you will hear why connecting with our inner child is healing - especially if you felt you didn't have your needs met as a child. During the healing process, it is transformative to learn that we can reparent ourselves and witness what the inner child needed. In the Survivor Sanctuary Membership this month, we are exploring Inner Child Connection for our Healing Theme . There i...

Healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a spiral. Sometimes, it’s messy, cyclical, and feels like falling apart before we can piece back together. The truth is, healing doesn’t look like what the world tells us. It’s not about moving on and forgetting. It’s about becoming —becoming someone new, someone whole again, through the raw process of transformation. If you’ve ever felt like your healing doesn’...

"Today, I want to share with you the moment that changed everything for me. I find that people easily forget the place I once was, that dark place of not knowing what to do with the mess that lived deeply buried within me. In all honesty, it still amazes me today that here I am sharing with the world. That vow that I made to my 12 year old self to never share to another soul, felt so eternal and b...

A short story about the burden we may carry of shame, blame and guilt after experiencing trauma. "The Lies We Internalise Self-blame whispers,  It was my fault. Shame hisses,  I am broken. Guilt lingers,  I should have done something differently. These voices are not ours. They are echoes of a world that fails to hold survivors with the compassion that is deserved. They are the messages we ab...

A short story about Stacie's journey to suppression of trauma, to not believing healing was possible to now. "There was a time in my life when I felt completely lost. Trapped on a relentless hamster wheel of self-loathing, shame, and blame, I questioned whether freedom from my past was even possible. I spent years disconnected from myself, carrying the weight of my trauma, and believing t...

Welcome to a new series where Stacie will be sharing short 'stories'. She is taking a short break from guest recording and wants to share something different for a little while. They will be short episodes but she hopes to share the power of storytelling. In this introduction, Stacie explains the power and benefit of storytelling both as a therapeutic practice and as creative self-expression. As s...

Stacie shares another guest episode today thanks to Jen for sharing your truth, your honesty and vulnerability. We cover a lot in this episode including grooming, "affairs", the grey age of 16 and consent, relationship dynamics/complexities and more. As always, take care when listening. Your wellbeing comes first. Stacie is creating a safe space to share, connect and grow a sense of community on S...

After taking an unintentional break (again), Stacie is back sharing another survivor story with John today. Thank you John for reaching out and wanting to share your truth. John was inspired by listening to others share theirs - thank you for your contribution to the podcast. Stacie loves John's answer to the last question - really powerful words. As always, take care when listening. Your wellbein...

This is a short bonus episode to help you find your inner calm this December; a month that can be overwhelming and triggering for some. Remember to reach out if you’re struggling. You don’t have to suffer and struggle alone. This is one of the audios Stacie has created as part of this month’s Healing Theme for the Survivor Sanctuary Membership . If you want to know more about it and how you can jo...

Extra warning that this episode contains details of abuse and suicide. Stacie shares another Survivor Story today and is grateful for another male to share his perspective - thank you Jamie. Jamie shares so honestly and vulnerably his experience of grooming, abuse, speaking out and the court process. As always, take care of yourself when listening - look after yourself first and foremost and what...

Welcome to another Survivor Story episode. Stacie is grateful for Mhiari (pronounced Vari) for sharing her experience of childhood sexual trauma. We cover so much in this conversation including speaking up - the complexity of not speaking up at the time of abuse, uncovering memories, guilt, managing other peoples emotions and reactions and the complexity of abuse within families. Thank you so much...

On today’s episode, Stacie has the honour of chatting with coach and spiritual teacher Rich Maule who shares his experience of uncovering childhood sexual abuse and how he navigated processing those memories and trauma. Stacie and Rich talk about the mind body connection and how connecting with yourself and your own intuition is powerful with healing from trauma. This is a powerful conversation of...

A bonus episode to say thank you for all those who listen and support this podcast. Stacie wouldn’t be doing it if it wasn’t for your amazing feedback and support. 
 To celebrate this milestone, Stacie is giving away a few gifts: 1:1 sessions and spaces to Online Survivor Circle Calls. To enter, send a screenshot of your review for the podcast or the book (bonus entry if you do both) to Stacie.m.g...

On today’s episode, Stacie has the privilege of chatting with Lucy Hebberts. Lucy is Head of GINA, a Birmingham-based non-profit supporting individuals subjected to sexual violence & abuse, & she works for GINA’s sister charity, RSVP (The Rape & Sexual Violence Project) - Birmingham’s rape crisis charity. Lucy has also published research surrounding female sexualisation & objectifi...

On today’s episode, Stacie has the honour of welcoming our first male guest onto the podcast James Scade. James shares his experience of severe depression and suicide which led him to Andy’s Man Club and is now a facilitator for the men’s suicide prevention charity. Andy’s Man Club website link: https://andysmanclub.co.uk. Trigger warning for suicide - no specific details are shared but as always,...

On today’s episode, Stacie talks about what she calls ‘the toxic trio’ of blame, shame and guilt. Sexual trauma is a profoundly distressing experience that leaves deep emotional scars. Survivors often grapple with a range of complex feelings, and among the most common are blame, shame, and guilt. To understand these feelings and how to overcome them, we need to delve into the psychology behind the...

Stacie shares another Survivor Story on the podcast today. There may be unintentional triggers so as always, take care of yourself when listening. Hannah McLaughlan is a primary school teacher in Scotland and waived her right to anonymity to become an advocate for other survivors and has within the past year, has spoken in Parliament, attended meetings with the Lord Advocate and been part of the V...

In this first episode in this season, Stacie shares the importance of connection (with yourself and others) in the healing process after sexual trauma. Stacie shares her personal experience and also trauma research to understand why connection is so important. As always, take care of yourself when listening - look after yourself first and foremost and what you need today. The podcast will be here...

After a year of maternity leave, Stacie is back and can't wait to get back to bringing more survivor stories and helpful healing topics with you. This short episode is to give you a life update but to mainly share what to expect for this season. Thank you to all those who have reached out with lovely feedback and support for the podcast. It means the world to Stacie and is what motivates her t...

We made it to the end of season 2...in this episode, Stacie shares her sincere thanks for being part of this community and to each of the guests who have contributed to this season. She also shares some important themes that you might need to hear for yourself. Stacie is taking a break whilst on maternity leave - the best way to keep in touch is via the mailing list which you can join here:  http:...

In this Survivor Story episode, Stacie has the honour of speaking with Kath from Ireland giving a different sexual trauma experience that we haven't heard on the podcast before - stranger violence/assault in adulthood. Many of the experiences shared so far have been in childhood and so Kath and her story gives a voice to those who have experienced sexual assault in adulthood. We honour those victi...

*Take extra care when listening to this episode* In this guest episode, Stacie and Louise take on the very sensitive topic of navigating sex after sexual trauma. They vulnerably share their own personal journey's which coincidentally have similar themes. Sexual intimacy and relationships can be extremely difficult to navigate when often survivor's are still in the trauma response. As aways, there...