Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

This episode was inspired by a conversation I overheard from two women.  They were talking about: “Love Addiction and Sex Addiction.”  Is it really an addiction, or is it your attachment style?  Oftentimes anxious attachment FEELS like an addiction.  Inside this episode I unpack:  Anxious Attachment Strategies for Reassurance Anxious / Avoidant Relationship Traps The challenges faced by anxiously...

Are you tired of constantly being told to 'just be yourself' and 'practice self-care,' yet still feeling unfulfilled and disconnected?  Ditch the ineffective advice and join me in this episode, where you'll learn practical steps to cultivate drama-free relationships, experience emotionally available intimacy, appreciate evolving friendships, and prioritize authenticity and self-care for true well-...

Discover the power of radical self-acceptance and forgiveness as I challenge you to take ownership of your own relationship struggles — so what if you're the red flag?! Are you tired of being told to just forgive and forget in order to have healthy relationships? But despite your efforts, you still feel stuck in toxic patterns and unfulfilling connections? It's time to explore a different approach...

How can we break the cycle of trauma from our upbringings? This one dives deep! In this episode, I delve into the often overlooked topics of father and mother wounds and discuss how they impact our sense of identity, confidence, emotional safety, and self-compassion. But what happens when these wounds are passed down from generation to generation?  This episode will teach you to: Uncover the influ...

You won’t want to miss this episode! Today I am answering audience questions and specifically addressing how you can have a great relationship, after being in a toxic relationship. Inside this powerful episode you will learn: The power of self-trust: how to show up securely attached and regulating emotions. How to identify your securely attached relationship vision to help make decisions in your d...

Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized, Secure, OH MY!?   If you’ve wanted a deep dive on attachment styles, this episode is for you.   We are picking up where we left off last week, and diving into Disorganized and Secure Attachment Styles today! Inside this episode I discuss: Where the term “disorganized” came from Why I dislike the BPD label The thoughts, behaviors, and definitions of both secure and...

Let’s get into it!  Today’s episode is about Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles.  Inside this episode: I review the evolution of Attachment Theory Research I discuss the thoughts, behaviors, beliefs of the Anxiously attached person We review Avoidant Attachment (and discuss the growing edge for avoidantly attached folks)  This episode is JAM PACKED with relationship gold. Don’t miss out!  Also...

Time for a tough love episode!  TRUTH: In my past, I was caught in a vicious loop of self-doubt,and I was unable to break free from the false beliefs I had about my worth.  I know what it is like to not see your own worthiness, and believe the lies that other people are worthy and you are not.  Inside of this episode I discuss how you can:  Uncover and free yourself from restrictive beliefs and na...

Today’s guest is truly AMAZING! It was an honor to have her on the show.    Casey Williams is a graduate of the Empowered. Secure. Loved. Program and I knew that you all needed to hear her story after I met with her in our 1:1 coaching sessions.   She is SO vulnerable on the show, everything from how using alcohol as a numbing tool impacted her,  to learning how to show up securely attached in dat...

HIGH VALUE EPISODE ALERT!!!  After a ton of requests from the audience, I am finally giving you the guide book on dating multiple people at once.  You won’t want to miss this one!  Inside this episode, you will be able to: Master the art of dating multiple people while maintaining a secure attachment style. Understand the crucial role of open communication in non-exclusive relationships. Learn how...

Struggling with unhealthy relationships and deep-rooted shame, Andrea Ashley found solace in sharing her story through her podcast. Little did she know, this courageous act of vulnerability would not only grant her healing and self-discovery, but serve as an inspiration for her listeners, revealing that hope and happiness are possible after all. In this episode, you will be able to:  1. Embrace st...

Inside of this episode, I encourage you to break free from the belief that all anger is bad, and I help you see that you can use it as fuel to make powerful and necessary changes in your life!    In this episode, you will be able to:  1. Uncover the significance of addressing and managing anger for personal improvement. 2. Distinguish between constructive and detrimental anger to foster healthy em...

Have you ever wished you could ask all the questions about healthy sex?    Have you ever felt like you just don’t know how to talk to your partner about sex?  Like when you want to express your sexual needs, no words come out?  If you relate to any of the above, then you NEED THIS EPISODE!  Dr. Nazanin Moali, from the Sexology Podcast, joins me on todays’ episode.  As a return guest, she delivers...

Drumroll please….   Inside of this special interview we speak with program graduate, Yenny Bonilla!  Y’all are gonna love this one!  Yenny gets very vulnerable and shares:   What life was like before “doing the work. Her favorite parts of the program. Her new belief relationship belief system   I am so excited for Yenny as she continues her healing journey. She is such a great example of how much...

Today’s episode is one you won’t want to miss!    I am answering YOUR dating questions, and responding to all things you hate about dating!  Inside of this episode I talk about: The real reason you’re upset he’s not picking up the bill on the first date  How to communicate about your communication  What to do when he asks for “space”  I am giving you the tough love, and real talk that only a psych...

"Discover how rejection can be a powerful force to redirect your life in a positive direction!"   Truth: Fear of Rejection is NORMAL.  Inside of this episode:    I start by normalizing the fear of rejection and explaining why it's important to not let it run the show.  I discuss that in order to release fear of rejection, you will benefit from: belief work, and shifting from a scarcity to an abund...

“The Rent to live in Reality is High”   One of my friends said this to me years ago…and it never stuck until now.  The fact is it is so easy to stay in a distorted, anxious/avoidant attachment version of reality when dating We must intentionally rewire our brains for healthy love.  Inside of this episode:  I teach what Reality Testing is, and WHY you need it  I explain in three simple steps how to...

Dating doesn’t have to be miserable!!!    Inside of this episode, you will discover the coping behaviors that can help you build resilience and regulate your nervous system while dating.  Inside of this episode, I will give you actionable advice on how to regulate your emotions, and practice self-compassion.  Trust me, with the right tools, you can shift your mindset and enjoy dating more. In this...

This is not your average “Dating How To”    This is for women who are seeking the real deal.  When you know you are READY for a serious, life partner, emotionally mature kind of connection.  Inside of this episode, I teach you how to:  Create a dating profile that gets the results you want  Leverage your time and energy (so you’re not wasting time on the wrong people)  Dating routines (and why you...

In this episode, I discuss the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" : Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.    These “4 Horsemen” as originally taught by John and Julie Gottman, are exactly what you DON’T want in your relationship!    Inside of this episode:    You will learn how to combat these unhealthy conflict skills (what you should be doing instead)  What healthy communication l...

Buckle up, this is a value packed episode that will have all kinds of light bulbs going off for you! We discuss relationship development in this episode, from both healthy development, and what it looks like in a relationship with a narcissist. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. What is the experience of being in a relationship with a narcissist like? 2. What is the cycle of a relat...

Today, we have a very special guest, a graduate of the ESL program; Emma Wellings.    Emma Wellings is an international wardrobe stylist, founder of her own clothing line, Style on the Go, and graduate of the Empowered, Secure Love program. She is passionate about fashion, horse riding, working out, travel, and the arts.   In this episode, you will learn the following:  1. How can you rewire your...

Pssssst- I have never opened up about this topic before on the podcast!  I am choosing sobriety in 2023 and inside of this episode I walk you through WHY  In this episode, we will discuss the following:          1. How can alcohol impact our ability to make intentional decisions?  2. What are the potential risks of developing alcohol dependence?  3. How can personal growth and inner healing work h...

Today’s guest episode is a powerful one!  Lauren Zoeller doesn’t hold anything back in this interview.  Sneak peak: "When you start to get into somatic work and really understanding the nervous system and understanding the four survival responses, you can really see where your body is in a moment to moment basis and then say, oh, wait a second, I'm in a lot of activation right now. I can resource...

In this episode of the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast, I will help you discover the courage to set boundaries, confront your inner beliefs, and ultimately break free from the unconscious distancing strategies that impede your journey to securely attached love.   In this episode, you will learn the following:  1. How to identify four signs of an avoidant attachment style  2. How to easily navigate se...