Let's Dig into That

Prepare your safe word because we're pokin' some triggers. Jordan and J.T. are digging into attachment theory , and things could get prickly. Attachment theory explores how early interactions with caregivers influence our ability to form secure attachments and how those patterns can manifest in our adult relationships. Attachment Styles & Their Impact on Relationships: Secure adults tend to ha...

In a culture of constant stimulation, stillness is a skill, an act of resistance. When was the last time you truly experienced bone-deep, cellular silence? What does the noise help us hide? Join Jordan and J.T. as they explore the idea that peace is not found in the absence of chaos, but in our refusal to be controlled by it. Listen to discover: - Reliance on external validation can keep you small...

Jordan and J.T. deconstruct the traditional life timeline and explore why we should reclaim our nonlinear stories. Listen to discover: - The subtle tyranny of "by this age, I should have..." - Who decides if we're "on track?" Is "being on track" setting us back? - Goals vs. Milestones: who keeps score? - Reframing 40 not as a crisis, but a quiet rebellion. - Relationship milestones that aren’t "We...

This episode is brought to you by: FEELINGS (the weirder the better) Grief doesn’t wear black every day. It can show up in your dreams. Or as a specific smell. Or your playlist shuffles to that one song... We're genuinely curious: Is it ok to laugh at a funeral... ? Instead of trying to make grief appear anything other than messy, Jordan and J.T. dig into the all-too-turbulent discomfort of loss....

Mirror, mirror, WHAT THE DEUCE? Vanity can be touchy: secret angles, shame zones, squishy bits. Jordan and J.T. explore how our self-worth can become entwined with our appearance. Can you carry both your "divine light" and your body dysmorphia? Listen to discover: - Pride in appearance vs reliance on external validation - Insecurities we work hardest to hide - Where and when did you first learn th...

Ready to get weird and wise? Jordan and J.T. play the first round of Uncomfortable On Purpose. Think Truth or Truth : the questions you’d rather not ask your partner but really should. This round cuts deep. A provocative and revealing Q&A-style game that digs beneath the surface. Topics we usually tiptoe around—shame, addiction, fear, failure—but with the goal of healing, not harm. A darkly pl...

Ever paid for that $40 DoorDash burrito in a sweaty delivery exchange and thought: Who am I, and what is this life? Modern convenience just might be killing our joy. If comfort were a drug, we'd all be addicted. If you're curious about what convenience might be doing to your curiosity, not to mention your capacity for emotional resilience and connection, join Jordan and J.T. to discover: - How dop...

One would hope we evolve, learn, and change over time, but can we outgrow our personality? What if you're only pretending to like spicy margaritas and karaoke? Has the Party Guy era come to a close? If you're staring at an unrecognizable vision board from 2018 or seeking permission to change your mind, join Jordan and J.T. for a raw discussion of personality. From identity and reinvention to traum...

Whether it's your mental heath, or simple wellness practices, living an intentional and purposeful life starts within - and no one knows that better than Alyssa Scarano, Licensed Professional Counselor and Founder/Owner of The Collective Therapy & Wellness. Looking to swap external approval for internal validation, join and Jordan and J.T. as they learn Alyssa's techniques to cultivate real, m...

Join Jordan and J.T. as they unzip their emotional fanny packs and lay bare their most anxious parts. J.T. shares details from his recent low-key little breakdown and his proactive approach to working with his overprotective anxiety. Fun fact: Anxiety isn't brokenness; it's biology. From fight, flight, or freeze to shame in the sheets, it seems no one is immune. Listen to discover: - Low-impact, h...

It's time to talk money. Who's sweaty? Jordan and J.T. welcome Ed Vargo, the Co-Founder and CEO of Burning River Advisory Group and EnlightenHer, to discuss and demystify our finances. Ed believes a financial education shouldn’t make you feel small; it should make you feel powerful. Ed’s passion for helping women with their finances stems from his childhood. His mother, an immigrant from South Kor...

The Season 3 Questions are in - THANK YOU for your boundless curiosity! Jordan and J.T. are ready for the gauntlet of vulnerability, prepped to flex a little bravery and self-compassion. Join the conversation for a mix of sexy, spicy, and slightly uncomfortable questions intended to crack us open and connect us all. If you have an inquiry or topic you’d like Jordan and J.T. to dig into, please sen...

Jordan and J.T. could not shake the idea that the alleged "end" of a relationship could be DIVORGASMIC, so they invited the Coach who coined the word to learn more. From the adjustment of being re-singled to giving yourself permission to seek joy, how can we better love and support each other in times of transition? Karen McNenny, The Good Divorce Coach™, is changing the way families navigate divo...

From fun-haters to play-daters, when did we stop prioritizing delight? Is it irresponsible for adults to play, or is fun essential for a fulfilling life? No idea what fun means to you anymore? You are not alone! Join the conversation to discover: - The elements of True Fun : playfulness, connection, & flow - When did fun start to feel more like a luxury than a birthright? - Know thyself : how...

WOW! Buckle up, Love Ninjas, because Dr. Adam Dorsay is in the house! Silicon Valley's licensed psychologist, executive coach, author, and podcast host delivers mic-drop insights from his book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection & Live the Life You Love. This book changes the game. Join Jordan and J.T. as they dig into connection with the author himself. From his high...

What is emotional infidelity , and who defines the line? Is it cheating, or are you just insecure? From a work spouse's special privileges to reconnecting with an old flame, Jordan and J.T. explore deep emotional connections outside the primary relationship . Join the conversation to discover: - Micro-cheating: emotional affairs that begin as platonic friendships - No physical contact necessary; i...

For anyone who has been told you should be grateful at exactly the wrong time, this episode is for you! For anyone tired of living a fear-driven life, this is the place! Could gratitude be the secret to lasting happiness, a gateway drug to growth? While Jordan and J.T. aren't making any promises, they are more than willing to flesh out the magnitude of gratitude. Join the conversation to discover:...

Whoa! If you are unfamiliar with the concept of near enemies , you are not alone. Dr. Brené Brown strikes again! With a dose of Buddhist philosophy and Jordan and J.T.'s boundless curiosity, prepare to discover how these imposters can sabotage our goals. - Near enemies: subtle concepts that feel so close to our aim or goal that we may not recognize them as enemies. Near enemies make us think we ar...

S3 Ep1: Spite: The Power to Motivate or Muck It All Up The petty desire to hurt, annoy, or offend someone else - spite is uniquely human. While spite is often considered vengeful, malicious, and desperate, if harnessed correctly, spite can also be one hell of a motivator. Join Jordan & J.T. as they explore the power of spite from social justice and spite architecture to karma and the influence...

Jordan and J.T. wrap up Season 2 talking TRAVEL! Forty episodes of Let's Dig into That ...so it's about damn time! From a relaxing reset to extreme adventure, travel can heal and transform. Travel can also threaten your bank account, your relationship, and your intestines. Jordan and J.T. explore the unexpected benefits of stepping out of our routine and practicing flexibility on the go. Join the...

From trust in relation to self-love to building trust within a group, Jordan and J.T. break down the T-word to better understand what happens when we risk sharing something important, making ourselves vulnerable to someone else's actions. In this episode, discover: - Are some people more naturally inclined to trust ? - Human disposition toward trust: the duality of trust and fear - Dr. Brené Brown...

Sure, we've heard nobody’s perfect , but what if we stopped seeing our flaws as roadblocks and started seeing them as our edge? Jordan and J.T. explore the idea that perceived weaknesses often evolve into strengths. What if we all started feeling flawed and fabulous? Join Jordan and J.T. as they dig in to discover: - Why markers and metrics don't tell the whole story - How recognizing unconvention...

Love Ninjas, please welcome our SPECIAL GUEST, Jordan's adult bestie: Rachel Steiker, better known as STEIK! Rachel and Jordan have been through some stuff - some big stuff. From meeting in the dorms as college freshman - Jordan with her DIY perm and Steik sporting an eyebrow ring - to IVF injections in the California desert, twenty-three years is a long time to actively, intentionally, truthfully...

Big topic. Tiny couch. Change is tricky. From a change in dinner plans to a systemic overhaul, we cannot escape the inevitability of change. Jordan and J.T. want to improve their adaptability skills and, if possible, their emotional reactions. Can we ever adjust to the tension between comfort and growth? Join the conversation to uncover how change might be opportunity playing hard to get. - Fear,...

The Joneses you idolize, the envy-hungry pursuit you somehow initiated... NEWSFLASH: The Joneses are bunk...rubbish, bollocks. They will always be willing to spend more than you (or at least incur more debt). They'll lie to you on social media with their high-production snapshots, tempting you with admiration. You have turned their perfection into your life's mission. Pause. Take stock. If you mea...