Leaving Toxic

In a world where we're constantly celebrating cultural diversity, it's high time we address the not-so-great aspects that sometimes come along for the ride. Shweta Ramakumar joins me as the guest of this episode to discuss how she dealt with this in her own Southern Asian culture. Shweta is a proud childfree millennial business owner who embraces her individuality in this world and speaks...

This episode is from my Tuesday 9/12 live stream. In case you missed it, here it is! In this discussion I went over the problem with using narcissism as a means to figure out an unhealthy relationship.  I also revealed how I have participated in feeding the “narcissist machine” myself until I came to the realization that it didn’t fit my ethics and integrity as a business owner.  Lastly, I discuss...

was inspired by a Psychology Today article titled "4 Psychology Concepts Most People Get Wrong." It hit the nail on head in terms of my pet peeves... The four terms the article points out that are over-used and incorrectly used are gaslighting, toxic, triggered, and narcissist. that they're trendy to say, even in a joking manner. Tune in to find out how you may have been using them i...

Sometimes interviews of mine that take place on other podcasts are ultra valuable and dynamic -- and this is one of them. Therefore, I decided to share it with you here. This episode features Lauren Best, Certified Hypnotherapist as a host on her podcast, Provoking Possibilities. Lauren is interested in bringing more balance, fun, and ease to people’s lives. She shares guided visualization exercis...

This episode is now one of my favorites recorded thus far. It is record in audio only to keep some privacy at Katherine's request (so for Spotify listeners, no video episode this time). This story and the insights within it are POWERFUL, no exaggeration. There will be something in it for most anyone who listens. We touch on the dynamics of abuse, grieving, parenting, childhood trauma, substanc...

Have you felt abandoned by an ex, a friend, or a workplace? This episode is for YOU. I'm comin' in hot with some truth that may not sit well -- but it also may set you free. As you know, I'm about SOLUTIONS. This podcast is here not to commiserate, but to liberate. If you've ever dealt with feelings of abandonment, strap in and give this one a listen. >>By the way: In celebra...

In this episode full of mania, hysteria, and full-on mental instability -- I read and respond to some of the disagreements I've received from the Internet over the Jonah Hill texts. (Hopefully you caught the sarcasm in that sentence.) I'll discuss (again!) what boundaries are and why the definition of them IS in fact black and white, while the execution of them isn't. These responses a...

Yikes. I did act a little bit like Jonah Hill did with his ex. In this eye-opening episode, I'll explore a lesser-known aspect that demands our attention and understanding: the emergence of controlling and toxic behaviors as a victim of abuse. We will confront the hard truth that...occasionally, those who are victims can inadvertently turn to many unhealthy and yes -- even abusive, behaviors....

In this spontaneously recorded episode, I dive into the recent drama of publicized texts between celebrity Jonah Hill and professional surfer Sarah Brady (who are now exes). If you think you know what boundaries are, you may want to listen to this episode just to make sure. I'll get into the nitty gritty of what boundaries truly are and how they can be weaponized in relationships. The text mes...

What is love? (Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.) Couldn't resist putting the lyrics of the 90's song as I envisioned scenes from ' Night at The Roxbury .' My guest today is Jackson Goding, Founder and psychotherapist at Find Reason Therapy Based in Sydney, Australia.  Jackson supports his clients to understand themselves and start to thrive in their connection wi...

On this episode I talk with my personal mentor and friend Lydia Lee, the Work Reinvention Coach & Solopreneur Strategist at Screw The Cubicle. Since 2013, Lydia Lee has helped hundreds of people transition out of the golden corporate handcuffs, develop successful self-employment strategies, and reinvent how they want to work so that they can live the lifestyles they want to have. Most importan...

Through the healing process your views on what's attractive will evolve. What you thought was a sign of love and devotion could be flipped on its head entirely, leaving you believing the polar opposite. This is what happened with me, anyway. In this episode I discuss behaviors I now find attractive after leaving a toxic and abusive relationship. You may notice you engage in some of the unhealt...

Moving on from an abusive or narcissistic relationship can be one of the hardest things you ever do. That's why I invited Kyle Miller to the show. Kyle is a Certified Life Coach with the Life Coach School who specializes in helping others heal from narcissistic abuse. He was in an abusive relationship himself for almost 14 years and now uses that experience to support his clients. Learning abo...

In this episode I had the pleasure of speaking with artist Lyriq, whose song "Deep Depression" has been blowing up all over social media. When I heard the song just a few weeks ago, I became an instant fan and reached out to have him on. Lyriq is currently 32 years old but has been making music since the age of 16 while facing many obstacles, including getting shot and the death of his m...

Maybe you've been trying to get over or let go of a significant relationship. Maybe you're changing careers or trying to find one. Maybe you're committing to a healthy lifestyle. You've been working on changing yourself, healing yourself, and reinventing yourself... and you're exhausted. New sh*t is hard. You're going to feel like giving up when it gets tough. Whatever it i...

Sometimes the root of what you are afraid of is a FEELING... and how this can lead to your ultimate liberation. All of my clients (and myself) have struggled to make decisions in fear of a particular emotions or cluster of emotions that may arise in response to making that decision. Sometimes yes, there are other consequences outside of what emotions we could feel that could happen. I'm not ta...

In this episode I use a method called "Inversion Thinking" to reverse engineer a solution by thinking what caused the problem first. This is a great way to use our brains since we tend to look for the negative more naturally. Here I'll introduce 16 ways you can ensure that you stay stuck and miserable, then reverse them -- giving you the solutions to avoid misery. Let me know if you&...

Do you have trouble accepting where you are in life? Our existence is filled with twists and turns, successes and failures, and unexpected detours. That's a guarantee. Most, if not every single one of my clients -- struggle to accept their reality and current circumstances. I've been there myself, and sometimes I still find myself there. Listen in as I discuss the power of accepting the re...

In this very first episode of Leaving Toxic, we'll be diving into cognitive dissonance . Discover how conflicting beliefs, attitudes, or behaviors create a sense of discomfort and disharmony within us, affecting our decision-making and overall well-being. From personal relationships to work dilemmas, I'll shed light on the dissonance experienced and the impact it has on our thoughts, emoti...

What was once The People Pleaser Podcast is now ' Leaving Toxic ' - a place where we discuss all things toxic, AND how to leave it behind. When we discuss leaving toxic, we don't just mean people (but we DO mean people too), but we mean mindsets, habits, workplaces, and more. It's a little bit science, a little bit philosophy, and a whole lot of REAL. Life isn't easy. It wasn&#...

Welcome to the first edition of #storytime where I tell a personal story of mine relating to people pleasing, codependency, or relationships.    This share was one of the more memorable and hilarious moments of caregiving for my grandparents, ocurring in July of 2021. Don't get me wrong, this was also sad and indicative of my grandmother's decline in health. But if you have been a caregi...

There is a lot of misinformation I see about codependency! In this episode I clear it up by defining what codependency is and why it is impossible to be codependent in a GENERAL way. Additionally, I provide a real life example from my own experience dating someone who struggled with drug addiction.  Let me know in the comments if you have struggled with codependency or know someone who might...

In this first installment of #AskTully, a series where I answer your questions related to people pleasing, codependency, and relationships by making an episode out of it.  Today’s question I answer is: Should I Forgive My Abuser?  In this episode, I address the dynamics of abuse such as intermittent reinforcement, the journey of carrying and processing trauma, and my personal beliefs abo...

In this first episode, Tully defines what people pleasing is and shares examples of what it looks like in everyday life.  Find out if you exhibit any of these by listening to this foundational episode. Have you noticed any of these behaviors shows up in your own life or the lives of people you know? Share them in the comments!  Are you ready to give less Fs about them and way more about...