Legally Clueless

In this Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the characters children often adopt in dysfunctional families, the hero, the clown, the scapegoat, the lost child. These roles may have kept us safe as children, but they can trap us as adults, shaping our relationships, our sense of self, and even how we love. This episode dives into: What family dysfunction creates these childhood roles. The most common ch...

This is Episode 340 of the Legally Clueless Podcast! We’re sharing the first part of Petronilla Njoki’s powerful story. From growing up in a single-parent household, navigating tough teenage years, and later stepping into motherhood, Petronilla opens up about the challenges she faced, including a traumatic delivery and the emotional rollercoaster of caring for her firstborn through serious health...

In this bold episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with author and mother of four, Felgonah Oya, who shares her powerful story of getting divorced at 31 with four young children. Felgonah opens up about: Walking away from a marriage despite family and societal pressure. The shocking reactions she faced from friends and relatives. The long, messy, expensive reality of divorce in Kenya....

In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle dives into one of the hardest truths about healing: sometimes, the people who hurt us never apologize. We’ll talk about: Why not receiving an apology can trigger anger, sadness, or even self-doubt How waiting for an apology keeps us stuck in the pain Practical ways to start healing on your own terms Why closure is something you can create for you...

In this week’s episode, we hear from Christine, a mother whose journey of raising two daughters with rare diseases shifted her life from corporate boardrooms to building a powerful advocacy movement. Key themes in this episode: Parenting through disability and rare diseases in Kenya. Why community and support matter more than money. How inclusion truly begins at home. Turning personal challenges i...

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Mwanga, Senior Associate at Alakonya Law, to unpack the legal truths every woman needs to know, but often isn’t told. We go deep into: Why wills aren’t always the safest option, and why trusts might protect your loved ones better How to safeguard your children and yourself if your spouse passes away The legal steps to take imm...

This week’s episode is deeply personal, I’m sitting down with my therapist and dear friend, Faith Guchu, who will also be the guest speaker at our upcoming Wellness Talk on August 30th at 10AM EAT (Virtual). Faith has been instrumental in my own healing journey. In this candid conversation, we unpack: Why healthy boundaries with family can be so hard to build and how to start. The guilt, fear, and...

In this episode of Legally Clueless, you’ll meet Rachel Lubanga, the eighth born in her family, born with albinism, and raised in Kakamega, Kenya. Rachel opens up about her journey through special and regular schooling, the stigma and myths she’s had to navigate, the mental health challenges that followed, and the bold ways she has advocated for herself and others. This episode also connects to th...

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Barbara Malowa, senior partner at Alakona Law and the lawyer who supported Adelle through her own divorce. Together, they unpack the legal truths that every woman should know about marriage and divorce in Kenya.  From understanding the marriage contract, property rights, and parental responsibility, to navigating divorce...

This week’s Midweek Tease is all about building healthy boundaries with the people we love most, family and close friends. Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, especially when guilt, cultural expectations, and old family patterns are involved. But the truth is: boundaries are essential for your mental health and for healthier, more respectful relationships. In this episode: 💛 Why b...

In Episode 337 of the Legally Clueless podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Karima’s powerful story. In Part 1, she took us through her childhood growing up in the Akorino church, obedience as an expectation, ridicule in school, and her quiet acts of resistance. Now in Part 2, Karima shares her adulthood: her marriage, her decision to walk away, and why in 2025 she removed her turban, a bold step i...

This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle is joined by certified fitness & nutrition coach Michelle Adagala to unpack the myths, mistakes, and truths about women’s health, fat loss, and muscle building. Michelle breaks down why the scale isn’t your biggest marker of success, the role of muscle in long-term health, and why strength training is essential for every woman, at every age. In this ep...

In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle unpacks a quiet fear so many of us carry: the fear of being seen trying. She explores how cultural conditioning, perfectionism, and comparison keep us hiding our first attempts. And she shares practical steps and resources to help you overcome this fear, so you can live a fuller, braver life. You’ll learn: ✨ Why the fear of being seen runs so de...

In this episode, we begin Part 1 of a gripping, bold, and deeply personal story from Karima, who was born into the Akorino faith, wrapped in a turban from infancy, and told her life must be governed by obedience. But what happens when obedience comes at the cost of selfhood? Karima shares the emotional, spiritual, and social weight of growing up Akorino: the mocking stares, the silence she was for...

This week on For Mannerless Women , Adelle is joined by body talk practitioner Janet in a deeply revealing conversation about how our bodies store unprocessed emotions, trauma, and grief, and how that silence can manifest into chronic illness. Janet shares powerful truths about the innate intelligence of the body and how we’ve been socialized to disconnect from it. This episode isn’t just about a...

In this episode, Adelle Onyango unpacks what real community looks and feels like, far from the loud, performative, and inherited ideas we’ve been socialized into. She speaks candidly about the power of chosen family, the quiet loneliness of being surrounded but unseen, and the importance of intentionally building a nourishing support system. You'll learn: What makes authentic community so hard to...

In this episode, you’ll hear a story that holds deep loss, raw honesty, unexpected pivots, and the powerful role community plays in our healing. Grace Wanjiku, shares her incredible journey, from sacrificing her education as a firstborn, to navigating grief after losing her brother, to reaching a breaking point with depression that almost cost her life. Through it all, Grace’s story reminds us tha...

In this deeply affirming episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits with board-certified psychiatrist Dr. Vundi, known as The Women’s Psychiatrist, to unpack how our hormonal phases shape our mental health. Together, they dismantle the shame, silence, and stigma around PMS, PMDD, postpartum depression, perimenopause, and more. Dr. Vundi brings her powerful combination of lived experience...

The Midweek Tease — A Legally Clueless Africa Production In this episode, Adelle Onyango, unpacks what it truly means to decenter men. She reflects on how this journey began in the quiet spaces of therapy and not with a bold Instagram caption and how she continues unlearning societal conditioning that told her she needed to be chosen to be worthy. If you’ve ever caught yourself performing for appr...

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Mary, her first friend in Limuru and one of the most inspiring women she’s had the joy to learn from. At 60, Mary returned to Kenya after decades abroad and chose to begin again. With no farming background and plenty of doubt, she used YouTube and sheer curiosity to learn banana farming and today, she runs a thriving farm and p...

In this episode Adelle shares 5 reflections that have stayed with her since her conversation with Felgonah on For Mannerless Women. They spoke about self-trust, softness as resistance, sacred grief, and becoming a woman who no longer asks for permission. But this episode isn’t just about her story, it’s about what her courage awakened in Adelle. If you're navigating your own unlearning… if you're...

In this powerful episode of Legally Clueless, Wairimu, who takes us on her journey of discovery, unlocking that her brain works differently than she was taught to believe. In Part 2 of her story, she unpacks visiting a therapist, pschiatrist and what coping tools work for her 🔗 Resources & Links: Connect with Wairimu here: https://linktr.ee/wairimundungu https://www.instagram.com/wairimundung...

Welcome back to For Mannerless Women, the podcast creating a bold, shame-free space for African women to meet their most free selves.  In this deeply vulnerable episode, Adelle sits down with counseling psychologist Daisy Kindi to unpack how childhood trauma still whispers in our adult relationships, from who we’re drawn to, to how we react in love. They explore: What really qualifies as chil...

In this episode, Adelle shares a deeply personal milestone — 1 year of sobriety . No dramatic rock bottom. No intervention. Just a conscious decision to start honouring her body by removing what no longer served her — alcohol. She opens up about: Why she decided to quit drinking The unexpected shifts she’s experienced in her body, mind, and relationships Her biggest lessons from this year of clari...

In this powerful episode of Legally Clueless, Adelle shares her raw and emotional experience at the June 25th protests in Kenya, a moment that reminded her of the urgency of using our voices, the strength of collective resistance, and the humanity behind the headlines.  Also in this episode, we meet Wairimu, who takes us on the beginning of her journey of discovery, unlocking that her brain w...