Let’s Get It On

We’ve been sold a lie…that the spark is everything. That butterflies = the one. That if it fades, it must be over. In this episode, I’m flipping that script. I share why the real magic in a relationship often begins after the spark fades, when masks drop, when it gets a little boring, and when you start building something that actually lasts. Inside: 💭 The truth about the spark (and why it fades)...

Let’s talk about the D-word… and why it’s not the dirty secret it’s made out to be 💔 I’ve been divorced twice — and I’m not ashamed. In this episode, I’m getting real about what it actually means to walk away from a relationship that no longer fits, how to honour your evolution, and why longevity ≠ success. This one’s for anyone who’s been made to feel like a failure for choosing themselves. 🔥 W...

This episode is for the freshly queer, those who STILL haven’t found the one, the romantics, and anyone who’s out here dating with intentionality—not just vibes. Inspired by a listener question about dating as a new lesbian later in life, I dive into what it really means to find love on your terms (and not lose yourself in the process). We cover: 
💘 Finding dates (without losing the plot)
🪞 How...

You found out you’re anxiously (or avoidantly) attached—probably from a TikTok. Cool. Now what the hell do you do with that? This no-BS episode is for anyone tired of wearing their attachment style like a label and ready to actually shift it. I’m sharing my story as a recovering avoidant, plus the three simple steps you can start today to move from triggered to secure: 1. Discovery + learning 2. N...

This one’s a little different. A vulnerable behind-the-scenes share on why I walked away from my business, disappeared from Instagram, and took a big step back after a decade in the coaching industry 💖 I’m talking: 🖤 Burnout 🧠 Mental health 👻 Why I ghosted ⏸ What it really felt like to stop doing something I built my identity around 💭 And how I’m slowly finding my way back—on my terms If you’...

I’m back, baby! After a little break, Let’s Get It On returns with a juicy episode busting the top 5 myths about couples coaching. If you've ever thought coaching would magically fix your relationship or bring back instant fireworks in the bedroom—you need to hear this. In this episode, I unpack some of the biggest misconceptions, including: ✨ That it’ll fix your relationship 🔥 That you’ll insta...

TW: Abuse, su!cide. Listen with care.⁠ ⁠ What you'll learn about on this episode:⁠ ⁠ 🎧️ What betrayal trauma is and how it shows up in relationships⁠ 🎧️ How you can be "blind" to things you can actually see⁠ 🎧️ Having unhealthy attachment to people⁠ 🎧️ How trauma bonding plays out in relationships⁠ 🎧️ What toxic co-dependency is⁠ 🎧️ How to start healing any and all the above!⁠ ⁠ PLUS so much...

This episode is brought to you by Healthy, Secure & Hot 🔥 The twelve week program to go from triggered, avoidant and libido-less to secure AF, deeply connected and turned on in your relationship! DM me to enrol - Instagram.com/cindrabanks 🔥 My friend and colleague ALICE joins me for this juicy episode, talking about the main issue we hear from our audiences and clients, the loss of desire (aka t...

EVEN if you don't get behind open relating, open up your ears and listen to this convo because I gurantee you will learn something regardless 👏🏻⁠ ⁠ What you'll learn about on this episode:⁠ ⁠ 🎧️ Toxic/Unhealthy Monogamy⁠ 🎧️ How jealousy in relationships is romanticised and based on insecurity (your own)⁠ 🎧️ Infidelity and what it means⁠ 🎧️ How Ether Perel and the Gottmans are changing the wa...

TW: Domestic V.iolence - Please contact 1800 RESPECT for support⁠ in Australia. ⁠ 💜 That’s So Taboo - DOMESTIC VIOLENCE with Lauren Jane from @find.my.wild 💜⁠ ⁠ Gosh, what a much needed episode this is 🫶🏼⁠ ⁠ Lauren shared so openly about her DV journey, how to identify emotional a.buse, how she managed to not only survive, but eventually thrive from her experience and what she does now to help...

Join us for this juicy convo about BREAKUPS. Yes, we are going there on this episode, chatting about our own break up stories and how we turned them into BREAKTHROUGHS. Bringing this topic into the light and sharing tips on how to navigate breakups in a healthy way. Whether you have just experienced this grief, or if it was a long time ago, we know you are going to get so much out of this episode!...

Hormone Coach Instagram.com/brookeluisesurtees joins me for the most INFORMATION packed and insightful episode all about HORMONES 💘⁠ ⁠ EVERYONE that has a v.ulva NEEDS to listen in to this episode, especially if you do struggle with low s.egsual desire and have a lot of stress 🙋🏼‍♀️⁠ ⁠ In this episode, we cover:⁠ ⁠ - our disordered eating pasts and how both of us have moved into eating and body...

Stephanie J interviewed me for her membership and I HAD to share the juicy convo with you...We talk about talking about sex, talking responsbility for our pleasure, how to start expanding your self pleasure practice and so much more! A longer episode than usual but well worth spending the time with us. This is for single vulva owners as well as coupled babes, there is something for you all on this...

Talking all things s.egs toys 🍆⁠ ⁠ 🍆 How to talk to your partner about bringing them into the bedroom⁠ ⁠ 🍆 Why you need to avoid buying your partner a toy this V Day (and what to do instead)⁠ ⁠ 🍆 How it became so taboo and why men often feel threatened by them⁠ ⁠ 🍆 Why it's so important for many v.ulva owners to use them to aid Os⁠ ⁠ 🍆 Safety and hygeine⁠ ⁠ 🍆 My fave toys and how to use the...

Another episode coming in hot! This episode is a vulnerable and raw share. Trigger warning - There is some mention of body dysmorphia, anxiety, depression, so please be mindful when listening and always seek help and support if you resonate. On this solo poddie, I give you an insight on my mental health journey up until now. The highs, the lows and the work I have done on myself along the way. Whe...

Juicy solo episode today for breaking down those taboos 😂 On this episode, I share my experience from attending a fetish club back in 2022! It was such an eye opening experience, and not for the reason you may think (although that too). I would LOVE to open the convo about BDSM and kink and normalise this, because the more we discuss it, the less shame there is around it (and the better awareness...

Starting 2024 off with a new vibe to the pod! We’re featuring new segments: “That’s So Taboo” - breaking down common (and not so common) taboos around sex, pleasure and relationships 💦 and “Relationship Real Talk” - featuring real life couples and their unique relationships 🔥 As well as some solo stuff which I’m sure I’ll call something else when we get to it! Okay so this guest is dear to my he...

In biz, love and life ❤️ Join me for this juicy wrap up of my 2023 and the main three things I have learnt in my business, my relationships and personally. It’s a lot! And we love it. I would love to hear your top three too, send me a DM @cindrabanks on IG or email me cindra.banks@gmail.com and let me know. Enrolments for 1–1 and couples Intimacy and Relationship Coaching are open now! Contact me...

I finally get my adorable girlfriend, Lou, on the podcast today! This is part two of our chat together. I have been bugging her for awhile to come on and talk about how we got together, navigating two breakups (not ours) and what it’s like to date me, and she finally agreed. We talk about the good, the bad, the downright WILD (nah actually we don’t share any X rated stories, that could be another...

I finally get my adorable girlfriend, Lou, on the podcast today! I have been bugging her for awhile to come on and talk about how we got together, navigating two breakups (not ours) and what it’s like to date me, and she finally agreed. This is part one - the good, the bad, the downright WILD (nah actually we don’t share any X rated stories, that could be another episode). Tune in to hear about da...

This episode is brought to you by Viva La Libido! The juiciest group libido program to help you go from feeling meh about intimacy to turned on daily. DM to enrol before Sun and SAVE, listen to the end of the podcast to enter the comp 💦 Join me on this episode where I BUST through these five common libido myths, helping you create a new, juicy paradigm around your intimacy and pleasure. PLUS turn...

We are shedding light on taboos this episode! Demystifying v.ulva mapping (often called yoni mapping) and sharing my transformation through this powerful practice, how this motivated me to become a practitioner and help people have this expansive experience for themselves. I detail the practice step by step because I am all about pulling the curtain back on this often misunderstood practice! I stu...

Get the Making Challenging Comms Easy audio training to teach you ALL you need to know about having the hard convos and not ending up in World War 3! Find it here - https://buy.stripe.com/00g0372sM2R28TK28G This episode is the perfect place to start if you want to improve the way you show up to conflict with your partner (and elsewhere in your life)! Yes you can have better fights, yes you can hav...

Brought to you by the MASTERCLASS of the same name 👀 unless you amazing listeners give me a better one! Reserve your spot now for just $33 - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM3fjgjCgHSb1S00u This episode was inspired by chats in my group intimacy program The Cum Back and also a poll I did on my Instagram. I was actually shocked at the feedback that a lot of you don’t do oral, your partners don’t do it an...

* This episode is brought to you by The Cum Back which starts 6th September - DM me on Instagram.com/cindrabanks to get in * My first ever guest is the absolute BABE, multi-modality entrepreneur and honest real talker Talise. I met Talise when her and one of her biz partners invited me to speak at their launch of Sultry Muse earlier this year. I wanted to get Talise on because she has a new offeri...