Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

I want to take a moment to share some personal updates with you. As my husband undergoes cancer treatment, I’ve made the decision to replay some powerful past episodes of the podcast that I believe are just as relevant and impactful today. One of those episodes is a conversation I had with Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In our talk,...

We are revisiting Episode 388 - and it's a good one! I’m breaking down 4 powerful steps to build trust and connection—even when your teen shuts you out. This isn’t a behavior problem—it’s a relationship one. You’ll reflect on your own reactions, learn how to truly listen, and show up in ways your teen can trust. Let’s get real, get honest, and rebuild connection—together. For show notes and more g...

This episode is a dive deep into the concept of mistaken goals in parenting teens, exploring how our kids' challenging behaviors are often rooted in unmet needs like attention, power, revenge, assumed inadequacy, and excitement-seeking. I break down each mistaken goal, sharing how parents can recognize the hidden messages behind their teen’s actions and respond with empathy, connection, and positi...

Back again with a follow up replay - this episode was recorded the same week as my show with Dr. Bryson (the one revisited in eps 572). I loved the convo so much I was inspired to go deeper into trusting our teen’s development. This show goes into what is happening in the teen brain and how to work WITH our kids to promote relationship and autonomy over time. Enjoy! Find more info and show notes a...

Ready to launch your teen with confidence? Revisit this episode featuring Dr. Tina Bryson! As an acclaimed parenting expert, Dr. Bryson dives deep into how to support your teen without falling into fear-based parenting. Discover why worrying less can actually help your teen thrive, how to strike the perfect balance between support and independence, and why allowing mistakes is crucial for your tee...

In this week's episode, I dive into the mistaken goals of power and revenge, exploring how kids' behaviors often reflect deeper beliefs about belonging, safety, and significance. I share raw personal stories about my own children, highlighting how misinterpreting their actions led to disconnection—and how shifting from reactivity to curiosity transformed our relationships. This conversation challe...

In this episode of the Joyful Courage Podcast, I dive into chapters 10 and 11 of Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott. I explore what the chapters share about building strong relationships with teens, prioritizing life skills over punishment, and creating supportive structures. I also share practical strategies for managing teen tech use while balancing connection and bou...

In today’s solo show, I’m inviting you to rethink your assumptions about your teen’s behavior. When we believe our kids are doing the best they can — and realize only they can solve their own problems — everything shifts. I share powerful tools for staying curious, building empathy, and letting go of control. Want deeper connection with your teen? Listen now and discover new parenting insights tha...

In Episode 568, I dive into Part 3 of Positive Discipline for Teens, exploring family meetings, special time, and the difference between empowering and enabling teens. I share real stories, powerful parenting shifts, and practical strategies to build connection, trust, and resilience. If you're ready to stay curious when furious comes first, nurture independence, and create a thriving family dynam...

It's time to revisit mental spring cleaning! If you're a parent feeling overwhelmed, disconnected from your teen, or caught in the trap of perfectionism, you need to listen to this powerful podcast. We dive into the real struggles of parenting, emotional health, and how to stop living in self-judgment. Learn how to respond instead of react, reconnect with yourself, and model emotional intelligence...

I hope you’ll tune in this week as I highlight chapters 4, 5, and 6 of Positive Discipline for Teens by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott. These chapters dig into powerful mindset shifts around mistakes, motivation, and communication—areas where so many of us Gen X parents were shaped differently. When stress hits, it's easy to default to what we know. But there’s a different way. Let’s explore how connec...

In this episode, we explore long-term parenting goals and how to parent teens with clarity, compassion, and confidence. Instead of getting stuck in daily power struggles, we’ll zoom out and focus on raising emotionally healthy, self-sufficient young adults. Learn how to let go of control, build connection, and trust your teen’s growth process. This is the episode for you if you’re looking for pare...

In this episode, I’m sharing my thoughts and insights on the first three chapters of Positive Discipline for Teens by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott. We are focusing on the transition into adolescence - It’s not about rebellion or bad behavior; it’s brain development, identity, and change. I’ll share real stories and insights to help you recognize the signs and feel more confident parenting your te...

So much is calling for acceptance right now — in our lives and in parenting — and it can feel really hard. In this episode, I explore the difference between resistance, passive acceptance, and active acceptance — the powerful, grounded path that helps us stay connected, calm, and intentional with our kids. I’ll walk you through six practical steps to shift out of emotional reactivity and into comp...

As parents, we must stay engaged in our teens' world—especially when it comes to online influences. In this episode, I dive into the powerful Netflix series Adolescence, exploring themes of teen isolation, cyberbullying, and the dangerous pull of toxic masculinity. We'll discuss how to help our boys navigate these challenges with curiosity, open conversations, and Positive Discipline. Join me as w...

If you're navigating the challenges of parenting a teen (aren't we all??), this episode is for you. I share powerful insights from parents who have faced tough moments and come out stronger, reminding us that our kids are resilient, and so are we. Through real stories and practical tools like the "Three Bs" (Breath, Body, Balcony), I explore how to stay present, regulate emotions, and support our...

In this anniversary episode, I celebrate 10 years of the Joyful Courage Podcast, a show that has been dedicated to inspiring and encouraging parents as they navigate the parenting journey. As a positive discipline trainer and conscious parenting advocate, I reflect on the podcast's evolution and highlight key moments and episodes that have made an impact. From interviews with experts like Dr. Tina...

Hey parents—this episode is a must-listen. I share a powerful conversation that reminded me of the real work of parenting teens: not making it worse. Our kids are going through huge growth, and we often react to just the "tip of the iceberg." I unpack what’s really going on underneath, how to handle big mistakes with kindness and firmness, and how to stay connected without falling into control or...

My guest today is Patrick Ney, here to explain the neuroscience behind some adolescent behaviors. Patrick shares about self-determination theory and our 3 universal psychological needs. We dig into the personal growth and rewriting the narratives we’ve told ourselves about the way we were parented.  Lastly, Patrick shares actionable steps & advice for helpful communication with your unregulated te...

Raising teens is messy—and that's okay! In this episode, I dive into the book Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen, sharing how you can stay connected, set boundaries, and foster independence during these challenging years. I talk about how brain development, social-emotional growth, and individuation shape your teen’s behavior—and why nurturing a strong relationship is key. Whether yo...

My guest today is Will Kirsop, and he’s here to talk about helping teens discover their purpose, uncover their gifts, and support them in cultivating lives they will look forward to. Will shares the four stages of life crafting he goes through with adolescents and shares his “best friend trick” and bowling alley analogy. We touch on encouraging goal setting and personal responsibility, uncovering...

Feeling overwhelmed by parenting teens? Tune into this episode for insights that help you navigate challenges with grace. Discover strategies like cleaning up your side of the dynamic, listening more and judging less, and allowing your teen to take responsibility for their choices. Learn how to build supportive routines, embrace your teen as they are, and let natural consequences teach valuable li...

My guest today is Julietta Skoog, my co-founder and the Early Years Lead here at Sproutable. We’re talking about perfectionism and pressure on high achieving middle schoolers. Julietta and I discuss high achieving kids and the connection between extracurriculars and academics. We compare overachieving and being an efficient student and how much pressure some middle schoolers are under. Julietta sh...

Struggling to connect with your teen? This episode dives deep into the dynamics of parent-teen relationships, exploring how our beliefs and reactions shape the way our kids see us. Learn how to shift from control to connection, create a space of openness, and build trust so your teen feels seen, heard, and understood. If you’ve ever wondered how to maintain influence without pushing your child awa...

My guest today is Jenn Ireland, and we’re talking about the mental health in youth sports, particularly for teen girls. Jenn shares what youth sports culture looks like today and we discuss teens tying their self-worth to athletic performance. Jenn talks about some of the skills she mentors young female athletes about, like countering your inner-critic voice with your inner-coach. We get into the...