Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!

BBK Bookstore is here In this episode, Amy talks about how to explain how a vagina should smell. Great article on vaginal smells The Body Drama Book has great info about female bodies and more - including a bunch of photographs of different vulvas! Resources My new book!  Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It  is all scripts and some tips! Sign up for my news letter and get helpful  7...

Do you remember all those terms that got tossed about? Did you know what they meant?   Your kids will hear sexual slang for private body parts and sex acts and you need to be ready to explain them, or, even better, tell them what they are before they ask. Autistic, ADHD, and other neurotypical kids need to know these words and phrases because they are more likely to be confused and say them at the...

It's a tossed salad of questions from parents: periods, gayness, and circumcision. I was a little out of whack, so be patient as you listen/watch. Zoom changed something (where's the f-ing pause recording button?!!!), and I was malnourished.    Stuff I mentioned:  Celebrate Your Body (and Its Changes, Too!): The Ultimate Puberty Book for Girls Celebrate Your Body (Book Two) The Girl's Body Book Un...

In this replay episode, I talk about how to explain intersex people to your kid. RESOURCES What is Intersex? What's it like to be intersex?  Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergen t . Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover. Watch here: All Kids Episode on YouTube ND Kids Episode on YouTube Got some thoughts or ques...

  Lots of parents wonder if they should put their teen on birth control. There are pros and cons, and in my mind, it's mainly pros. Teens have sex without planning for it all the time.  It "just happens", remember? When your teen is on birth control before they need it, it's a good thing. It can make their periods easier and prevent an unplanned pregnancy.    At the very least, they should have ea...

Many parents of autistic, ADHD, and otherwise neurodivergent kids wonder if it's okay to put their kids on birth control. This is a "yes and maybe" for me. They often think their child is "too young" due to their developmental level, but their bodies can be ahead of their brains. This can put them at risk for being taken advantage of or making impulsive decisions.   At the very least, they should...

Crushes can be extra confusing for ND kids. There's physical, social, and emotional stuff that goes on that can be a bit mystifying.   Feelings in their bodies, misunderstanding chatter about who's crushing on whom (#grammar police), and trying to figure out how they fit into all this can be tough.   Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodive...

Crushes can be soooo painful! And fun! And confusing! All the things. I've been a terminal crusher my entire life, so, for better or worse, I'm kind of an expert.   Explaining them can be a little tough because crushes are amorphous in just about every way. Hope this helps!   Why your kid's crush should be taken seriously . I'm featured in this CNN article from 2022. I totally forgot about it.   W...

In this replay episode, I give you scripts to explain polyamory to your kid. Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent . Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover.  Watch here: All Kids Episode on YouTube ND Kids Episode on YouTube Got some thoughts or questions? Amy@BirdsAndBeesAndKid.com Learn more! BirdsAndBeesAndKid...

In this replay episode, I explain how to talk to kids about erections. Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent . Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover. Watch here: All Kids Episode on YouTube ND Kids Episode on YouTube Got some thoughts or questions? Amy@BirdsAndBeesAndKid.com LEARN MORE BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com Se...

Often, neurodivergent kids struggle to understand why people would have sex for pleasure. This may be due to sensory issues, disinterest, or the assumption by adults that they aren't (and won't ) be interested, so don't need to know this.   It's best to assume your kid will be interested in sex and relationships so that they can have a healthy and fun sex life - if they want one.   Your next step?...

The main reason we have sex is for pleasure! Learn how to talk with kids about sex for pleasure so you don't freak out, and they don't either. Much.  This is a tough one for most parents, so start small, keep it chill, and get it done. Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent Watch here: All Kids Episode on YouTube ND Kids Episode on Y...

How to talk to young kids about sexually transmitted infections without freaking them out. Or being crazy uncomfortable.  What are STDs? From Planned Parenthood   The Birds & Bees & Kids Bookstore  is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It  is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My  YouTube channel  is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexua...

Mom needs some guidance as her teen starts a relationship! She has questions about setting clear house rules around things like bedroom doors and sleepovers. Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent   LEARN MORE Watch here: All Kids Episode on YouTube ND Kids Episode on YouTube Got some thoughts or questions? Amy@BirdsAndBeesAndKid.com...

Worried about your child masturbating? Every kid discovers their body, and every parent wonders what to do about it. The good news? You can handle this without freaking out, shutting it down, or over-explaining. Neurodivergent kids may touch their privates to stim, when they are anxious or just because it feels good. They often struggle with public/private and this can make parents crazy. Here's s...

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I'll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 In this episode, I talk about the word 'slut'. List of sexual slang terms from Bark BBK Bookstore   is here. Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent   LEARN MORE Watch here: All Kids Episode on YouTube ND Kids Episode on YouTube G...

In this episode, I explains grooming - how to spot it and what to do about it. Consent Parenting is the place for you if you were sexually abused as a child.  Savvy Parents Safe Kids has up-to-date tips too help you spot trouble. There's a lot of helpful info here about this from the Australian government Practice Kit for Child Sexual Abuse (this is for folks who work with kids).  Other resources...

The holidays can be extra tough for autistic, ADHD and other neurodivergent kids—new people, touchy relatives, and lots of noise. In this episode, I share simple, concrete ways to help ND kids keep their boundaries and stay comfortable. You'll learn: – How to prep ND kids for hugs and touch expectations – What language makes boundaries crystal clear – How to support them when family doesn't get it...

Holiday gatherings can make body boundaries a mess. Here's how to help kids handle hugs, high-energy relatives, and "say-hi" moments with confidence and respect. You'll learn: – What to teach kids about saying "no" politely – How to prep family for your boundary rules – Ways to model consent during the holidays Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical...

When you stop talking, your connection with your kids will get better. And you will FEEL better because all that yapping takes a ton of energy.  Watch here: All Kids Episode on YouTube ND Kids Episode on YouTube Got some thoughts or questions? Amy@BirdsAndBeesAndKid.com Learn more! BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com 30-minute Quickie Consultation Get clarity fast with a focused 30-minute session on your most...

Masturbation freaks parents out—but it doesn't have to. In this quick episode, I explain what kids need to know, what's normal, and how to talk about it without making it weird. You'll learn: – What to say when you catch your kid exploring their body – How to keep the conversation calm and matter-of-fact – Why this is a healthy part of growing up Next step: Watch here: All Kids Episode on YouTube...

Puberty can be confusing and overwhelming for autistic, ADHD and other neurodivergent kids. Periods can be scary and boners can be uncomfortable and embarrassing. I'll show you how to make it clear, concrete, and easier to handle. You'll learn: – How to talk about these two things without making it awkward (for you or your ND kid) – What neurodivergent kids need to know to help them navigate boner...

Puberty doesn't have to be weird or awful, for you or your kid. In this short episode, I walk you through what to say about the coming changes, how to handle questions about boners and periods, and how to make sure your kid feels normal. You'll learn: – How to talk about puberty without turning beet red – What kids really need to know (and when) – How to make conversations about periods and erecti...

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This episode's notes! Amaze video: How to Use Condoms Effectively A Brief Guide to Choosing the Right Size Condom Unite Against Banned Books How to Talk About Book Bans with Friends, Library Patrons, and More: Book Censorship News BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It  is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My  YouTube channel  is full of videos for you to...